Any help much appreciated in helping me feel a bit better, I seem to have lost my clothing mojo. I'm 5ft 3, size 8/10 usually but haven't been looking after myself these past couple of months due to some pretty big life events so I'm now trying to lose half a stone and so am more a 10 now. I'm back eating properly and drinking more water etc but I really need some wardrobe help. I don't know where to start, it's like I have certain items but not those bits that seem to pull things together.
I'm a sahm and walk everywhere so need to consider that. I'm 33. I don't wear skirts/dresses and tights, I'm usually more skinny jeans, I like layering and things that are comfortable/laid back. Not saying I wouldn't wear dresses and tights, I do own some dresses but I always feel too dressy in them for day to day. Maybe I just need to ignore that and wear them anyway.
I'd love a pair of girlfriend jeans. I ordered some of the gap ones to try, sized down as recommended. The size 26 was still big and gapey at the back and obv going down further would've just meant the jeans would be even more snug on the legs. I've got a superdry pair on its way but I'd love some recommendations please. I'm currently wearing some top shop boyfriend ones but they're looser than I'd like and I don't feel so nice in them you know? I chuck them on cos I feel crap at the moment but then obv just feel worse.
I used to have a great pair of jeans that were almost skinny but had a more easy fit and were so comfortable. I wore through the knees unfortunately! They were by miss60 but they don't make them anymore. Something similar for days I don't want skinny would be fab.
I need some tops to go over my longer vests - looser types and I have a small chest so I don't like anything plunging etc. Id like to be covered and 'swishy' rather than anything fitted. I had some tops from h+m and don't seem to find they last. I know its getting what you pay for I guess.
I can do £60/70 for jeans and I'm hoping some ideas will point me in the right direction! I think if I can get decent jeans then it'll be easier to slot things together.
I have a nice black blazer type jacket but again it's that layer between this and a vest that I struggle with, then I think I could wear this more often.
Coat - I've mentioned on a coat thread that I like the look of the Hush Michelle coat in camel, and that it might be nice for my frame as so many nice coats swamp me! Anyone have this or can recommend? I don't expect to use it in the depths of winter but thought it might be a good all rounder.
Footwear - I've just ordered a pair of Hudson fop boots that I hoped would go with girlfriend jeans/loose skinnies and aforementioned coat?
I need a good jumper! I've had a few that 'do' and it's just silly. They take up so much room and I hardly use them. I'd like black and charcoal, I don't do a lot of colour tbh. I want one that'll go with all sorts!
Accessories - I think a good warm scarf (liking the hush cashmere one but don't have that kind of money for a one off spend on a scarf) cos I've had cheaper ones but they start to look crap. I'd like a long pendant but I seem to get choice confusion and just give up, there are so many!
Sorry this is pretty big! I think I'm scared of wasting money on bigger purchases when it comes to clothes, that's prob why I've ended up with lots of things but nothing I truly want to wear. My husband was recently diagnosed with cancer and then we moved house and I feel like I've lost myself along the way. When we first found out about Dh I understandably dropped to doing the bare minimum - I was getting washed and dressed but no real effort, no makeup, i couldn't eat for the first week. id like to look a bit better so I can feel a bit better, esp when I can't control what's happening at the moment and I'm pretty scared for the future right now.
I had a big clear out before we moved but I think I could get rid of more stuff now. I didn't have much growing up and so I had a tendency to hoard and 'save for best' anything that I bought that I woukdnt usually have been able to afford eg an allsaints dress. Not pricey for some but is for me. So I think getting rid of all my 'make do' stuff, wearing things I like and getting back to basics is probably key here. I'm booked in to have all my hair lopped off on Monday (it's currently long but ends are bleached and I've also got all the post-baby re growth to contend with so we're going to start afresh) I'm considering a long pixie kind of thing. Hoping I have the features for it.
This has turned into quite a therapy thread! I apologise for the length but huge thanks if you've got this far. Xx