Help me dress for that Difficult Second Date - please!

[WaitingForGodKnows]

Right. Didn't expect to be asking this

Ok, First date, wore brown sweater dress thingy (yes I know, sounds awful, actually quite slinky) with brown suede knee-length boots. Bizarrely, he wants to see me again, this weekend.

We're meeting quite early (around 5-ish) in a painfully trendy area of London and I believe we will be having drinks and dinner (although really I just want to get to the snogging part...)

Do I do the jeans, pumps and funky little top with cool coat bit, or trusty smarter-yet-still-vaguely bohemian dress-and-boots combo (again)? How can I hold my own amongst the haircuts of Hoxton without looking like a complete fool?

What think you, style mavens of Mumsnet?

To be honest if he wants to see you again he wants to see you again. If you look clean, nice, attractive, friendly, a bit sexy, that's all most blokes want I reckon. It helps if you can look confident though and happy in your skin, so maybe you should just concentrate on him rather than the trendy 'types' - you're not on a date with them after all (he's not like them is he? -is he?). I wouldn't re-wear the same outfit, though, I'd go with your first suggestion.

Oh, I wasn't suggesting I wear the same thing again! Just the same type of thing, ie something a bit smarter than my usual uniform of jeans.

what's your style? what would you feel most comfortable in?

god i have no idea!

tell us about him

Oh, you're no bloody good, woman!!

He's an architect, so quite cool but not in a wanky way. He is lovely and I'm sure he probably wouldn't care (too much) what I wore but I like to get myself worked up about these things...

well?? answer the ?'s if you want us to help you!

I just feel a bit mum-frumpy these days and haven't done this dating thing for YEARS

I did - I said jeans, cf

sorry. x posts.
architects are often v stylish in minimalist way. i'd go for simple but stylish if you aim to please

do you have any issy miyake??

Sadly, no. But I do have lots of black. Would that do? With 'statement' jewellery, perhaps?

oooh yes. now you're talking. black but clean simple lines and class piece of jewellry.... what have you got?? if you pop in on way to hoxton will lend you some... am BIG on statement jewellry (last refuge of the fat but unfrumpy!)

sorry. did i scare you wfgk?? come back.

Dh woudl say at this point

" he doesnt gieva toss and w you are spending more time thinking about it than the tiem spent wearing it"

harsh but fair!

oh jeans ffs

the element of surprise

Blimey, cheers cappuccino - I'm not sure 'ffs' is really necessary...

I guess perhaps you've all forgotten what it was like to be excited about this sort of stuff?

jeans with heels, not pumps

i know how you feel im getting excited about going for dinner tomorrow