If you make an effort with clothes/appearance to look nice, who are you doing it for?

[Takver]

• for you / for everyone (ie men & women) / for members of the opposite sex only???

(Discussion with DH!)

Myself, it is nice if other women notice. Not for men but then I am not on the pull. Back in those days I did dress more to get male attention.

For everyone's sake really.

Myself. As Mrsc above really.

Myself.

That covers everything from showering to painting my nails.

I want to be clean, look nice, smell nice and feel good about myself.

Because it's fun putting clothes together. If I put an outfit together then I'm not going to gaze at it lovingly laid out on my bed though, I'm putting it on.

So people don't look at me and think I'm delusional (well, I still might be) thinking I look fine when I don't.

I don't dress for anyone else and I don't follow fashion, I think I only suit certain clothes and I only like certain clothes. Working within my own limitations is challenging enough

and you?

I'm with MrsC. It's nice to feel good and lovely when another woman compliments your outfit.

Mainly I put the effort in for work. I work with a lot of people and the public. Dh prefers me with no make up and scalped back hair so it's not for him.

Also I do it for confidence for myself.

Myself as it makes me feel good. Other people admiring how I look just feeds back into that really. I don't do it for their benefit, I do it because it makes me feel good to be complimented or admired.

Again, very much the same as Mrs C-B. I think I am doing it partly for everyone, but I value other women's opinions more than men's.

In the privacy of my own home, I'm a short plain woman in my mid thirties, slightly overweight, with lank, fine mousey hair and pockmarked skin from PCOS acne.

In the privacy of my own head, I'm a polished, successful, confident and creative woman in my prime.

In public, my clothes, shoes, accessories, make up, hair and nails are an attempt to project my inner self, though slightly compromised because I have to work with the reality of my outer look and the practical demands of real life.

Also because, if you look well and dress well, people find it very hard to treat you badly.

Definitely me and my own self-esteem. I've only recently realised that if I look crap I feel crap so I've spent this year refining my wardrobe and weeding out all the stuff that makes me feel crap in an effort to feel better about myself.

I am surprised at those that dress for other women. My DH has always said that women dress to impress other women and I've always thought he was bonkers. Clearly not!

Id like to say me. It's for male and female approval. I like being described as glamorous. I'm so shit

Id like to say me. It's for male and female approval. I like being described as glamorous. I'm so shit

Double shit

What MrsCB said, pretty much

myself, and i also want to look nice for my dcs
then dh#then other women

in that order

i find it amazing and annoying how if i wear glasses and hair in a pony and scruffy clothes people are really rude to me, let doors slam in my face etc

yet if ive done my hair and wearing niceish clothes
i seem to get smiles and people talking to me everywhere i go

and its not because i feel more connfident and give off a more welcoming vibe as i act exactly the same regardless of what i wear

parents - always dress up for parents evening

REALLY

Myself. It's part of my self-care for my depression and other conditions. I like somewhat edgy/quirky makeup/clothes which doesn't always match other people's tastes, but making myself feel happy through an unusual lipstick colour or glittery dress is more important.

Good question. Yourself, and also your environment. A little bit. I find that, it takes courage to dress how you want to, without criticism. I mean, people will comment anyway and make a lot of judgments as well, but ignore those. If you can handle this, then you can handle anything. It is a self esteem thing, and to portray how you wish to be. This is more important than a job, or your environment.

Most definitely for myself. I even make an effort when I know I'm not going to leave the house.

Yes what do you wear when you are around the house and not expecting anyone to call? Do you make an effort or is it scraped back hair, no make-up and a onesie?

For me, I enjoy buying nice clothes.

Then second I like friends noticing / compliments etc

I think I do it for men more than women. Don't know why though, especially as I'm not in the market for a new man. But I do have more male friends than female, so maybe it's just people I class as my peers?

I have MH issues and it's part of my self-care.

Agree with Mrs CB. I probably care more what other women think of my outfit than any men. But mostly I dress for myself.