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Please help me cure my make up obsession

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pussinboots61 · 22/06/2014 22:04

Hi I am new here, hope this doesn't sound daft but I am obsessed with make up and beauty. I keep trying out different things, can never stick to it, worry about what looks on me, what will suit my skin, I am middle aged and have very sensitive irritable skin. I spend most of my spare time trawling round the beauty counters in Boots and the assistants even know me now so it gets embarrassing. I am always reading beauty articles and going on recommendations, wasting money and giving stuff away. Its on my mind all the time and I am not vain so please don't think that. Is there any way to deal with this?

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chanie44 · 22/06/2014 22:23

I have a few thoughts.

  1. If you like the thrill of spending, then maybe find a new way to get that thrill eg a new hobby.
  1. If it's because you genuinely don't like your appearance, then you need to do something about that.
  1. Linked to 2. - think about what specifically you don't like e.g is it blackheads. If so, focus on treating that rather than a binge spend.
  1. Try some old fashioned remedies instead of the latest products eg homemade face masks or steaming your face.
  1. Put the money you save into a jar as a visual reminder and put it towards a non- beauty treat like a trip away or a book.
  1. Set yourself a challenge to see if there are other ways of improving your skin eg drinking more water and seeing if that helps.
  1. Send me all of your unwanted products and I will hold onto them for youSmile. (Only joking).
TheCraicDealer · 22/06/2014 22:30

You could set yourself a monthly budget. I'm considering doing this, I've spent a crazy amount on make up the last two months, really need to rein it in! Damn you, thesundaygirl....

What I do as well is (quite sad) have a 'wish list' on Pinterest. So when I see something and think 'WANT' I pin it, which quells the urge to a certain extent. then when pay day comes if I still want it I'll think about getting it. Puts the clampers on impulse buys to a certain extent.

Naicecuppatea · 23/06/2014 09:55

If you have sensitive and irritable skin it sounds like makeup is the last thing you need! What I do when I try something new is hold on to the receipt and if I react to it I take it back, and Boots are usually very good about giving refunds.

The Pinterest idea is a very good one. I often find I have a mad urge to get something new, in my case usually clothes, and I leave it a day or so and the urge disappears or I completely forget about it.

Naicecuppatea · 23/06/2014 09:55

And welcome to MN!

BeCool · 23/06/2014 10:16

Stop, just stop.

Declare July to be a no beauty spend/no beauty counter month. Follow one/some/all of chanie's suggestions above. Do this for a month and I'm pretty sure you will break the cycle.

Stop buying/reading those awful magazines too - They are designed to make you feel bad about yourself and spend money of crap you don't need. Try getting into a good book instead.

You sound bored if you spend your spare time this way. How else could you spend your time?

WildBillfemale · 23/06/2014 17:37

Have a look at the website 'MakeupAlley' and check out reviews. It's great for Make up addicts.

I'm not quite as 'bad' as you but love makeup. I bought a big train case. Every now and then I 'shop' my own stash. I get bored of products, empty out my daily makeup bag and refresh it with items I already own from my train case. It's very easy to forget stuff you have and buy duplicates/identical shades but differant brands.
Don't buy mags.

pussinboots61 · 23/06/2014 18:32

Thank you for your replies. I do look on Make Up Alley quite a lot, plus other beauty blogs. I think I really have a problem and need to do something about it. Its natural for a woman to be interested in make up but it seems to be taking over my life and way of thinking. Because of my sensitive skin I have to be careful what I can use, I can wear make up as long as its hypoallergenic, I could never not wear make up. But I get torn between brands. At one time, some years ago now when I was in my thirties, I just wore a pressed powder over a basic Boots cream, didn't even know what SPF was and didn't care. I also wore eyeliner and lippy and mascara, a bit of blusher and that was it. I used basic simple skincare, never gave it a second thought and just bought new stuff when I ran out of what I'd got. Now its a different story, I don't know if its because now I am older I worry more about things looking right or because products have got more fancy and advanced but I worry about not using enough SPF, I worry about powder making me look old or liquid eyeliner for that matter, I love Clinique since my friend got me onto it but find it a bit difficult to afford now so I try and keep away from it and buy cheaper brands which are good enough but I still crave Clinique yet worry about spending the money. I don't use an awful lot of make up, just one shade of everything, one lippy, one blusher etc but I worry about what I do use. Skin care is another thing, since face wipes came out I've been using those but then worry that they are not good for my skin. I've tried using the wash prescribed by my doctor for eczema, cleanse and polish, Clinique and Avene cleansers and I keep chopping and changing and not sticking to anything. I think the only stuff I do stick to and don't worry about is hair care. I use stuff from my hairdresser and stick to it because my hair has really improved since using it. I keep wondering if I ought to use tinted moisturiser or maybe it might not give me enough cover but will foundation be too much?

As for the beauty counters I am rarely away from them. When I leave work I can't pass Boots without going in, even if I don't need anything, I just have to have a look. I do have hobbies and things to do but this obsession still takes over. I hate having time on my hands as that's when it gets worse. Although I don't talk about it all the time I am sure I must bore people when I am always eager to find out what products they use and can't wait to talk about make up.

Sorry this is a long post but I think I really need to buy what suits me, stick to it and not replace it till its used up, but how do I decide what to buy without feeling guilty about spending too much money, its a visicous circle.

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libertytrainers · 23/06/2014 18:35

go somewhere like spacenk, it's really but seems to have a nicer range of products than boots so you tend to get what you pay for ime.

though i may be talking bollocks

ThisBitchIsResting · 23/06/2014 18:45

I think the way you are talking about it makes it sound like an addiction or possibly a crutch, a distraction from other stuff in your life maybe? Sorry if I'm reading too much into it , it's just I know when I'm feeling down about things or overwhelmed with work / family stuff, I tend to shop like a demon. I find it therapeutic but know sometimes I need to rein it in! Does that sound familiar?

So maybe a holiday or something, some time in a totally different environment, then cold turkey.

On a practical note, simple is always best with skin care, so stop chopping and changing. Splash out on a dermatologist and buy what they recommend, and don't buy anything til all the products are used up. That's skin care - makeup is just paint really, so have a clear out of anything you haven't used in a while, and get a new and small cosmetics bag and put only what you are currently using in it , then yes stop reading mags and blogs for a while at least! Your skin, wallet and mental health will thank you.

Firsttimer7259 · 23/06/2014 19:33

How about deciding to use up what you already have in skincare products, staying away from boots etc with the reward of clinique if you stick to it? With the proviso that you use your clinique products until they're finished!

Firsttimer7259 · 23/06/2014 19:35

Or decide to stop switching - give a set of products a go for 6 weeks. It takes that long to see if it's any good for you anyway.

UML · 23/06/2014 21:47

Are you looking for a miracle product? That promises instant results or works for you perfectly?

I kind of know where you are coming from, you are always feeling that there is something better out there?

I've tried so many face washes, pricey ones , cheap ones, and I keep going back to my simple face gel!

I will say that I agree it can take sometime to find the perfect eyeliner that works etc. etc.

I would suggest what other users have suggested - buy only when you have finished a product.

Or if you just like trying different stuff, subscribe yourself to one if those once a month beauty boxes people talk about - you spend only a set amount each month and get to try new stuff.

If I were you I would focus primarily on getting your skin sorted - then you can think about make up after as you will probably need less stuff to make it look better!

Maybe the make up is irritating your skin as well ...maybe you should stick to a few trusty essentials?

Housewife2010 · 23/06/2014 22:36

My skin can be sensitive & prone to eczema. The best brand I've tried is Pai Skincare which is designed for sensitive skin. I'm obsessed with makeup & blogs & spend too much money on fripperies too. However, ideally I'd say to try PAI and save your makeup urges for the odd Clinique indulgence (as you love it) when there's a GWP. I wouldn't recommend the beauty boxes. I've been addicted for the last couple of years & you end up with lots of unwanted items. If all my several tonnes of beauty stash went up in flames, I would restock with far fewer perfect items which even though they may be expensive, would cost less than lots of cheaper brands.

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