Party invite..no dress code..what would you wear?

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40th Birthday Party invitation has arrived. Quite a lovely invitation...stylish, clearly expensive and classy. Venue is a stately home weddingy type place.

It is for drinks and dancing - no food.

No dress code.

I don't know anyone else (female) going well enough so cannot ask...

What would you wear? LBD? Jeans and sparkly top? Help!

I only dress up if food is involved.

Either a party dress, or trousers/strappy shoes/nice top.

Jeans (ie the denim variety) might be too casual, so maybe coated jeans or ankle skimmers.

LBD a bit much then? Jeans too little?

Hmmm...may have to rethink my options. Bugger.

What would you say is a "party" dress? god I need to get out more

Def LBD.

I would wear an LBD.

Yes, would wear the lbd. Definitely not jeans!

OK. Jeans out. That is good. Would have felt a bit dodgy/casual going with that option.

Is LBD possibly too much though?

I could get myself sorted with some black trousers with glittery/sequinned top and black jacket. Would that hit the mark?

Last time I saw these people (DH's uni friends - normally is just him and the boys) was 7 years ago for a different 40th. Then I had a party dress on which DD did a poonami all over. No way could wear it so had to do a quick change in the loos. Ended up with me wearing DH's jeans and T-shirt (long story) under a blazer - with a very, very clinched in belt - spent the entire party feeling like an absolute misfit, baggy bottomed, uncomfortable and wanting to crawl into a hole. Everyone was lovely but I just wanted to cry and left as soon as possible.

Kind of just want to "blend" nicely this time round.

Lbd but black tights rather than nude legs

Do you mean opaques? Or...sheer blacks ? I thought sheer blacks were at the top of the list of things not to wear?

I like going to the pub. No confusion there...

Definitely a dress. Definitely not jeans.

I meant opaques

If it's a posh invitation to a fancy venue for drinks and dancing then definitely wear a nice dress. I would say nude tights not black, black tights are more work/casual. The fact that they are obv spending plenty of money on this do suggests more formal dressing than trousers/sparkly top to me.

LBD but plain and slinky with minimal bling and IMO not strapless/prom-style AT ALL.

Sheer tights are back, apparently.

To answer your question I would wear something like this although shoes might be tricky.

What style of dress/clothing suits you?

I have an elegant, simple lbd which makes me feel great. Knee length, cap sleeved, understated but low back so has an element of something to take it from the boring. Think am going with that. Dress is too fine/drapey to go with opaques I think so will do the nudes.

I was hoping not to have to buy anything new dress wise unless utterly necessary (realised that possibly something in between lbd and jeans may have been an easier choice) but rather not have something sitting in my wardrobe worn once. Definitely need to get out more!

everyone. You have talked me into feeling comfortable with wardrobe/packing choice - so can look forward to the party.

Your dress sounds lovely. What accessories/shoes? Clutch bag?