Very unexpected funeral to attend.. What to wear?

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A very close friend of my DPs died suddenly in his sleep last night, aged only 31. A tragedy. Totally shell shocked.. so moving swiftly on..

The funeral will probably be on Friday or sat this week, waiting for family to arrive from New Zealand otherwise would have been on Thursday. So very limited time (and am at work all week).

What do you wear to a funeral? I've only been to my dads when i was 18 and wore a navy dress as my mum didn't want us in black.

Is there a sort of dress code to respect? Any faux pas' to keep in mind? I dont think i'll wear heels as i'm not sure of walking distances..

Please help, i'm overwhelmed.

My DP has just called to tell me he will be doing a reading - all the close friends are gathering this afternoon to do it together but no one else felt up to it.
I'd better dust his suit off and take it to the cleaners. It's easy for men!

Had no luck in the trouser department so am not sure now what i'll wear.

vitaminC yes, hundreds of people will probably be there, it's just heart breaking. Hadn't thought about the media.

Sorry, got slightly heavy for Style & Beauty.

Oh Good God. How tragic for all concerned. Many condolences to his poor family and indeed your DH on the untimely passing of his friend. and indeed love and thoughts you. You must have known this man, too.
It makes no sense does it. A perfectly healthy man goes to bed and never wakes up.
What to wear. Just a black dress

You don't have to apologise, of course threads about death get heavy.

I'm glad to hear that your DH will have an opportunity to take part in the funeral - it's an honour to have been asked .

I agree with everyone who says smart and dark . Black not necessary - navy, dark purple , dark grey, dark brown are all fine . Just avoid bright patterns and showing lots of flesh ( unlikely I know as its November and it will be cold ) .

So a Navy coat and dark grey dress is a safer bet than a black leather jacket and black jeans or a black mini skirt . Not saying you would BTW but some people get fixated on black and lose sight of the smart / conservative requirement .

Even if there is request to wear bright colours etc , not everyone will get that message and no one is ever offended by traditional funeral attire .

this time of year you can wear a dark coat

Yes, I totally agree Kr1stina about the smart being more important than the actual colour, of course dark is the way to go.

Shall be hunting/trying on everything i have this evening.

Am so proud he'll be reading, even though he's very nervous.

I may post some photos to check i'm not too far off the mark later on actually, if thats alright.