To throw a pack of wet wipes at my husband?

[appletarts]

I am so frustrated. Can you please tell me would you be wound up with this? Today we were having homemade pizzas and we always have mushroom, DS has food allergies so has to have lots of veg as no cheese. So DH does usual shop this morning and mushrooms are on the list but he comes home without them, I don't make any fuss, no big deal. So he makes pizzas (this is the only meal he makes each week, saturday morning) while I clean upstairs. Turns out he has put one of the pizzas on a pizza tray with holes flat on the bottom of the (not so clean) oven, not on a rack, flat on the bottom of the oven. Plus on DS pizza he has only put courgette and pepper, no other veg. So now I'm frigging irritated because the pizza for DS looks very sorry for itself and our pizza is flat on bottom of grubby oven. STILL I bite my tongue. Then he hoovers downstairs for 15 minutes to do a bad job and then when I come back down the sodding pizzas are burnt, he'll eat them but they're crap and burnt. I blew up and threw a pack of wet wipes at him and he's stormed out leaving DS upset not knowing where he's gone. GRRR He regularly does small bodge ups like this and I'm losing patience fast. Would you be pissed off? I've now spent 20 mins cleaning up kitchen after him and whole lot went in bin and I had to make another lunch which is all taking time away from reading I'm meant to be doing for my degree - ARSE>

I'm at a loss to understand why this is in Style and Beauty, unless it is something to do with the Wetwipes?
YABU to throw anything at all, but I would have got irritated before you did and shouted much earlier so YANBU in that respect.
Try and have a nice afternoon.

YANBU to be a bit annoyed at a ruined lunch, but I'd have left him to sort it out.
YABbloodyU to throw anything at him in anger! Even a pack of wet wipes. If you'd done that to me I'd have stormed out too!

If he regularly bodges jobs, and you always run in to fix things, that's why he keeps doing it. Either he does it on purpose so you'll take over, or he's given up trying as he's fed up of not being able to get anything right. I know it's hard to let go, and step back, when you can see things going wrong, but you need to leave him to fix his own messes. He burnt lunch? Well that's a bugger, what's he going to do about it? Made a mess in the kitchen? Ask him when it's likely to be cleaned up, as you'll try to stay out of the way until then. :)

If this was a man who had thrown a packet of wet wipes at his partner because she'd not cooked lunch properly and had hoovered badly, we'd be telling him exactly what we think of him, Andrew if hotly so.

Why are we saying YANBU to the OP - I think she has behaved appallingly.

Seems to be some double standards on MN sometimes.....

We are not.
We both said she was being unreasonable to have thrown anything!

PoppadomPreach, re-read the replies.

"YABU to throw anything at all"
"YABbloodyU to throw anything at him in anger!"

Oh yes, a whole flock of people claiming the OP is NBU...

Definitely unreasonable. And also on wrong forum!!