Just realised that I treat myself like I hate myself.

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Sort of an Aha moment (not the band) as I have always felt like I shouldn't waste time on prettying myself up or having nice clothes (always waiting until I was less fat) or having the motivation to exercise and diet or convinced that I was a spotty hairy monster because of the PCOS.

I wouldn't treat anyone else in the world as badly with the negative self talk and lack of care and criticisms but that is how I treat myself.

Just seems crazy! I constantly pick at my flaws and never think anyone would ever be interested in me. Certainly not the nice man that I have a crush on. Convinced myself that he is out of my league.

If a friend said that she felt that way about herself I would be horrified and yet I do it to myself all the time.

I honestly believe the saying, 'you've got to fake it to make it'! tell yourself your beautiful and you will be!

Try thinking about the bits you do like and what's good, even if it's simply your nice long nails or small ears, it's a start!

The first step is recognising that you treat yourself badly and want to change so you're doing well

Can you incorporate exercise into your daily routine so that to begin with it doesn't feel like such a chore eg walk instead of drive or get off the bus a stop early. And then look at ways which you could tweak your diet a little eg giving up a snack or smaller portions. Once you start tackling this you will feel more in control, hopefully see results and feel better and encourage you to look at what else you'd like to achieve.

Tell yourself you are worth it and go get than man

Go get that man ..... wish it were that easy!

I do quite like my hair and am growing it. It is back to a natural colour which isn't awful so I don't know why I bothered dying it! I feel more feminine with longer hair and have stopped straightening it too.

I have scrubbed and de fuzzed and painted my nails and done my eye brows. Feeling better for it!

Oh yes, when I decided to start loving my wavy hair and stop fighting it, it was brilliant. I got layers put in to maximise it!

Go be the star of your own movie

Time to stop fighting my hair I think!

Be the star of your own movie Love that!

Your style should be about self-expression not other people's expectations or correcting anything that' as perceived as wrong. Read a bit of light feminist stuff and watch some Brene Brown talks on Youtube.

Awwww fluffy I am so that women think these things of themselves, it is good that you have identified these negative thoughts as you can now put them to one side and start the process of believing in yourself.

You are beautiful, you have an inner lovelyness that deserves to shine through. You are worth it.

I do think that we as beings do not always see the beauty in ourselves, society tells us to put others before us, that we are selfish if we turn our eyes onto ourselves. I say get in touch with the inner 'wild' woman, that being that it ready to burst out in a shower of radiance.

Meditation can help with self belief, just a few moments to focus on the self. Telling yourself in your minds eye that you are worthy of your attention.

Good luck with the man you like