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How to look 'expensive' 2

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IkeaGoddess · 10/01/2016 00:41

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Silvertap · 15/01/2016 18:56

Thanks to this thread I've just ironed my shirt, polished my boots and picked out my one diamond necklace to wear on a weekend in London tomorrow!

BeaufortBelle · 15/01/2016 19:19

M&S had icy pink long sleeve tee shirts before Xmas. I bought one for DD.

Have a nice weekend silvertap. Where are you staying?

29redshoes · 15/01/2016 19:50

apple congratulations! I would love to see a pregnancy style thread. Have been following this one with interest but am currently 24 weeks pregnant so will have to delay putting lots of the suggestions into practice...

AppleSetsSail · 15/01/2016 19:53

thanks everyone, I am still kind of working through the shock but that's a different thread entirely. Wink

AppleSetsSail · 15/01/2016 19:54

And I am not fond of teetotaling on a Friday night.

Libitina · 15/01/2016 20:15

How come Italian and French women are so elegant? Is it innate or taught in nursery school???

Samantha28 · 15/01/2016 20:39

A bit late, but I just wanted to congratulate bernard on having the courage to analyse the disastrous family photo . I would just have flicked over it in embarrassment .

I am inspired to be braver next time

BoffinMum · 15/01/2016 21:06

Bunbaker, I didn't start to tear my bread roll until I went to an English boarding school, so you are not alone. Grin

BoffinMum · 15/01/2016 21:08

Let's get MNHQ to negotiate a Kettlewell discount. I am sure we are supposed to be the target market, no? If anyone else would like this tell me and I will report my own post so we can ask them.

DoubleDeClutchMuch · 15/01/2016 21:14

Boffin yes I would definitely like that!!

EmGee · 15/01/2016 21:17

I live in France. I often see women that have 'nailed' the expensive and chic look. I now have kids and often people-watch at the school gate. It is fascinating.

There are certainly some frumpy looking women; not all are chic. But the chic ones certainly look good! These are the things I have noted:

  1. Keep in shape. This is non-negotiable. I go to an ex class and there are women there of 70 odd who are slim/trim and much more flexible than me.
  1. Everything is understated. Less is more. You might see someone wearing a chunky necklace but that will be all. You see a lot of 'delicate' jewellery too - pearl/diamond studs, thin gold chains with a small diamond pendant for example. Looks expensive. And classy.
  1. Last year I noticed a woman at the school gate who had the most lovely summer style. She wore gorgeous dresses, quite basic (maybe very small floral print) but light material, with sleeves but just above the knee length. Not too fitted but not floaty. Looked lovely and comfortable but so chic!! She accessorised with simple, tan strappy leather sandals and a tan slouchy leather bag. Hardly any makeup or jewellery bar studs, thin ankle bracelet (I know, I know) but with her lovely tanned legs and arms, she just looked amazing!!
  1. Lots of well-fitting, tight/skinny jeans (capri style in summer). Of course French women are generally slimmer so they carry the look. No bootcut style. Flat shoes (ballerina pumps, or strappy sandals, canvas plimsoles (e.g. Superga), nice tee shirt, shirt or top, a smartish blazer type/fitted jacket, maybe a scarf (French woman just KNOW how to wear scarves, and I see young girls in my eldest DD's class wearing them the same way so they learn young......). Always a nice leather handbag.
  1. Hairstyles are just...chic. You do see the odd horror though. Wouldn't say the French are into the muted tinted look; tends to be more 'I dye my hair and I want everyone to know it'.

I could go on but I must go to bed! If you haven't read Helena Frith Powel's book 'Two lipsticks and a lover' and 'To hell in high heels' then I recommend them! Amusing to read and a great guide to looking 'French'.

BoffinMum · 15/01/2016 21:24

Grin Mitzy

BoffinMum · 15/01/2016 21:25

EmGee, how do they stay slim (apart from Galois)?

Howdoesironmanwee · 15/01/2016 21:47

Eating real food not processed crap.

storynanny · 15/01/2016 22:22

Libitina, when I was on holiday last year in Italy, I noticed that the most stylish elegant ladies wore straight simple shift dresses just slightly above the knee. All beautifully ironed with minimal jewellery. No casual tee shirt and cropped trousers even for sightseeing.
. It made me dust off my sewing machine, custom fit a simple pattern and make myself a couple of dresses.

polyhymnia · 15/01/2016 23:06

Just to say I'm with Bo and Hygge re ordering. I have learnt something today as I had no idea anyone still said 'What will you have, darling?' in real life as opposed to in a Noel Coward play. And would find that whole attitude patronising and infantilising. But each to their own. Sorry to go off thread again but just so amazed. Will shut up now.

GarlicBake · 16/01/2016 00:40

I really don't think French style has changed in the 40 years since I lived there, so feel qualified to comment. I was a nanny for middle-class French families, all very chic. They are obsessed with their appearance. Utterly rigorous. A 12-year-old girl I looked after had to body-brush every morning with a really hard brush, finish with an ice-cold shower and moisturise all over. People are quite vicious if they see anybody (!) but particularly children slouching, dragging their feet, eating in the street ... very long list of solecisms. Complete strangers would tell me off for my unconventional outfits - this was in central Nice; I've heard folks there are still as rude.

Women talk about how to improve their figure at length, and often. They worry a lot about the right sort of nail varnish, the wrong texture of hair, etc, etc, et bloody cetera. If they've enjoyed a fattening meal they will eat nothing but lettuce and goat's cheese for days afterwards. The men are almost as bad - and also highly critical of any woman not up to scratch.

It's only a different cultural attitude, and I did come back looking chic, but I found it quite oppressive. Effortless elegance seems to come at the price of constantly harsh self-criticism and quite a high level of anxiety.

The chic I came back with was mainly due to a very good haircut and cashmere cast-offs from my 'mesdames' Grin And I learned how to cook properly, which was my main take-away from the French experience! Much prefer the cookery talk to agonising about which type of cellulite I have where, tbh.

Wagglebees · 16/01/2016 01:02
GarlicBake · 16/01/2016 01:06

Grin Waggle. Now that would be absurd! When are you going?

Wagglebees · 16/01/2016 02:57

Haha!

I don't have anything booked don't worry. We did have plans to go this Spring but I'm too ill unfortunately. By the time we do go I'll be fully chic and polished thanks to this thread. So long as they can tolerate my dreadful attempts at French, it'll be fine. Grin

GarlicBake · 16/01/2016 04:01

Oh, I'm sorry you're off form. You will undoubtedly be chic, though :)

princessconsuelabannahammock · 16/01/2016 07:42

So thanks to you lot my uniqlo order has arrived! I am now the proud owner of a blue v neck merino jumper - lovely. A blue and grey checked shirt in a silk- also lovely. Grey cords but too small. A white lambs wool jumper- itchy and a white cotton shirt - the shirt makes me feel like I am wearing my school uniform so I guess I should send it back, its also a bit big, I am guessing it doesn't fit the expensive rules? It is for layering. As I am usually a total scruff bag I feel a bit over dressed as skinny jeans and a striped top it ain't.

When I make more of an effort I tend to feel like I am playing at dressing like a Lady this is esp true with skirts but I am late 30s fgs!! How do I get over this mental block?

Alsobany ideas on how to put those items together, I struggle with making an outfit look finished.

princessconsuelabannahammock · 16/01/2016 07:45

Oh and I have recently dug out my nice jewellery that I save for best and shock horror my iron!!! And make up. Great thread

Longislandicetee · 16/01/2016 08:13

Princess, with what you have, I would go for this look but with smarter jeans. Also works well with boots (both long and ankle).

princessconsuelabannahammock · 16/01/2016 08:23

I have paired my white shirt, blue jumper with dark skinnies, subtle silver jewellery and brown highish boots. I can't wear knee high boots as I have massive calves and they make me look shorter and dump-ier!! Hubby said I looked nice, he never notices what I wear so that's a start! Thanks BLING.

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