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is it ever ok to wear white to a wedding?

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eefs · 06/07/2006 16:55

have a lovely outfit for a wedding next week - green and white skirt and a white strapless top - only today I twigged that I'm wearing white to a wedding - is it completely unacceptable?

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poisson · 06/07/2006 16:58

strapless top in a church not ok imo

Ladymuck · 06/07/2006 17:00

Only if you're absolutely sure that the bride has abandoned tradition herself....

Or if you look very fat in it (and the bride doesn't) .

PrettyCandles · 06/07/2006 17:01

On its own I would say not OK - both from the point that it's strapless and tht it's white. What if you wore a green shrug or gauzy shawl over? That would be OK I think.

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eefs · 06/07/2006 17:02

will have green cardi on over it for th church and photos - but later on will be just wearing top and skirt.

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eefs · 06/07/2006 17:05

The bride is bridezilla herself, it could possible be very traditional and will definately be very well organised and scheduled in 3 minute slots. feck. guess I'll have to rethink.

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PrettyCandles · 06/07/2006 17:07

Oh I think that's all right then. It's really only the church bit that matters from the modesty point of view, and the church plus the photos from the white point of view.

mazzystar · 06/07/2006 17:12

i've been to weddings where there have been women wearing white or cream strapless dresses (short ones) with fascinators in their hair! extremely bridal. weird.

but if there's plenty of other colour in your outfit i don't think its a faux pas.

LeahE · 06/07/2006 17:16

I think green and white skirt with green top would be OK. Given bridezilla tendencies I'd be inclined to rethink the white top.

charmkin · 06/07/2006 17:23

i say no. Mil wanted to wear white for my wedding. Told her NO WAY. Even the colour she had to go with it was red, the colour of the flowers. Sillydrieduptryingtostealgloryonmybigdayoldbitch.

katierocket · 06/07/2006 17:26

I think it's fine - your outfit sounds nice. I wore white and black to a wedding once. I think it's weird when people say it's upstaging the bride - surely only if you turn up in a wedding dress!

WellKnownMemorablePeachyClair · 06/07/2006 17:38

Charmkin, at least your MIl didnt want to wear her dark funeral suit. Mine did.

chopsolata · 06/07/2006 17:41

not at all i wore white to a wedding last year, and it was a strappy top, so wouldnt worry too much about bearing your shoulders in church, lots of women were wearing nice strapless dresses.

Think as long as youre not in something bride-y its ok

SherlockLGJ · 06/07/2006 18:05

No shoulders in church.

MrsJohnCusack · 06/07/2006 18:08

oh am PMSL at Sillydrieduptryingtostealgloryonmybigdayoldbitch

hilarious

I agree about the no shoulders in church bit, although suspect that loads of people will think I'm a right old fuddy-duddy for that. Went to a wedding recently where a couple of 20-somethings were practically nude and it didn't look good.
Green cardy sounds like a good idea, and you won't be all in white will you? I think it's being dressed all in white that looks a bit odd at a wedding

SherlockLGJ · 06/07/2006 18:11

Cardi for church and photos,then after that I should think it will make not a whit of difference. TBH

pebblemum · 06/07/2006 18:38

I think what you have chose sounds nice, its not as if you will be dressed all in white with a tiara and veil is it?

I had at least 2 guest turn up at my wedding all in white but it didnt bother me that much, they came nowehere near to looking as gorgeous as i did so there was no way they could upstage me!!

I also dont see the problem of showing off your shoulders in church, many people wear strappy/strapless tops/dresses to weddings including the brides themselves.

Im sure your bride will be too busy being nervous or enjoying herself to notice that your top is white.

BagelBird · 06/07/2006 18:42

We were at a wedding couple of weeks ago - very traditional and rather posh. Loads of the women were wearing white and black or white and red. Seemed rather fashionable and those skinny mares looked rather good with black hat/shoes/jewellry. Don?t think it looked strange as white is really fashionable at the mo. I would never have thought about wearing black to a wedding before but after seeing these rather trendy socialites admit they looked great
If you wear a coloured top bit over the white as planned for the wedding ceremony and photos and there isn?t just a large area of white, I bet you will look great

mummyofeb · 06/07/2006 19:22

oops, I've got a chinese white dress that may confuse some people when I'll be at a wedding in August, perhaps I should rethink my whole outfit!!

Really depends on bride's views but from the sounds of it, you've got other colours in your outfit which shouldn't be a problem. Enjoy the wedding.

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