Obsessively worrying about my hair.. All the time! Picture Included.

[KateSpade]

Hello ladies, i am getting really desperate. so please any words of encouragement. Im starting to despair. I honestly don't know what to do.

I have long, fine hair (from base of neck 20") and in the past week or two I've noticed at the very base of my neck a couple of strands have snapped off, half way ish.

My questions are what can i do to prevent my whole head of hair snapping off? I don't wash it every day, or use heat every day, btw.

secondly, what can i do to prevent me worrying about my hair. Im worrying about it snapping off, about it falling out, about going bald, about it getting so fine you can see my scalp, about having to cut it off, if I'm washing it too much, about why its so frizzy.

It is ruining my life. I honestly don't know what to do. Please help! I have been to the doctors so many times I've been checked for thyroid problems - none, and Iron problems - low iron not quite anaemic but nearly.

(I think it may have something to do with the fact that an ExBf of mine used to tell me i was going balled - No idea why, as it wasn't true. Knob)

I used coconut oil when I was working in the tropics in a dive lodge. It worked wonders with my salt water and sun wrecked hair.

The oil was a lovely easy to use clear liquid. I was more than a bit put out when I moved back to the UK and the bloody stuff went solid!

Ps your hair is perfect. I think your problem is your head. And I mean that nicely, because I am the same when I'm worried. Three big scary life changing things ongoing and I lie awake fretting about a broken shoe or something.

Me too to be honest Twinkle as i first found out about the iron when i was pregnant and they did nothing. Its only recently I've been actually getting into 'healthy' eating rather than just dieting IYSWIM.

I think my plan of action is to go to the doctors, talk about anxiety and maybe CBT and also go to my hairdressers, ill go for a wash and blow and whilst she's doing it just talk to her generally rather than rush in their and get upset.

You have beautiful hair. As a cancer survivor and undergoing chemo losing my hair was one of the worst aspects. I would try to avoid talking about it to your mum and best friend. People used to do this to me but I asked them politely and firmly to stop. Wishing both your mum and friend good health.

What do you mean by strand? If it's ONE hair then you shouldn't be worrying at all. If it's like a proper thick bit of hair....is the rest a bit splintery/splint-endy?

Your hair looks gorgeous by the way. If I saw you in the street I'd probably envy you how healthy and shiny it looks. And by the way I think it looks thick! you must be able to see how pretty it is, do you not think that you're just not seeing it the way everyone else does?

I had a problem with hair falling out and that's all stopped now, but I was really anxious about the whole thing. I was scared to look in the mirror, was brushing my teeth with my eyes closed etc! I realised something wasn't right when I stayed in a hotel and put a towel over the mirror on my room to hide it so I wouldn't accidently catch sight of myself. Unfortunately really the only thing that stopped the worrying about it was that it stopped falling out at such a rate.

My hair was a bit splintery by last summer but I've been putting on conditioner before and after I shampoo it and somehow it's made a real difference. I only started doing that because it made it easier to shampoo

Your hair is utterly beautiful and looks in fabulous condition. It is the hair of my dreams! I think this is a mental health problem, not a style and beauty one. Anxiety is crippling but the doctor can help

Your hair is gorgeous, beautiful & shiny & natural looking.

Your ex probably thought it was beautiful & was trying to knock your confidence. Don't let him succeed!

If the GP hasn't offered you an iron prescription then you should ask for it OP. Spirulina is also a good source of iron, and nutrients in general.

Just a thought. I have fine hair which breaks off easily and my new hairdresser told me to stop using shampoo with sulphates in as they are so harsh and also to not use conditioners or other products with silicone in. Silicone is like a plastic coating your hair which eventually stops your hair being able to avoid absorbing any moisture and can make it dry and brittle. He recommended using Body Shop products which are both sulphate and silicone free.

HTH!

Janespade, I think your ex has projected his fear of going bald onto you, and it's really his problem.

Your hair looks in good shape to me. It's lush.
I think however you need to address an underlying anxiety issue.
Also I think you need to take a very good complex B vitamin supplement: it's good for nervous types who fret.
Solgar do a good one.

Please don't let that ex bf dump his problems on your head, literally!

If you find yourself getting really obsessive, try taking St. John's wort, and seeing a cognitive behavioural therapist to help reframe your anxiety so you can be anxiety free and live your life without a care!