My daughter is nearly 16, she wears whatever she wants.
When I was a teenager, my father didn't want me to wear high heels, dye my hair or wear short skirts.
I got into all sorts of bother trying to wear these things behind his back and it created upset and tension. I decided not to have all this with my own daughter and she looks nothing like I wish her to look like. I roll my eyes sometimes but we don't have the atmosphere of tension as I did with my father about how I looked.
By accepting her appearance it's made life easier and is one less battle to clash with a teenager, because there are plenty of other things to clash with!
When she was 13/14 she pierced the space between her nose and lip. She did it herself and I asked social services for advice and I was told in no uncertain terms in front Of my daughter that I shouldn't stifle her individuality!
She has let that piercing close up but she has pierced her septum and stretched her ear lobes. It's vile, but by not creating a fuss it's most likely she will eventually let these close up.
She has dreadlocks adorned with trinkets beads and coloured thread. She dresses weird and wonderful and reminds me of a young And colourful Boy George!
She said she was going to shave her eyebrows off. I felt ill at the thought but masked it and offered to do it for her. She declined and the eyebrows are still there a few weeks later.
If you push a teenager they will pull and in the opposite direction.
I've picked my battles and clothing and appearance isn't one!