wedding help please - no idea!

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I have just bought a dress for my DB's wedding (in 2 weeks time! I had real wobbles about the dress I already had!!). Anyway Dsil to be has text me tonight telling me it is too much like the bridesmaid's dresses and could I wear a shawl or something so it looks further from them. I didn't even think about the colour of the bridesmaids dresses when I bought the dress, I just really liked it!!

This is the dress;
dress

These are the shoes;

shoes

& this is my hat;
hat

Please could someone suggest something to wear with it??? I have already got a vintage (ish) pearl brooch in same colours as hat & shoes but she wants something more.

Hope this works!

shoes are in champagne pink!

What a beautiful dress! What put you off the other dress? [nosy]

I think your sil is being precious! Would a jacket be an option?

I can't see why it matters if it looks like the bridesmaids' dresses, but what would I know. It looks lovely, and the shoes.

It's lovely. I don't see how it matters either, especially as you are wearing a hat.

Tricky!! Does she really want you to cover the top half of the dress up? If so you could go for a long sleeved shrug for as long as you can bear to in a bright electric blue, and swop shoes to match....what colour is your hair? Are you very pale skinned? Tempting to not change a thing as it all looks so lovely, but on a Brides special day.... let me know!

the other dress was a dark coloured maxi dress that I had bought for another occasion - it just didn't feel 'weddingy' - we don't have much spare cash & I decided (last weekend) that I wanted something I really liked! Got it all for just over £100, the 2 DDs are being flower girls, DS & DH are ushers, so we haven't had to spend any other money (other than the fact that I'm making their 4 tier cake which is costing us a fortune!!).

Also I have lost 1.5 stone this year and wanted something to show it off a bit I suppose! I am 5'6" with shoulder length brown hair, and now a 10/12!

Liz I think something like a long-sleeved shrug or pashmina would be fine, I can't afford to change anything I have so would going for a completely different colour (like the blue or a deep burgundy) be ok with it??

I suppose in a way, at least if it's chilly then I have something!!

I do think she's been a bit bridezilla, but she is normally lovely & I think it is just last minute panics so will allow her this one!!

It looks nothing like a bridesmaid dress.

Wear it, it's exactly the sort of thing other guests may turn up in.

I think you are being very kind. Depending on the venue setting - modern or traditional?? - than maybe go blue (modern) or burgundy (more traditional) and you will look fabulous. Such impressive weight loss - you must feel amazing!!

A delicate nude/ pink pashmina would be fine, match it to your accessories and drape it artfully around your shoulders. Done!

It's a shame she's thinking this way. All of your immediate family are directly involved in the wedding and you've made the cake, I think it'd be quite nice for you to look similar to but not the same as the wedding party. Luckily the dress is a nice simple shape so you can add a jacket, shrug or pashmina. I love the dress and you are going to look fab!

I would go with a light jacket and take it off when you get there. Don't match the jacket to the shoes or dress, go for a cream colour, a cold cream like the hat. Maybe slightly cropped as its more modern.

You are going to look lovely in that outfit.

For someone who says in their thread title that they have no idea -you have put together a lovely outfit. Your dress will be perfect to show off your figure -congratulations on the weight loss

I agree with the suggestion of a nude or pale pink pashmina -you should be able to get one quite cheaply

I hope you all have a lovely time -make sure you get a photo of you and your DH and your children

I'm impressed by your cake making skills too -must be a lot of work

I agree with Kristina and I should have said that in my post too.

It looks nothing like a bridesmaid dress. If anyone says anything then it'll be about the bridesmaids looking too much like guests. I got a lovely pashmina from amazon. this one and it's lovely. 100% cashmere and it's just gorgeous. It came within a week too.

thanks everyone, will have a look at those ideas