funeral clothes

[starshaker]

I have nothing I can wear. I can't wear trousers so it needs to be a skirt. Im size 22 and nothing looks ok on me. Just wish this wasn't something i was having to deal with right now

Plenty on this site in your size. I like this:

www.evans.co.uk/en/evuk/product/clothing-250468/coats-jackets-250510/evans-grey-animal-ombre-coat-3883378?refinements=Size%7b1%7d~%5b22%5d&bi=1&ps=24

and this is gorgeous:

www.evans.co.uk/en/evuk/product/clothing-250468/coats-jackets-250510/evans-black-metallic-woven-coat-3560338?refinements=Size%7b1%7d~%5b22%5d&bi=1&ps=24

Thank you so much. My head is hurting from crying so much and I just couldnt deal with having to search for something to wear. I really like both the evans coats so will order them and see what suits the dress best.

Now I need to find another outfit for the family service the night before the funeral. I just want this to be over but I have another week before the funeral

it's really really hard-you have my absolute sympathy

do you have to have a special outfit for the family service? can you not waer something you already have? perhaps something you wear for work so it's smart?

I don't work. I live in jeans, leggings and fleeces. I saw a tube skirt posted before so will probably get that with a top.

I spoke with my grandad for the first time since it happened. It was heartbreaking. I have no idea how I will cope

Oh starshaker....it is so hard when you lose someone. My gran died on New Years day many years ago now....it was hard and took my strength from helping organize things but everyone is different. i do miss her now and the gap is still there...that will never go but instead of the tears i now remember the happy times and memories of when she was alive. I also think her death made me reassess my life. It kicked started me on my road to going to uni ....and it made the relationship between me and my mum stronger...so hang in there. xx

I have been to many brethren funerals, If it's open Brethren /Plymouth brethren it will be quick at the graveside because of the cold , just a prayer and a hymn. Most of the mourners will be elderly and not fit to stand for an hour in January weather .

The hymn might be from the believers hymn book and everyone will be expected to know it - there will be no hymn sheets

your clothing doesn't need to be black, just plan, dark and modest . I think the dress will be better than a tube skirt, as they can be short and clingy .

I'm not sure about the customs for Exclusive brethren funerals , I think that only men go to the graveside

Please try not to be so upset star shaker. . I don't know if you share your grandmothers faith, but for her it's far better , she is in a better place with no pain and suffering ( of course that's true even if you can't have any faith ).

The brethren have a very strong community spirit and they will support your grandfather as much as they can. For them , the worst thing is to die without faith and your grandfather will be very comforted to know that his wife is in heaven and reunited with those who have gone before .

Pixie makes a good point about taking strength from the example of your loved one and making positive changes to your life. The best way to honour your gran is to live a better life ( whatever that means to you).