wedding hat question

[fudgesmummy]

Hi all. Our son is getting married in July. The ceremony is in a Catholic Church and the reception (for 93) is in a large rather nice barn.
I was talking to my soon to be daughter- in-law yesterday about what her mum might be wearing. She said she has said she will defiantly not be wearing a hat and neither will her aunts or nan etc

my question is do you think it would be ok if I wore a hat? I won't get another chance, our daughter is getting married next year in Antigua- just the 2 of them are flying out,no guests or anything. They are planning a very informal party when they return home so there will be no "mother of the bride" thing.
I am wearing a nice black jacket and black and white maxi dress. (I know, black, but I don't feel even remotely comfortable in any other colour) I am very short and very round and hate drawing attention to my self.
Would I stand out too much if I'm wearing a hat and the mother of the bride isn't? I'm not thinking anything mahoosive-just something small.?

Wear a hat if you like! I don't see the problem there. I do think tho if everyone else in the wedding party is wearing weddingy colours (are they?) you will stand out wearing black. Do you have to wear the black?

Just thinking same issue, as my DS also getting married later in the year. Hate wearing hats myself so hoping I may get away without one though think rest of the immediate family will definitely be in hats. If you like wearing one, definitely go for it.

On colour, I'm still planning outfit and waiting for final details of colours for bridesmaids and bride's mother. But I wouldn't feel happy wearing black, as I don't think it's very wedding-y and you may feel a bit isolated, as a PP said. The cut of the jacket also looks a bit severe, but that may be just how it seems on the hanger.

If you love the dress (can't really see it in that shot), is there another colour you could put with it?

Wear a hat if you fancy one
A black hat if you wish !
Can you get some of the patterned fabric like the dress to trim it with ?

I wore a black dress , cream jacket and cream hat to a friends wedding

Channel your Andi McDowell from Four Weddings

Thank you for your replies. The bridesmaid dress colour/flowers etc is apparently yet to be decided (#leavingitabitlate) our son is wearing a rather bright blue suit. I was a little surprised at just how bright when he showed me yesterday

The brides mother is thinking baby blue which is soooooo not my colour! I tried some lighter colour jackets on in the shop and they looked horrid. My dh will be wearing a dark suit. People are used to seeing me in black and I am happy about the outfit just unsure about the hat etequite

The important thing is to feel comfortable I agree.

PS Btw, I'm not planning to match the colour the MOB is wearing, just to have something which complements / doesn't fight with it. I

I expect we'll both end up somewhere along the blue spectrum as we both like if, as does bride. But there's a vast choice of shades within that. I certainly won't be going baby blue either!

Sounds like you will like ds's suit then!

Actually no, afraid I don't like anything other than a good dark navy on men's formal suits!

If you want to wear a hat, wear one!

You will definitely be in the minority, but not in a bad way.

Wear a hat and enjoy it!

If you are mother of the groom then you get to CHOOSE whether to wear a hat.

I believe that if neither of the mothers is wearing a hat, nobody else is "allowed" to.

Ohhhhh the power Trills !!!

I thought re others not wearing a hat, the rule of thumb is that guests cannot remove their hats at the reception until the MoB and MoG have removed theirs!

? not !

Gosh, I'm really hoping the mother of the groom doesn't HAVE to wear one at all!

I was in the same position as you, when my dd got married last year the bg Dm was adamant that she would not be wearing a hat, but I so wanted too, as probably never have the opportunity too wear one again, so I did, & really glad made me feel confident and finished off my outfit perfectly go for it op.

I wore black maxi shift dress with a very much statement jacket in taupe/oyster colour. Silk crepe. Asymmetric and lightweight.. I was M of the groom and the only person with head wear.....which didn't bother me one whit.
So, I was in black and only one with something on my head. Didn't care, it looked fabulous.