The thread of hot, juicy mutton

[Fabulassie]

I am 44. I like to look "hot." I admit it. I don't want to look pathetic or ridiculous, though. But maybe I'm deluded. Maybe the issue is that women in their 40's are simply not meant to be sexual and should be dressed conservatively just because.

Anyway, I wear short skirts with thick tights and boots with a block high heel. I'm very tall and thin and I enjoy being an Amazon. I don't show much skin - don't have any cleavage to show, anyway. I am usually in black, band shirts that are cut at the neck to hang femininely, etc. For all I know, some people think I look ridiculous.

I see mention on here things about being too old to wear a short skirt or something, but wondered if people actually think that's a general rule, or if it's a case by case thing.

I think the whole saying 'mutton dressed as lamb' is really insulting. Admittedly, I am still relatively young but I don't see why any grown woman should be told she can't wear something she likes and feels good in. Just because someone has an opinion, it doesn't mean their opinion is right. I'm firmly in the camp that says wear what you like and feel good in whether you're 20 or 50. Age is utterly irrelevant IMO. Tbh, I might look at someone and they think they look awful (at any age they might be I must add) but I would keep that opinion to myself because what right have I got to go round bringing other people down based on my tastes in clothing

I say fuck the rules and wear whatever you like.

I'm 42. I find that what looks 'hot' on me now isn't the same as what looked hot 15 years ago. What suits me has changed. Its not more conservative but the days of being able carry off looking effortless are long gone.

I think flaunting what you don't have can look a bit ridiculous. I mean, very thin spandex that just highlights what's sagging, etc. I skim over trouble spots (like my belly) and emphasise what's still good. Someone said on here a few weeks ago that the legs tend to age best, and for me that's true.

You sound likecyou have a great figure! Why not? Why should you not look hot @ 44? For me, I like to look good. Dont care about looking hot because I am not looking to attract anyone so I just focus on looking nice. I wear an 18 inch skirt on occasion with thick tights and boots and I am 46.

Wear whatever makes you feel good. I detest the "not over 40" type rules too. It's a load of bolleaux

Yes sometimes women get it "wrong" (as already said, thin spandex flatters nobody) but that is as true of women of all ages, shapes & sizes.

That said, nothing is more striking than a woman with confidence and a relaxed manner. When a woman with true confidence walks into a room that's what you notice first - not what she's wearing. So if you truly love your clothes wear them with pride. Women fussing at and constantly readjusting their clothes appear apologetic for their choices and lacking in confidence.

I'm 42 and can't be doing with age-based rules for what to wear. Definitely what suits me has changed over the years but a lot of that is changed body shape after having two kids rather than age.

I will not give up mini skirts, not yet any way...in my head I'm channelling Elle MacPherson who is waaay older taller, thinner and better looking than moi

The mutton labellers are raging frumps I reckon

It might be that as one gets older what makes one 'hot' is not so obvious as when one was younger.

traditionally in our culture young things signal their biological fertility with every possible flag.

Older women have something else which attracts, which isn't to do with obvious child bearing possibilities.

So we don't have to wear high heels to push out the bum and push up bras to signal breast ownership.

We can look 'hot' by virtue of being attractive people.

My mil is in her 50's and has long flowing hair she curls every day - wears knee high boots with big heels and has thing for fake fur coats and bling. She looks fabulous. I am in my 30's and have a more Joules/countryside kind of look. It's just out style not sure why as soon as women hit 40 they're meant to forget their individual style and cut all their hair off and cover their bust up. Wear what suits you and you're comfortable in.

Oh hell. I'm pushing 50 and on the weekend I was prancing around in a pink skater dress, black leggings and Docs. There's nothing wrong with feeling good in your clothes and I refuse to be dictated to about my appearance.

I think "mutton dressed as lamb" is a vile, misogynist phrase.

But then I would say that as I'm in my mid forties and love my short skirts, tights, shorts, playsuits, etc. I exercise regularly and have a decent figure (if I do say so myself ) so why should I wear dull clothes?

I'm a 'mutton' amazon woman who likes to like to look hot, too

Met my sister for lunch today. We're both late thirties and 5'11 and like to dress up.

She wore skin tight leather trousers, stiletto ankle boots and a fabulous Chanel coat she found in a charity shop. She is rail thin and pulls that kind of glam, Eurotrash style off beautifully.

I'm an hourglass and love thick tights, over the knee boots and short-ish dresses.

We both have long hair, too, and both wear obscene amounts of eye make up

I refuse to 'dress my age'.

i think women should wear what they want. I am also 44 with ace legs.
that said, I noticed a couple of years ago
a) skirts are getting longer
b) even with great legs it just looked odd
c) i now have skirts on the knee.

Women over 40 do not all look the same. We come in different shapes and sizes and suit different things, just like younger women in fact.

That is all.

I guess when I say that I like to look "hot" I specifically mean that I like to look sexually attractive. I imagine that some women who are married are happy to look "nice" and generally attractive, but aren't interested in actually signalling that they're possibly up for it. So, I can see why some people would be taken aback by a woman who should be beyond all that clearly and openly being signalling interest in sex.

Not that that's what I'm actually thinking - I've just been mulling it over and it's occurred to me that, yes, I do like attracting male attention. Sometimes I even like to attract a male for sex. But I'm also concerned with looking generally well-groomed and "together."

Additionally, there's a tribal element to the heavy metal scene so things like what band's shirt your wearing is actually significant (as dumb as that may sound.) I've had many conversations and made friends with people because they've commented on the shirt I'm wearing.

well if you are single then you may want to attract the opposite sex. Its totally understandable. Why should you crawl under a stone just because of your age. Being in your forties is nothing age wise. I agree, i used to be into heavy metal/rock and wearing band t-shirts is definately part of that tribal thing. My dh still wears one from time to time and he is 50 now! But it isnt anything really showy and most people wouldnt know the band anyway as its just a symbol on the front.
I have had my share of male attention when i cared to look 'sexy' but im just not interested in attracting male attention at all...i cba and it embaresses me tbh. I like to look pretty..i like nice clothes and like to look attractive but the older i get the less i want to have male attention...but you go for it.