ladies with teenage daughters what do you wear ....

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... so you dont end up dressed the same. DD 14 into fashion - wears boyfriend jeans, floral jeans, pleather jeans, converse, biker boots double denim, sweattops etc and Im struggling to know what to wear. Am approaching 50 but still like fashion but DD is complaining we end up dressed the same - probably my fault as I buy most of her clothes. Im a SAHM so wardrobe is casual - but feel like i've lost my direction. Any advice thanks

I work full time and my work clothes are not teenage-ish, but tbh the rest of the time there is some overlap.

I wear tube skirts with sweatshirts, as does dd1, but my tube skirts and sweatshirts would be from Whistles/Hobbs/maybe the 'nicer' Topshop stuff, and hers more likely to be H&M.

Skinny jeans and Converse is dd2's look, but we wear very different kinds of tops with them - she's more likely to be in a baggy shirt or a hoody, and I'd be more likely to be in a more fitted top, or a Cos jumper. And her Converse are canvas hightops and mine are leather low tops. Or I'd wear skinny combats instead of skinny jeans, maybe with heeled ankle boots.

Oh and I pretty much live in a biker jacket until summer, when I replace it with a cropped, fitted denim jacket (or a fabric biker!).

Looks I like/similar to I'd wear:

this but I'd wear Converse with bare legs, or ankle boots with tights with it

This and also like this but above the knee skirt and tights

Pretty much my Saturday look!

A skirt

No idea if this is any use to you!

I envy you in a funny kind of way. I don't have a teenage daughter but I do have a niece - which I know is a very different relationship - and I'm pretty sure she never notices what I'm wearing! I would like to talk to her about fashion but she just has me down as 'old' and not worth bothering with

What I'm trying to say is that, if you and your daughter have a shared interest in clothes, then at least it's a start. Have you tried looking at magasines or Pinterest together and asking her to pick out things for you? You don't have to listen but she might have some good ideas! That's what I would like to do with my niece anyway. And maybe, if your daughter was choosing her own clothes, she would begin forge her own style and stop complaining about yours?

Ultimately though I think we all have to stand our ground and not let young people dictate what we wear!

DD and I end up dressing similarly-ish sometimes, we are similar build and the same sorts of things suit us both but we wear them differently.

I wear a lot of skinnies but will wear them with maybe a fitted top and jacket or a slouchy jumper and scarf and Chelsea boots

She wears jeggings/skinnies with a hoody/shirt/t shirt (she's into cropped t shirts at the moment but I make her layer them over a longer vest) and high top Converse

She likes Top Shop/H&M, where my tastes lie more with Cos, Zara and All Saints

DD is a pretty, petite hour-glass whereas I am a tall, crepey pear. She wears lots of body-con/retro sports-wear/teeny skirts and dresses and crop-tops, none of which I would want to be seen dead in! We do both have biker jackets, but mine is broen leather and hers is black PVC and about 3 sizes smaller!

My DD isn't a teen yet (nearly 12) but she wouldn't be seen dead in the same clothes as me doesn't wear the same as me except Converses.

I have Hi-Tops, she has the Oxford. And Vans.
She wears leggings and shorts, doesn't own jeans.

And she wears Superdry, I'm M&S

MY dd (25 ) raids my wardrobe every time she comes to visit, we do wear a lot of similar clothes, and often dress similar even though she no longer lives at home- I dont know whether Im dressing too young, (Im 47), or shes dressing to old! She never lets me throw anything out without looking through it all first!

I would say if she's worried you're dressing too similar then you probably have it about right! Obviously no one wants to wear hot pants and crop tops in their middle age (if you do go ahead!) But nothing wrong with carefully chosen pieces from the mainstream. Most teenagers want their parents to look decidedly "parenty" .. Dd always wants me to wear bodenesque stuff and smarter things than I normally would. If I wear anything trendy she thinks it's wrong.. so tough titties. I'm not dead yet :)

I wear my converse without those socks with little frills on them!

I wear mine WITH the little frilly socks! :)

You will have to make dd stop then!

I like boyfriend jeans; my girls think they're awful.

There's not much danger of me dressing like my girls. They love leggings, hoodies, crop tops and Uggs, none of which have much place in my wardrobe.

Just occasionally DD1 will covet something in my wardrobe, most recently a sweatshirt from Warehouse, but usually we dress very differently. I'm guessing the lines will blur as they get older.

DD1 is always borrowing/stealing my clothes - and of course looks way better in them than I do.

thanks for the replies - looks like im not alone - I do tend to wear more expensive versions just to differentiate - & yes shes started to raid my clothes too. I guess I'm feeling may age - I've always liked to express myself through my clothes and I can see my DD starting to do the same - shes just bought herself a pair of pleather dungarees that look great on her and is the sort of thing i would have worn when i was much younger. I can easily shop for her but find most of the clothes for me are variations of what I already have and nothing seems to really excite me anymore. Remus - i like some of your pins so may try & get some inspiration

I don't have teenage daughter quite yet oldest is 11 but I have teenage nieces age 19 and we actually share clothes, all three of use are a size 8 and all about same height, was only yeasterday my neice dropped in a huge sack full of clothes for me, but I'm there cool Auntie !

Where what suits you and what you like

I am 55 and a completely different shape to DD (nearly 14). I can't wear skinny jeans as they look awful on me. We have a completely different taste in clothes so there is no danger that we will end up dressing similarly.

I'm with Bunbaker. Anyway I've always been a bit of a frump and I have a feeling that dd is likely to be less trendy than me !

Maybe both get your colours done then you will look different even if you suit similar styles?

I think this may become an issue for me (my DD is only 13 and just getting into fashion, she's also far to small for us to share clothes) in a couple of years.

TBH, with some things it hardly matters: everyone wears skinny jeans, converse. They are not the preserve of teenagers. Other things (shorts with tights, for example) are more of a "young" look - meaning more often seen on young people. However, I would hate to think I will stop wearing something just because my DD does. As Flo says: don't let the kids dictate what we wear!

I also wonder if there's a bit of misogyny directed at older women here. Would the same concerns appear if my DH dresses in a similar way to my DS? (I think not.)

DD borrows my bags and make-up. She would like to borrow some of my shoes/clothes, but as I am bigger than her, I'm safe!

Both of them borrow one of DH's jackets - Harrington-style, but as DS is taller and broader than DH already, nothing else would fit. DH has a pair of DS's old footy boots that he has grown out of, however