help with dd's curly hair please.

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dd1 is 11 and recently her lovely long curly hair has started getting incredibly tangled. It is literally in one massive dreadlock every morning when she gets up. She has always done curly girl so never uses shampoo but washes with conditioner. Her hair looks greasy but frizzy at the same time (which is really hard to picture). After another screaming brushing session she has said she wants to cut it but I knwo she doesnt really as she has been growing it for ages.

Any adive on what we can do to make iit more manageble? If not what would be a good hair cut for curly (not ringletty more wild) hair that isnt just a bob.

A silk pillowcase is great to prevent tangles and frizz in curly hair.

I've curly hair and I would never just use conditioner, Aussie shampoo is the best for me I find most others dry mine out terribly. If she wants to wear it curly, brush before washing or when wet in shower and don't brush after you've rinsed conditioner out, use a hair turban to dry hair, never rub in a towel and work a product through it with fingers not a brush.

If it gets really tangled at night consider sleeping with it in a loose bun or plaited (I do in summer as to hot otherwise). Product wise, invest in a good hair oil and only use a little or it will be greasy. I've friends that love the frizz ease range for serums but personally I get on best with the bed head range (hairdressers tend to sell it) more expensive but lasts ages.

Tigi oatmeal and honey shampoo and also conditioner for dry curly hair is lovely. Sometimes you get it cheap in tk max. Deep conditioner once or twice a week eg John frieda or the Toni and guy hair mask. Finish with a good curl cream like curls rock (get it in salons or tk max) or tonI and guy wave definition cream. I have struggled with thick dry coarse curly hair for the last 30 years and recently discovered amazing shampoo for mixed race hair called 'mixed chicks' at Afro hair shops in London- pricy but has done wonders for my hair tho I'm not mixed race. Anther curly friend swears by coconut oil once or twice a month left over night in damp hair. But definitely also in conjunction with regular shampoos using curly hair products, Aussie is also good as mentioned above. I don't brush between washes.

Tigi Foxy Curls or Hi-Def Curls conditioner (tho not the shampoo) is great and smells of Skittles. I think it's been discontinued but you can usually find it on eBay. Moroccanoil is pricey but good too.

She really needs to start using a shampoo. Especially coming into puberty - conditioner just wont cut it. Does she have time to wash it in the morning? If so, wet it and slather masses of conditioner on and comb the tats out before rinsing the conditipner. Then shampoo. Then when rinsed, a palmfull of conditipner again run through from midsection to tips. Rinse.

Once out of the shower, towel dry most of the wetness til just a bit damp, and run mousse through it.

Oh and never comb or brush it when dry.

You could also Google the Curly Girl method, although I never could get on with the not shampooing part of it. It just left my hair limp and greasy.

Sorry, ignore my last comment. Just seen she already does Curly Girl! But I'd definitely suggest she uses shampoo now.

I have long curly and difficult to manage hair, and the only thing that works for me is shampoo with no sulphate. There are many brands, I use the Naked Let It Shine sulphate free shampoo with the Naked conditioner. One very good way to avoid morning crisis is to brush the hair in the evening with a detangling brush, then spray with water and put the hair in two French plaits, and in the morning you unmake the plaits with the fingers, not with a hair brush. If the hair is very dry you can use some natural, raw coconut oil (only half a teaspoon) before shampoo.

A curl custard or curl creme could be the answer. There are loads of recommendations on the British curlies forum.

Would she countenance a hair cut? Very long curly hair can be difficult to look after. Perhaps a cut that reaches a few inches below the shoulder with some long layers would help?

Wash hair at night, towel dry, don't every brush dry.

I have an angled layered type cut? Very curly hair, natural ringlets. It's angled so shorter at the back, longer at the front and I love it
With hair stuff I use a sulphate free shampoo (from tk maxx) and a silicone free conditioner (also from tk maxx!). I use the shampoo once a week and wash with conditioner the rest of the time

This is now my hair is a tiny bit longer
instagram.com/p/zI7SUdtd0M/

And when it was first cut
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Have you got a Tangle Teezer hair brush? Really good for curly hair. My DD2 has tight corkscrew curls. I always plait it at night and a silk pillowcase lessons frizz.

Perhaps a trim is what's required, sounds like it could be dry/damaged in parts hence the frizzy and greasy appearance.

My dd is also 11 and I have just got on top of her hair in the last couple of years.

She started using shampoo about six months ago, a natural one with no crap in it.

She plaits it before bed.

The thing that has made the biggest difference is a sleep bonnet. You can get them on ebay. They look like shower caps bit they are a satin type fabric. I have now started making them for my dds from silk.

Long layers help to stop tangling too because all hair doesn't end at same place.

Definitely invest in at tangle teezer - its the only thing I can get through my hair, I tried everything even afro combs without success. Tangle teezer glides through without a single tug and it leaves my hair tangle free (previously by the time the brush was at the bottom it was tangled at the top again!)

I use John Freida frizz ease range and it leaves my hair in good condition, I leave to dry naturally

Lots of good advice on here.

DD is mixed race and has long curly hair. She is only primary school age, so I still take care of her hair, but I'm trying to teach her to take care of it herself for the future.

We wash it once a week with a mild shampoo (the Body Shop rainforest one is good, no nasties).

Condition it but rinse out the conditioner (curly girl method doesnt work on her hair at ALL).

Comb out with a tangle teezer when wet, rub a bit of shea butter or coconut oil in the dry ends, then either plait while wet or leave to dry naturally for curls. To be honest, she wears her hair plaited mostly and just has it out for special occasions, as it is much easier to manage. Loads of good tutorials on You Tube if she wants to learn how to braid her own hair.

She sleeps on a 'silk' pillow case and wears a hair wrap/sleep bonnet if her hair isnt plaited.

Trim it regularly, too. Its made a big difference to the tangles.

1. silk or satin pillowcase. Has been a godsend

2. try Palmers co-wash. It's conditioner with a very mild sulfate free shampoo in it. I get mine from Amazon and I love it. Best condition hair ever.

3. try Palmers hair custard. Same range as the co-wash, olive oil I think? Anyway, ditto for best hair ever.

4. Tangle Teezers are good but pricey. I got mine from Home Bargains for £1. I'll glady buy one and post it if you need one!

There is no need to add in a moisture stripping shampoo now I don't think, but a milder one may be ok. Defo get the pillow case though. Hands down best thing ever for maintaining my curls.

I just googled those sleep bonnets. Sexy they ain't!

There's no need to ditch the shampoo using the Curly Girl Method. I asked Mat James when I got my hair cut with him and he prefers to use shampoo.

I have long curly hair and was going to get it cut shorter as it was getting hard to control. After having layers added it is transformed and is easy to manage and I have well defined curls.

Use the pineapple method to keep curls looking good, hair net also works not a good look but maintains curls well. The best gel I have used is Deva it really holds the curls in place.

DDs use tangle teezers. Come in really cute designs like this and is a great investment.

wow lots of great advice, thanks. We have a tangle teaser but funnily enough it soesnt work on dd's har, just doesnt go through it she prefers a paddle brush.

I think I am going to have to step in for a while and help er agin ewith hair care.

Will look into all these amazing sounding products. curl custard you say, sounds delicious. yum