French wedding

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I'm going to a posh wedding in France at the end of the month. I want something fabulous to wear.

I think I want a long dress/maxi but not 100%. I'm 5'3ish but love a heel, size 12 on top, flabby mum tum, broad shoulders but slim-ish hips. God I don't sound attractive written down.

In a bad place 17 month post baby and still carrying the excess!

Anyone or am I a lost cause?

Dress and long blazer. Medium heels.

Just to make you feel less stressed out - I'm currently in France and saw many wedding guests yesterday. It was a lovely setting and well known town (Grasse). There were several weddings, one after the other, so i witnessed many wedding guests
The guests were dressed well, but I would say no better than at a wedding in UK. Actually slightly less formal than we dress.

It will be warm and I wonder if a maxi dress might swamp your frame.

A skater dress and pashmina might be more suitable.

Ooh la la! I got married in paris and guests wore what they would have done for a British wedding, maybe a little more quirky and less formal but still chic (even our French friends). Don't go for dressy, find a shape that suits you or get something tailored to fit just right, maybe even something plain, with killer shoes or a great accessory and immaculate grooming.

I get that you want to dress up and feel wonderful and why not. Do you have any idea of colour and price? plain or patterned?

See if you can find an old ra-ra skirt from 1987. That should go down a treat. The Brits do wedding chic much better than the French (who don't do maxis).

My problem is that I don't know what suits me anymore. I used to be able to carry anything off if I held my head high enough, now I am paranoid that I look fat.

I'm embarrassingly pale, can suffer with eczema on my arms and have blonde hair. Currently live in black but want to inject a bit if colour.

Jings - what a pity parade reading that back!

Take a look in monsoon. The maxi dresses may be too long for you there but they have some lovely dresses that with the right sandals and bag would be fab for a wedding.

m-uk.monsoon.co.uk/view/product/uk_catalog/mon_1,mon_1.2/5533183208

m-uk.monsoon.co.uk/view/product/uk_catalog/mon_1,mon_1.2/5533010912

Love this one m-uk.monsoon.co.uk/view/product/uk_catalog/mon_13,mon_13.7/5532670712

main style differences between French and British weddings, in my experience: in France - no fascinators, fewer flower dresses, fewer hats. I agree that the Brits dress up more, so don't worry about finding something really fancy, just look for something that flatters your shape!

It depends on where the wedding is as well. If it's right down in the South, then it could potentially be extremely hot - which you will want to factor in. If it's in, Paris say, the weather hasn't been particularly hot, so you could go for something a little more structured.

Why not go for a slim fitting skirt with a loose top? That would show off your hips and disguise the stomach.

Something like this or this or this with a nice blouse? You could even go with this pregnancy blouse which you KNOW is going to be roomy! blouse

Love the monsoon ivy dress - beautiful colour.

I'm wearing this (in navy) to my (English) summer wedding: www.baukjen.com/uk/baukjen-sale/dresses-sale/alessia-dress-khaki.htm

With killer heels (the Coast rockstud cheapies that have been blogged about to death), maybe a white blazer that I've had forever.

I have a similar dress that I wear as a day dress, and it's great for the heat, and almost without fail I get told I look French when wearing it. I even get mistaken as French sometimes in France when I wear it (the ultimate compliment, clearly). It's this one, again in navy: www.meandem.com/collection/belted-sundress-navy/products_id/1892/cPath/1153_1154_1202

My experience of (stylish) French women is that they wear quite simple things, but well cut, in good materials. Trying to go all out to look fabulous may well pick you out as a bit try hard.

www.tedbaker.com/uk/Womens/Clothing/Dresses/MIZI-Wispy-meadow-pleated-dress-Light-Pink/p/113390-58-LIGHT-PINK

Is this nice of naff?

Invoice looks quite great gatsby-esq so now wondering about the 1920s?

It's south of France so will be toasty.

Invite not invoice...

In my experience something Black and dowdy. Dress like you would for a funeral!

Ted Baker dresses are lovely,they are very British summer garden party/wedding. You are British and i would embrace that and wear whatever you want.

It hangs ok at the back if you have a flat bum, but does a weird thing over the bust and makes even that model look pregnant in the close up. I think the wearer needs to be tall and built like a twig to carry it off to be honest.

Book a free stylist session at John Lewis and Debenhams and see what they suggest & then use their ideas as a template when you go shopping.

www.johnlewis.com/our-services/fashion-advice-service

Not keen on the Ted baker tbh, too printed, pleated, fussy and not a great shape overall. If a dress with the help from a stylist can't make a model look stunning, it's best avoided.

Black and dowdy seems to go down well but a plain shift or skater type dress would see you through too. Remember that if there is a Catholic Church involved in the ceremony, you might want to avoid strapless / cover shoulders as you might feel out of place (most guests will dress conservatively)

Hmm - one too many squats most definitely has not left me flat of ass.

Thank you for your comments. I'm going to need to stop pontificating and just go to the big shops for a day and try on. Bleugh.