Which of these would you wear to a very posh wedding?

[HahaHarrie]

I have a very formal, traditional wedding this weekend and I still haven't found a dress! I'd prefer something with sleeves given it is November, but I haven't liked any of the lacey sleeved options on offer. Everything seems so fitted and I'm carrying a bit of baby weight around the middle. I'm size 12, 5' 6".

Dress A

Dress B

Dress C

Dress D Something else again!

Once I have the dress then I need to sort out hats, wraps, shoes, bags, etc.!

Dress coats are a bit Jaques Vert for a 40 year old!

There is a beautiful lace skater dress on Anthroplogie.

Wearing black to a wedding seemed to work for Kristin Scott Thomas in Four Weddings and a Funeral.

A is fab, and if it fits well and you like it then Thats the one. Wear with a white furry shrug (I think Coast have some), sparkly statement necklace, black clutch and patent shoes and you're set. Confidence will shine through.

Have a great time!

Buy A. You love it, it suits you and, if this thread is anything to go buy, no one else will have it because its black.
The fur is a great idea. I'd go for dark fur and maybe red shoes and a beaded bag.

I love dress A but not the bolero you posted. I like the due boleros that coast have - they have a light grey one which looks nice?

'Good manners' is a bourgeois preoccupation CheersMedea, not to say suburban and provincial....

OP I wouldn't limit yourself to the dresses in your first post, carry on looking...

I'll go for C

Dress c.

I am an aristo and have worn black to many a wedding. Nobody frowned upon it and believe me should it have been a problem something would definitely have been said!
I like A and C
Cheers are you suggesting that only aristos have 'good manners'

'Good manners' is a bourgeois preoccupation CheersMedea, not to say suburban and provincial

ROFL. Maybe you should let De Bretts know that then. That is the funniest thing I've heard for a long time.

have worn black to many a wedding. Nobody frowned upon it

They probably did, especially the older generation - but didn't say anything. It's because black is funereal and sombre.

I think also in some quarters it was believed to be bad luck. And obviously you don't want to run the risk of anyone at a wedding believing you are bringing them bad luck!

Believe me Cheers my Grandmother, who was at one of the weddings I wore black at, is an aristo too and better versed in 'good manners' than you can ever imagine.
If it had been a problem she would have let me know in a heart beat.
I would never wear white nor cream but black is fine. Although obviously not a mourning veil too

You mean Debretts... which is a guide to etiquette for people who are non-U and want to be U...

I used to wear black to weddings, including smart society weddings, minor Eurotrash royalty etc.

I stopped, not because there was ever any issue, and indeed other people wore black too, but simply because multiple comments online indicated that many people think you can't wear black to weddings, and I don't want to offend anyone.

"A" with a bright coat rather than a bolero?

www.lkbennett.com/Clothing/Coats/Cadiz-Belted-Coat/p/CDCADIZWOOLMIXRedScarlet Bit pricey and v v scarlet but the shops are full of nice colourful coats at the moment

Hmm, I have to say I started out thinking maybe not black at weddings, but many 'posh' weddings later, I conclude that since half of guests always in black, is absolutely fine. Also, gasp ladies in trousers. Even, once, at really the poshest and most traditional summer here-we-are-in-our-country-pile-in-the-village-we-have-owned-for-centuries-oh-look-a-humble-village-serf-pulls-forelock-at-one-how-kind-etc wedding, A LADY IN BLACK TROUSERS!!! Wedding went ahead. (Swoons, fans self, rifles through Debretts muttering furiously etc). I would say wear what you like. Also, I can kind of see that some people might think full black ball gown odd if you're in a marquee on an August day at two in the afternoon in thirty degree heat, but at a grown-up winter wedding in november, surely black cocktail dress perfectly normal & suitable?

I was at a wedding that was exactly how you described it knit :-) I half expected to be in Hello! I might have caused a stir in my black dress but if I did I wasn't aware of it.

At a really smart wedding, you won't cause a stir wearing black before 6pm as everybody will be far to polite to blink.

But then Americans probably wear black tie to day time weddings, which has confused people.

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