White dress for a wedding

[Lambzig]

Sorry another "help me dress as a wedding guest" thread, but it am finding this one a bit challenging.

I had a thread in AIBU, here but thought I need some specialist S&B advice.

The dress code For women is white evening dress, which is hideous as I don't suit white. My budget would ideally be £200 as I will never wear it again, but want something nice, so may have to go higher and sell it afterwards. I am a size 10/12 and 5ft 3, so can't have anything too wide.

I have trawled my usual sites, but can't seem to find anything, so any help would be appreciated.

Horace, that's a lovely style, but maybe a bit polyester?

If it is white tie rather than white dress I think the men are in white bow ties? I need to get my copy of debretts

SFTG are you mad?

Right, phoning the bride.

Mad - which bit? I don't really have a copy of debretts sitting around just in case I'm having an etiquette crisis.

But I do think white tie means long ball dresses for laydeees and white bow tie / white waistcoat for fellas.

I like the one with the dog

Sorry SFTG, I meant to your dress envy comment.

Ok, had quick chat with bride, apparently I am not the first.

The dress code is black tie for men and boys, white evening dress for ladies, preferably long, definitely glamorous. She assumed that white will be interpreted as off white, ivory and nude shades too. She is going to send out an email and seems embarrassed by the whole thing and claims it was her fiances idea and that they need to confer and might change it to any colour. I felt a bit sorry for her as she is clearly getting grief about it.

She is wearing 'a colour'.

I don't envy you no - it's a pain I can totally see that. But I got envious of the ghost dresses.

Seriously Lamb - what a palaver !

Argh shit! School run!!

Hire

Yes, I am starting to look at dress hire naf for £100, you can get something amazing.

I'd be surprised if there was no white that suited you. As the bride says, there are shades of it. I can't wear a stark pure white but I can wear off whites that look white on me if that makes sense. You'll just have to hold up a lot of stuff up to your face.

Not surprised she's getting confusion though. I remember seeing one thread where the guests had been told the theme was black and white, which was at least slightly easier.

I think it would be a challenge to find something non-wedding-dressy enough.

OMG, I can't believe that people actually think their wedding guests are dolls to dress up to appear in their photographs.

I bet they think they are being oh so original and chic.

Just hire something if you know you will never wear white again.

I have been to a couple of weddings recently and one of them the theme was black for the men and white for the women. I wore this ....

www.net-a-porter.com/product/410881/Roland_Mouret/hexam-embroidered-lace-and-stretch-crepe-gown

I was not the bride but certainly felt that way. (please also note I am pregnant so had to wear something suitable)

That's gorgeous puddles ... I'm guessing not too pregnant! What's wrong with a bride and groom dictating what guests wear? It's their party and they are paying a lot for you to be there, after all (no, I did not ask for my wedding guests to wear traditional medieval attire or purple hats, I'm just saying it's their gig)

IMO, I think it's crazy entitled behaviour to dictate what colour guests have wear plus was the sort of thing the Spice girls did. Would put me right off someone and would categorise along with lists at baby showers and asking for cash as wedding gift.

They are your guests not extras on your film set.