Driving myself nuts trying to find the "bits" to go with my wedding dress, please help!

[PurplePidjin]

I have my dress, it's floor length white with lace over, corset back. Strapless. Very plain, fairly me given by a friend who was going to take it to the charity shop, I'll take it there once I've used it

Now I need all the bits to go with, and I have no idea where to look! Ideally I would like a teal 3/4 sleeve bolero, matching shoes and matching ties and/or waistcoats for DP and DS (20mo). Alternatively, I'll go for a white bolero with Irregular Choice shoes and the whole matchy matchy thing for DS and DP.

We were going to go for Easter next year but a friend has booked hers for then so we're going for October half term. That's 2014, btw Just waiting for the church to let me know when they can fit us in and I can sort the other stuff - this will be a very low-key wedding, btw, so all I need to do once I've got my date is book somewhere for a family lunch (or dinner depending on timing!)

I won't be doing bridesmaids and pageboys, if any kids want to they can wear something smart and trot up the aisle with me. Bouquet is going to be crochet flowers in teal and white, made by me and a group of friends then auctioned for charity. So I don't need to find all that kind of thing thankfully!

I've looked on John Lewis, M&S, BHS and Debenhams. What I think I need is one shop I can physically go to and pick out all the accessories in one hit, in matching colours/fabrics. Does that exist?

Thank you

Very much but it would look hideous with the dress!

Dress is strapless and corseted, flaring from the hips with a train on the skirt. It's slightly off-white satin with lace over the whole thing - really plain style, the detail is in the lace. It laces up the back with ribbons.

So I think I need a jacket - structured stuff suits me better than floaty - that comes to my natural waist/under the bust with elbow length sleeves. That will give me a bit of warmth on what will most likely be a grey and chilly day, cover up my upper arms which look a bit shotputtery in cap type sleeves and are a tad flabby, and also cover an almost indecent amount of bust!

This is of course depending on whether I fit the dress well enough with only 2 months to go. The diet started on Monday (I'm the 14 side of 12 and really need to be on the 10 side for it to be flattering) when my mum bought me coffee and cake I might be back for help with a total rethink in a few weeks!

How about this bolero.

I haven't been able to see your shoes so not sure if it'll go.

Sorry, just seen that Lucked had already linked to that one but I do seem to have found it in your size. There is also this one.

This one is available in a 12 too.

Found your shoes. They're lovely. I think the second bolero would go very well.