Quick advice re funeral dress please.

[LapsedTwentysomething]

Plain black, or could I get away with this? It'll have to be Next as I need to pick up tomorrow. It's a young and feisty oerson's funeral and I can't imagine she'd have disapproved but don't want to offend iyswim.

Also we're on a tight budget and I have to buy a wedding outfit. Would it be appalling to try to find something to suit both purposes? Doesn't need to be super smart as I'm not close to the wedding couple and could happily blend into the background.

Personally I think that's fine.

Ifuyou have a black jacket or cardigan to go over it to tone down the pattern then I think it would be fine. People seem to wear all sorts of things to funerals these days.

I have just found a black dress with little white spots on my wardrobe. That'll be ok with a black cardi won't it?

Yes that sounds fine. Don't worry too much.

I think from sad experience that the grieving family will be SO grateful that you showed up that you won't notice what anyone is wearing. And so those who do "mind" don't matter. FWIW I think that the Next dress is lovely and appropriate, as would be a polka dot frock. I could tell you all the names of the people who came for Dad, but I don't recall a single outfit.

I agree wholeheartedly with Gawainsgirl, except i can't even recall everyone who was there, never mind outfits

I think as long as you are smart, the days of wearing plain black at funerals are gone.

I agree that black is much less common than it used to be. I think as long as it looks sober rather than celebratory or flamboyant, it'll be fine (although in my family we often have a 'no black and wear the colours the person liked' rule, which can mean bright flamboyant clothes)

You being there is going to be the main factor.

I think either is fine, with a black cardigan or jacket and shoes to sober it up, then you can jazz it up for the wedding by changing jacket / cardigan / shoes

Sorry for your loss

I think that dress would be fine. To my mum's funeral recently I wore black and white (a charity shop find -M&S original). I don't think you even have to wear black now anyway. It depends on the person who died. If they were young or 'bohemian' you could get away with anything. If they themselves loved colour you can celebrate that. Incidentally, the eldest person at our funeral, one of mum's cousins, very ladylike and proper, wore a navy and white patterned two piece. Why not. It was hot, best to be comfy!