AIBU to dress very sexy for a wedding?

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I have been feeling a bit down about myself, have just turned 30 and feel like I look a mess. So trying to sort myself out a bit.
We are going to a wedding this weekend with some of DP's friends and their super glam wives. I want to dress up and look hot. How sexy is too sexy for a wedding? Any tips?

You should never upstage the bride. so I've heard
In other words, don't wear anything where most of your boobs are hanging out or too much side-boob (a bit of sexy cleevage is ok), or anything so high that your ass cheeks are showing.

Basicially think Raquel Welch at her DIL's wedding and Don't dress like that.

The following mainly applies to mothers-of-the-bride, but it also says what the ettiquette is in general.

www.express.co.uk/news/weird/265845/Glam-mums-who-steal-the-bride-s-glory

I don't think you should dress sexy for a wedding at all. Sexy is for a night out with you other half.
I get wanting to look glam, but not sexy.
I just don't think it's very respectful tbh.

‘Do not wear white, do not wear anything low-cut, tight fitting, or which is likely to gain you more attention than the bride on her big day’.”

and

Be as elegant as you like but it is incredibly bad form to upstage the bride on her big day.”

I would aim for glam. But put on very sexy underwear for DP later on, it will put your mind into sexy mode then

Glam is good!

Dress beautiful. Honestly the wedding I went to, the only woman there in a skin tight dress just covering her arse was only getting funny looks, but the girl in the maxi dress that was clearly gorgeous was getting loads of comments like "you look so beautiful today"

I just looked stressed and frazzled trying to keep my child with autism quiet

No one could have possibly shown up the bride though. She looked amazing

I don't really do low cut flat chested so no danger of that. Would never wear something really short to a wedding either.

Am thinking of something figure hugging though - is that ok?

Glam is fine, sexy is not. You will look a bit sad and desperate if you come across as intentionally upstaging the bride.

Figure hugging is fine but do it elegantly (e.g. boat neckline, navy or another classic colour, etc.) rather than going for sexy

I like fashion sexy for women but not men's idea of sexy iyswim

There were some incredibly dressed women at my wedding and I was so proud of them

Agree with elegant. With heels. If you look elegant and comfortable with it, you will look sexy .

I'd say wear whatever makes you feel good. Okay it's not your day, but so what you don't have to be a blushing bride to deserve to feel good.

the bride is the one in the white dress getting married, hopefully with a big smile on her face.

unless you turn up in a similar frock, not sure how you would 'upstage' her!

make an effort, look good, enjoy.

Sexy = fashionable, flattering and stylish. Go for it.

Sexy = lycra, boobs and brassiness. Don't dare.

Do you have an outfit in mind?

I've always gone down the 'elegant' route myself, with just a hint of glam.

Well sexy has nothing to do with tarty, and you can do the former very easily without resorting to the latter!

Figure hugging in a slinky way would be good. Ultimately if you have a nice figure and face, sleek lines, a statement piece of clothing or accessory perhaps paired with one bit of luxurious material (satin or lace) and elegant hair will always make you look lovely AND sexy. I always think the latter is about the mindset anyway, not just the look.

I think Hurr1cane has it with her description.

The boob thing is perhaps a bit unfair...I can't wear anything without boob showing somewhere, either cleavage or side boob. My boobs are rather...perky? That seems the wrong word, but hopefully you know what I mean.

I do understated for weddings, though. Maxi dresses and gorgeous jewellery.

(Before anyone suggests something high-necked, that makes me look like a boulder that's about to fall over. It's not pretty.)

I think you are focusing on the wrong area.

Go for something simple and very well fitted, then have a professional blow dry on the morning of the wedding.

Glam and elegant, yes.

'Sexy' = tarty to me and so, no!

Sounds like you need a dress from Baukjen. There are a few different jersey fabric styles, all of which will be figure hugging, but not skimpy and therefore suitable for a wedding with the right heels and jewellery. I have what seems now to be called the Darton dress, if it's the same as mine, it's made from double jersey to feel secure, the ruching lets you change the length, so knee length for wedding, shorter for Xmas party, and the fake wrap top won't make you look tarty.

Sigh baukjen. Very much want to shop there.

Agree with toptrumps - I have the same dress and it is great. More than I would usually spend but so worth it. It really holds you in too! I wear it to work and wore it to several job interviews with a jacket - flattering but not tarty. If it wasn't black I would wear it to a wedding. Maybe I'll just have to buy it in another colour too....

I fancy that dress in the green- I saw it tonight! Hmmmm.

Fitted and elegant, knee length or below with a hint of cleavage.