Have no style please advise.

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Basically that. I now have 3 children and it seems I have lost sight of how I look.
No idea on what to wear/ how to dress myself anymore. Am sick of it.

Please help me choose nice things. For example at the moment I am wearing a pair of jeans from Asda & a very light brown jumper. I look boring. The jumper is too tight.

It is making my quite miserable. I look quite plain most of the time. In turn, I don't bother with my make up or hair either because I feel like I already don't look nice in what I'm wearing.

Im sorry you feel fed up about this, i sympathise as i too have moments of feeling super un-stylish! Firstly though think about what makes you feel good most of all and start there. For me its my hair; if that is cut well and coloured i always feel hugely revived and feeling more groomed. Also eyebrows shaped, toenails bright colour etc - just little things that make you feel a bit 'done'
I think then you should find out what works for your shape - you dont say what your size or colouring is - but finding a few basics really helped me dress day to day easily. For example soft skinny jeans or jeggings or leggings with long boots (pick boots you can wear for every day not just smart), tunic tops and knitted dresses are my staples. Scarves also in many different materials and colours help to joosh up a day outfit! Longline vests under tops make me feel less consious of shorter tops riding up - Primark ones are great.

Hope some of this helps; im no expert but as a mum of two with school runs & work to juggle i understand

I feel like this a lot too - I think everyone does to be honest - even my super stylish Sil (lives in Dalston East London, stick thin etc) has confided that she has her moments of doubt

I would start with hair and face, start "doing" your face in the morning - small amount of foundation/base, little bit of eyeliner, hint of blusher. Start small so you don't feel too "made up". Get in to the habit of doing this and checking how you look. If you have no make up, start with just basics.

As for clothes, don't buy anything yet! Instead take some time to properly assess your body shape. Who do you look like and then what looks good on them?
There are things and looks I aspire to which look awful on me. I am a proper pear shape (big bum and thighs, smaller on top) I suit a line skirts and need to keep my upper arms covered. I love the sloppy jumper and ruched mini skirt with tights look - it will never work on me.

Have you looked on Pinterest? You can search on "street style" etc and "pin" pictures of style ideas to your own pin board.
this is my "style ideas" board as an example be warned! it's an addictive site

Only once you have a grasp of what you need to get should you then go shopping - and then far better to do it online, try on when kids are asleep/in front of TV and chuck back what doesn't work.

Hells suggestion of scarves is vv good too - plenty a boring outfit has been made interesting by a cheap primark £4 scarf wrapped round a neck

HtH

Thank you, this does help. I have no idea who I look like, what shape I am, or even what would suit me.

I feel like because I'm over weight, that's all people see. I really think that I am not me at the moment, if that makes sense? I used to be very well dressed & generally made an effort to look nice most of the time.

This morning I did the school run, I had messy hair, no makeup which makes me look ill, boots that are falling apart, a pink raincoat & jeans. I felt awful & came back home in tears.

I need to lose weight (I'm aware this is not the right thread for weight issues, just saying) I'm getting married next year, & need to fit into a beautiful dress by then.

I really don't have a lot of money, otherwise I would go out and buy a lot of lovely clothes/ fitted bras/ decent shoes.

It sounds naff but money won't really help. You could have a windfall £1000 just to spend on clothes and still have nothing to wear in a few weeks.
When you have a limited budget it's more important to really work out what will suit you and what is therefore worth getting. Even if you then get things from eBay (which is where I get most of my stuff tbh).

I would start by taking a couple of pictures of yourself ( get DP or good friend to help) now look at your shape - forgetting any extra weight you have on, what are your proportions? Wide shoulders? Waist / no waist? Apple or pear? If you need help on working this out, get one of the Trinny and Susannah books out of your library.

Get your most blunt/honest "friends" to give you a proper appraisal. It might be hurtful, but only once you really know what your shape is can you start to dress it. You can then also look at which colours have suited you in th past and which haven't. Once you have a "rule book" for yourself, you won't ever have a pink mac moment again, as you won't be letting yourself buy anything like that in the future.

You then need a wish list of new things to get. Look for multi wear things - boots with a decent sole that will last through the winter that are also smart enough to wear (Clark's) good quality jersey tops (consider Isabella Oliver maternity long sleeved t-shirts - Great ruching and last and last (get them on eBay)

As for your morning routine, sorry to say it, but try setting alarm earlier so you can spend a little more time on yourself before you leave the house. Easier said than done when you have dcs but you have to work out a way to manage this into your morning routine somehow.

Could be that you have to give something up to fit this in? Maybe you go to bed earlier to have time for exercise/run (ok in new year once weather is better) before dcs are up?

This all sounds like a "new year - new you" plan, so how about taking December to get your plan sorted out? Then you can at least feel like you have a plan - ie the plan for now is to make the plan.

Very good advice here on clothes and accessories - eg, scarves which quickly jazz up a look.

I'd also advise starting with a great hair cut - your hair is with you whatever you wear. Sounds like you need something that not only looks good and is 'modern' but is easy to maintain.

I do also recommend getting the right bra fitted - makes a huge difference - again, whatever you wear.