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Please help with DDs long wavy hair.

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Marylou2 · 15/12/2013 19:36

I'm at my wits end with DDs(6) waist length that's wavy, fine in texture but loads of it.It tangles so easily and can be horrendous to comb out after washing.I always condition and use a good detangeling spray. I guess I still haven't found the right products so any suggestions would be really welcome. Any price point really as I've just tried Kerastase which was OK but brought her out in spots. Many thanks.

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funnyfeet · 15/12/2013 21:00

My dd also has long thick, wavy hair. I spray it with Clynol Moisture Dream hair spray
then brush it with a Tangle Tamer brush. I have tried lots of different childrens detangler sprays but find them all too wet, and they don't seem to work on her hair! The clynol one is like a fine oil spray, but doesn't make the hair greasy or wet. Smells lovely too!

17leftfeet · 15/12/2013 21:06

How often do you get it cut?

Dd has the same type if hair and if its not regularly trimmed we know about it!

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Marylou2 · 15/12/2013 21:09

It's trimmed every 3 months. I know I should get them to lop 6 inches off it but all her friends have long hair too and she's so proud of it. God forbid they all get nits!

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whereisshe · 15/12/2013 21:13

I have long, wavy, fine hair that tangles easily.
My routine:

wash with non-drying shampoo (currently A'Kin very gentle), every second day
condition with intensive conditioner, finger combed all the way to the ends (currently Lush jasmine and henna frizz ease)
leave-in conditioner (currently A'Kin lavender and anthyllis)
braid hair at night, or sock bun
never brush hair, only wide tooth comb and never comb when wet other than with fingers (to avoid damage)
get it trimmed regularly
no heat on it, or silicone based products (drying)

Seems to work for me

Theresadogonyourballs · 15/12/2013 21:21

Be very careful if you do decide to go down the non brushing route. I did this after reading lots of articles claiming it was the best thing for curly hair. I have very long, very curly hair, and despite following all the instructions about using conditioner, detangling spray, using my fingers on it etc etc, I still ended up with three horrible dreadlock like matted clumps at the nape of my neck, which had to be cut out after attempts to untangle them failed. Was painful too! And that was after less than a week.

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Marylou2 · 15/12/2013 21:27

I don't think I could do the not brushing thing! I'll just keep searching for the magic product but in the mean time try all the great suggestions on this thread. I've got 2 long haired cats too so I guess I'll just have to see detangeling (I'm not too sure if that e belongs in the middle) as a hobby rather than a chore.

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specialsubject · 15/12/2013 21:31

I had the curliest hair this side of an afro. Don't brush, comb GENTLY when wet after using loads of conditioner and detangle spray. She should also sleep with it in loose plaits - use bands with no metal.

Now have swishy waves after a wellastrate treatment, but am not suggesting that for a six year old!

howlingcow · 15/12/2013 21:35

My 3 DD's all have long thick curly hair which I've struggled with. I actually took them to the hairdressers the other week who trimmed the ends and used thinning scissors and I must admit it's made a massive difference-not tangly at all now!!

LydiaLunches · 15/12/2013 21:37

Plait every single night and use loads of conditioner, DD2 has the same, DD1's super thick hair is much easier!

17leftfeet · 15/12/2013 21:38

3 months is no where near often enough for that hair type

If she needs 6 inches off get 6 inches off -it will still be long if its waist length and it will save all the pulling and tangles

Little trims every 6 weeks once the ends are in good condition makes a massive difference

Tistheseasontobedramatic · 15/12/2013 21:40

Dd and I both have hair like this and only manage it by having layers cut in. We want to keep the length but have the volume reduced. It's wonderfully easy to maintain and she is more then capable now of brushing and tying her hair in pony tails now. Hope that helps.

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Marylou2 · 15/12/2013 21:45

I hadn't thought of layers. Might give that a go. .

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Coveredinweetabix · 15/12/2013 21:45

Interesting reading this as I have the same problem with 4yo DD. Her hair is so fine yet really wavy and there's just so much of it. A tangle teaser doesn't get near it.
DD's hair is down to her shoulder blades. We tried a bob but it just looked like her head had exploded. If it's any shorter than this, it's hard to plait which seems to be the best way to contain it.
I have started washing her hair in the morning and putting it in a low, loose plait at night, both of which seem to have helped.
I tried not brushing it for three days and it was a disaster. Should I have left it longer?

Coveredinweetabix · 15/12/2013 21:47

PS any fringe solutions as DD is beginning to get a bit self conscious about the scar in the middle of her forehead, I'm not going to try & hide it for now but want to know if there are any options

howlingcow · 15/12/2013 21:56

It's amazing how many people have seen my DD's out and about and asked me if their curly hair is natural! I feel like saying 'No! I perm it..with that lovely ammonia stuff that burns your eyes!'

howlingcow · 15/12/2013 21:57

Those fairly long blunt fringes a la Dora the Explorer, are 'in' at the moment according to my fashion conscious niece!

curlew · 15/12/2013 22:03

I genuinely think you should get it cut. A 6 year old has better things to do with her time than having "time consuming " hair. Honestly! And she will get nits! it's inevitable. Imagine trying to get a fine tooth comb through it. Get a gorgeous easy to manage cut and she can grow it again when she's old enought to deal with it herself.

Indianajonesismyhero · 15/12/2013 22:16

My dd (4) and i both have proper curly hair and the best thing I have found for her is to wash it by stroking it downwards hanging down her back in the shower ( ie don't whirl it all into more knots), use a bit of conditioner and comb it out when wet. We plait it at night to keep it kind of tidy and then for school undo it, shake it out a bit and then tie just the sides back in half up half down (anyone else call this hairdo "an Edwardian"? We all did when I was a kid... No one does now!). It looks wild as anything by the time she gets out of school, but it is gorgeous and different and she looks like a little blonde angel - just not a very tidy one. Just embrace big mad hair and remember neat hair is overrated! Took me until I was about 30 to do that myself!

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Marylou2 · 16/12/2013 07:52

Thanks so much for all your input.Also maybe I have given the impression that our lives revolve around a head of hair. They don't. She swims, rides and dances. I just wish it were easier. But then other people have much bigger problems and I am very grateful.

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NoComet · 16/12/2013 08:11

Practical though it may seem, 6y won't have their hair cut.

They suddenly do at 13.

I'm glad to say DDs grown hers again.

Also cutting very wavy curls doesn't necessarily help. The nearer to a bob my DF takes hers, the wilder and more unruly it gets. Take the weight off and the curls tighten and it just explodes outwards.

Charcoalbriquettes · 16/12/2013 17:29

Get swimming hats, that helps for swimming. I find they don't need to wash their hair that often.

LittleBabyPigsus · 16/12/2013 18:16

I also have long thick wavy hair and combing is so much better than brushing. Also if you have an Afro-Caribbean beauty shop nearby, they do the best detanglers known to man.

Mintymoomoo · 16/12/2013 20:13

Sound like my dd hair, i found the following works well and saves on knotty hair every morning!

Bush through before washing, just use tesco co but shampoo and conditioner, tesco detangle stay when wet comb through then I always platt so she doesn't go to bed with hair down otherwise it's just a knotty matted mess in morning

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