What to wear to a (Quaker) Wedding?

[Dontlookattheknees]

I'm going to a Quaker wedding this week.
What the he'll do I wear?

Usual wedding outfit? More simple? Skirt or trousers?
I have never even been inside a meeting house.

Oooh interesting question. I'm sure trousers are ok but I think I would go as simple but as pretty/elegant as possible. Definately not puritan but quiet in every sense maybe? What sort of thing would you normally wear?

I found this reference 'Quakers desire to step lightly in the world, avoiding excess and unnecessary complication. This can apply to their personal lifestyles e.g. buying habits, possessions, savings, travel and food. Simplicity is also shown in our way of worship.'. Now I wouldn't have thought they're going to spend too much time judging folks at a wedding but you may feel more comfortable if you bear that in mind.

Wear what you like. I personally wouldn't wear a hat but I'm sure others would. I would also tend to lean towards trousers, simply because in most meetings, people are facing towards each other in rows around a space, so more covered up is more comfortable for me in those circs.

Because of the silence in meeting (less so during a meeting on a wedding day, IME) I wouldn't wear noisy jewellery or shoes that I couldn't walk quietly in, but again I'm sure others wouldn't worry about this.

Some Friends would still tend to dress quietly, but tbh that is much less focused on these days IME [not a Friend but have been close to a few over the years]

I have a friend who is a Quaker and her general fashion sense is around quite earthy colours and pretty jewellery but small and dainty. But maybe that's just what she likes

Wear whatever you like! Absolutely no 'right' thing to wear to a quaker wedding. Nobody will care one jot if you turn up dressed as a showgirl in my experience. They will smile, shake your hand and ask you all about your unique sense of style!
A ordinary meeting for worship is usually a real mish mash on the fashion front but there really isn't a feeling of simplicity in what people wear. It's just whatever they fancy. At a wedding most people will dress up but likely to be a mix of more relaxed stuff and more traditional wedding stuff. Have fun!

How well do you know the bride? I've been to five Quaker weddings (family) and at all of them the bride has chosen to dress very simply and whilst you absolutely can wear what you like if you are going to feel uncomfortable if you are dressed more elaborately than the bride then it might be worth checking out what she will be wearing. Of course Quaker brides can wear big white dresses too so this may be a non-issue.

Personally I dress as I would for any wedding for a Quaker wedding. There definitely won't be a code beyond wear what you feel is comfortable and does honour to the occasion. Which depending on the person could be a clean t-shirt or something strapless and satin, both would be appreciated.

Quakers weddings are lovely, you don't have to say anything unless you feel you want to/feel moved to but generally people do say lovely things about the couple so they can be quite emotional affairs (waterproof mascara), no one conducts a ceremony, the couple just spontaneously make their vows and at the end everyone signs the marriages certificate so you will always be part of their celebration.

Great thanks - I'm thinking that I'll either wear plain summer trousers or one of my (knee length) dresses that I've worn to other weddings/christenings

Penelope I know the groom - lived with him all through uni.

My uncle just married a Quaker, and everyone (including the bride) was dressed very plainly - just smart-casual.

Wear what you like. My husband's family are all Quaker (and very active in the church) and the weddings I've been to are much the same as any other wedding (with the exception of the silence) - i.e. people coming together to celebrate the love two people have for eachother.

I would maybe take my cue from what the plans for the reception are. If it's tea and sandwiches in the meeting house garden - then fairly casual. If there's a sit down reception afterwards, then you may want to get a bit more dressed up!

We know quite a few quakers. Gently boho I'd say.