AIBU to not like leggings or pink

[rustykoala]

Im pregnant with my first DD and people have started asking what gifts clothes etc me and DH would like for DD. we have told people we dont want any pink outfits or leggings DH hates leggings as do i and we have found unisex bright clothes so much more appealing. Reason we dont like leggings is skimpy tight effect i dont want DD to look grown up or tarty and the nappy bulge squeeze thing they do every baby ive seen wearing them looks like they need a serious nappy changing my friends baby even looked like she needed changing right after she had been changed. AIBU ?? People we have said this too seem to think we are but i dont see the big deal??

If you decide to ban pink, I can almost guarantee your daughter will get to about three and become utterly pink obsessed! Disney princess, pink nail varnish, pink clip clop shoes, fake earrings, pink fluffy tiaras, bags, dresses, the lot.

Please come back in three years and let us know how it's going :)

The leggings we have for my daughter are not see through at all - to be honest, baby gros are much more see through!

Baby grows are great at first, but I found having two tops and two pairs of jersey trousers or leggings that mixed and matched best once DDs could sit up.

Nappies leak and milk, dribble and then food gets everywhere.

Being able to swap bottom or top without fighting with poppers is very convenient.

Two packs of coordinating PJs are a brilliant invention.

Op whats your view on ....the baby 'jegging'

Rustykoala - please think very carefully about whether to share your brutal and radical views with other mums, and if you do feel,you have to, please think very carefully about how you express your views.

The amount of mutual support that mums of young babies and small children get from each other and give to each other is huge - they are at the coal face of parenthood with you, and the last thing you want to do is to alienate these people by strident statements about things like nappies and what babies are wearing, when other people might be using the nappies you think are so dreadful, or have put their baby in leggings, and think she looks lovely not tarty.

Frankly, you sound like you are going to 'speak your mind' without worrying about how much offence you are causing, and you are going to lose friends right left and centre, doing that - friends who might keep,you sane during the early years.

I wouldn't have made it through PND three times without the support of my friends.

I also think you need to apologise for saying babies in leggings look tarty - that is a really nasty thing to say.

YABU for thinking babies could ever look tarty.

Well, YANBU to dress your baby in what you like. That's generally what most people do. I had similar conversation with friends and colleagues when I was pg with DD as I dislike dresses, tights and anything in soft or 'baby' pinks but most people refused to believe that we actually weren't going to dress our baby girl in pinks and frills and ribbons. When people like something, sometimes they find it hard to imagine that other people don't like it.

However, I'm slightly at a loss as to how leggings look to tight and 'tarty' but babygrows - which are generally the same material - don't? You still see as much of a nappy bulge in a babygrow as you do in leggings...

Leggings are hugely practical on older babies/young toddlers. They're cheap and easy to wash. Most toddler girls jeans at the moment are very tight, skinny jeans and a lot of them don't look very comfortable around the waist. And personally I have seen a lot of crawling and toddling girls in dresses and tights that have to me seem to have been less comfortable than they would be at that stage in leggings or romper suits - where they can have bare feet for grip, or aren't crawling into the dress.

I agree with previous posters that the majority of young girls clothing is designed around leggings - a lot of the dresses are more like tunics and often go with leggings as opposed to tights.

Your baby, your rules, blah blah. But fgs, please stop using the word "tarty" to describe a baby.

I agree you probably need to express your opinions differentlt...

But as it happens we've mainly avoided pink in the main and I really really don't like leggings. Slightly better under a dress but I think normal length t shirt and leggings looks silly on adults and children! I'm surprised they're so popular on this thread tbh.

Id never tell someone irl I dont like what their cos is wearing or I don't like leggings. Quite a few know pink isn't my "thing".

As for presents.. I just say thankyou! And put them in my favourite outfits when I want to.

We had just vests and baby gros for a long time.

OP - just to warn you, dresses aren't all that practical once your DD starts crawling, she'll crawl onto the hem of the dress if it's too long and then go splat, face first on the floor. Have seen it and poor dd has done it too!

So you'll have to put her in short dresses so they don't get caught by her knees (and my DD was crawling at 5 months) - short dresses then ride up and their tights are on show, and show rather the same as leggings.

Actually, once they are crawling, leggings are very practical clothing, and when you ahve a small child, your priority should be what is comfy and gives them the best movement options. Big frilly dresses are great for sitting still in, but rubbish if you have one that wants to move. Jeans can be too thick and uncomfy for crawling in. Anything that's tight on their tummies isn't good. Anything with buttons down the back will make changing hard work. Anything that has to be taken off over their head for each change isn't good. Socks will get lost regularly! And when they are cruising, bare feet are best, leggings let you take their socks off and have bare feet, without having to have bare legs too.

But with you on pink, doesn't suit my ginger DD either. Boden and H&M are both good at girly but not pink clothes. (Boden have a sale on baby dresses today, you could have a little look!).

I'm on second girl and run a toddler group. I hahadn't noticed lots and lots of leggings. It might be just as I dont like babies in them. My older one wears then with tunics but never a short t shirt.

I'll look more closely next time I go.

Goodness - I imagine that leggings are popular on this thread for a combination of reasons - they are more practical than skirts, more comfortable than jeans (for a little baby), and easier to put on and off than tights.