Please help me find the perfect Pixie/Crop.

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Am thinking this year of ditching the dye. Sick of grey regrowth after 3-4 weeks. Seeing my hairdresser this week and going to get her advice on how to transition. May do some platinum - or even grey - highlights to start with and am fully prepared at the right moment to get the chop to avoid the mahoosive badger stripe. My view is I would rather have the pain of growing out short hair than growing out the dye!

My hair is curly and fine. My face is quite square? I think? Whatever shape it is, it looks awful with it all scraped back off my face, so I will need something (fringe wise) over my face when/if I go short - could not do a totally elfin/short-short crop. And then I kind of get stuck. I have attached a very smiley photo to see if you S&B gurus could come up with some suggestions as to what to aim for please...I have spent so long on google images I am going loopy.

about 3 years ago
intrigued

Gah!

Agree about neck and shoulders but still think elegant non jowly face essential

If you have stunning eyes, decent cheekbones and fab skin, then a pixie would work really well - people will be focused on these rather than your imagined imperfections

Now I need an outsider's view please...too jowly?

You look great!

Neither I meant to qualify the "great eyes and skin" with "for a 44 year old". I look at photos of me when I was younger and weep. Youth is utterly wasted on the young. Porcelain skin, wasp waist and not a grey hair to be seen. Did I appreciate it? Did I fuck.

www.refinery29.com/2013/09/53771/garance-dore-haircut

Garance Dore's short hair is beautiful she had long curly hair before the chop.

Nope not a trace of jowlage. You have got lovely cheekbones too.

It will look fabulous on you.

Thanks for posting a pic of me Mil!

Its only my opinion but i am 46 and i think after 30, really cropped short hair can be very ageing and a 'hard' look if you haven't got elfin , waif like nose/chin/features. I googled some hair sites and they all recomended soft waves and jaw length or shoulder length. I like Leoandboosmum's pic of Nicole Richies hair.

My hair is shoulder length slightly layered bob and my hairdresser said it suited my wide square face if that helps when I asked for advice about not looking grannyish and flattering my features.

Thing is, my grey roots and that three-weeks-in-colour fade is also aging. And imho my skin tone has changed so that I think a cooler grey hair colour will actual look better. I would rather keep it long. But I want the dye gone..so to me getting the chop is the least horrific route. It will grow.

Ultimately I am aiming to grow it again, and if I am lucky will get something like this, which I saw on a thread a few weeks back images.teamsugar.com/files/upl2/33/330044/22_2009/e7c6035b0f4ecccf_CARYN.jpg

I always think Tamsin Greig's hair looks great and I think she has naturally wavy/curly hair.
You look great.

Anne Hathaway has lovely short hair. I always take a photo of hers to the hairdressers when I have my hair cut.

You know from the side you can really see your bone structure: your cheekbones are fab.

I see what you mean about the hair colour strategy. Could you try and lighten it overall?, or have downlights put in here and there to lessen the stripe?

Loveliest, prettiest crops are Michelle Wiliams (like AF) and Audrey Tautou (perfect if you have wavy hair). Short hair is so nuanced and you really have to get it right to look sweet-faced instead of frumpy, but both of these are beautiful and gamin.

You made me laugh anyfucker

OK, saw hairdresser today and the pixie is on the backburner. I ideally wanted to stay long but did not think I could and grow in the grey.

We have a plan to ditch the dye - it will maybe take longer and I may end up with the pixie if I get sick of faffing about going lighter each time until (which is the plan). Have played it safe this time (wuss I know) as I have a big family celebration on Sunday. Next time we are putting through some dramatic grey streaks at the front (where my grey/white is most intense) and a few fine streaks across the top. Then we will be gradually lightening the base colour until the regrowth shows through as little as possible (only 30-40% grey atm) so we will play it by ear. Then hopefully we will get t o a point where the badger's stripe is minimal. She may pattern/stagger in the dye to help the transition. She is quite happy with helping ditch the dye and has helped several people go through the pain before - well - making it as pain free as possible. It will not be a quick job - but am hopeful.

If at any point I have enough of the faffing about (patience is not my strong point) or feel too badger stripey, I may just think fuck it, and go in for the chop. I may end up doing this totally on a whim one day. If anyone is interested I will chuck a photo up (even if it is a zombie thread by then) if I ever do it.

Thank you for you assistance. Apologies I have not done the deed but you all have helped me feel very comfortable that it is there as an option for the crop out there.