Do you think it would be appropriate for my six year old DS to wear jeans to a wedding?

[SleepyJess]

I think it's going to be quite a posh-ish wedding. It's his Godmum's. I have got him a new shirt.. well DH went out and bought it y/day, but this being the case, the only thing it really go with is a pair of jeans which he already has and I can't afford to go out and buy any blue trousers. (He has smart green trousers but I can put a blue check shirt with them!; I told DH to buy a shirt that would go with them.. but you know how it is! [eye roll emoticon])

I can team the shirt/jeans combo with some smart blue braces, as DH will need them as all his trousers fall down otherwise as he has cp/uses a wheelchair/crawls when not in wheelchair instead of walking.

But I don't want him to look scruffy! Are jeans, in any form, really not the done thing for weddings.. because this is what I was thinking..

I like weddings and have looked forward to this one, but it's such a lot of hassle when every needs new/decent outfits.. and you have 3 kids! (I am borrowing an outfit from best friend..)

SJ x

Depends on the people. We had loads of kids at our wedding - can't remember what any of the children were wearing, (don't really remember what many of the adults were wearing either to be honest). I would much, much rather that the children were comfortable (particularly younger children) than that there was obvious tension caused by them being dressed up to the nines and miserable. I think jeans, braces and a new shirt are absolutely smart enough.

I'd wear the blue shirt and the green trousers, I think, but wouldn't object to jeans so long as not actually covered in mud / have holes etc.

(NB jeans vastly prefereable to DH's ghastly cousins who dressed their 6yo ds in an actual morning suit and a cravat. gack)

Personally I wouldn't put him in jeans for a wedding.

Can you change the shirt?

Or can someone lend you a pair of trousers?

I meant DS will need the braces obviously.. crikey, all I type is a pile of cack lately!

Hmm it's difficult because I don't really know many of the people. The bride and groom are lovely and down to earth and completely un-snobby.. but her family are pretty well off I think and the reception is in a nice pub/hotel.. and it's a biggish (I think) church, white wedding.

Oh dear I'd better get some other trousers hadn't I. But I have bigger worries now.. just realised, with horror, that he has no shoes to wear!! He wears Piedro boots (special supportive boots for SN children and/or those with mobilty problems) and at the end of term I threw his old ones away as they were worn out and too small. He has been measured and fitted for new ones in time for the new term... and current all he has are Bob the builder trainers^.. and not very smart ones at that!! Eeeek!

Jeans are now the least of my worries!!!!

I think the jeans will be okay!

Can he not wear school trousers ?

I think the only person whose opinion matters on this one is the bride's - I suggest you warn her that ds will be wearing jeans and why and she's bound to be fine about it + appreciate you telling her.

Jeans and a smart shirt hanging out over the top I'm sure would be fine. What about his feet?

Surely clothes are not the issue. I walked down the aisle followed by a page boy clutching a lump of lego but he was my godson who I love dearly and I wouldn't have cared if he had worn jeans (clean is good though!). Go, enjoy yourselves, and don't worry about clothes.

TBH I would mention this to the bride and dress him in whatever you have. It is not like he has a huge wardrobe of clothes, so go with JEans and Bob teh Builder. Provided the bride knows who gives a stuff what others think

I went to a wedding a few years ago (quite a posh one in fact - ceremony at St Martin-in-the-Fields and reception in Kew Gardens) where at least one of the guests had brought his children along in jeans. Somehow it added to, rather than detracted from, the occasion - it made those of us who were dressed up to the nines feel like we were doing it for fun rather than because we had to.
If the couple getting married are relaxed about this sort of thing then absolutely, go for whatever you think your ds would be happiest in.

LOL at Mrs Badger and the 6 year olds in morning suit. I made my nephews wear sailor suits for my wedding but that's because I'm evil

Aw, bless, you lot all have your hearts in the right place I am just worried that some of the guests may not be as nice as Mners and might look sideways at us and think 'she could have made more of an effort!' esp. since I know the bride will be wanted to show DS off at some stage. She adores him. She was one of his nurses in the special care baby unit when he was ill after birth; that's how we got to know her and became friends/chose her as his Godmum.

I do tend to worry too much about what people think though. Oh bugger I should have been more organised.

I agree with everyone else that it really doesn't/shouldn't matter. I was wishing ds was younger- all his outgrown trousers would be miles too big for your wee boy. I wondered about shoes- maybe you could get him some black gym shoes? They are only a few quid in Woolworth's, and would look less obviously casual than B the B trainers (although again, I don't think anyone would mind!)

Totally agree with everyone else - I couldn't have given a flying whatsit's as to what the kids wore at my wedding(s) as long as they were there and having a good time.