Please help me-funeral clothes

[TiredMule]

I'm such a stupid idiot. It's my dmil's funeral tomorrow and all week I've been confident I've got something to wear and not worried as we've been so busy. I've just spent 2 hours trying on everything I own and dd taking photos and it all looks shite. I've developed serious muffin top over the top of everything I own, I think the past few months of stress have caused me to put on half a stone at least I hadn't really realised.
I know that really on the grand scale of things it really doesn't matter what I wear, but I don't want to let mil down or feel self conscious tomorrow. She was only 59 so we were trying to avoid black.
What can I do? What should I wear?
I'm kicking myself for leaving this all so late

Have you got a cardigan or jacket you could put on over what you were intending to wear? Or just get a cardi quickly? I know you say it doesn't matter but you want to be comfortable....

Sorry for your loss

So sorry to hear of your loss.

Are you wanting to wear something you already have or are you planning to shop? Personally I would go with the former as you don't sound like you need the stress of shopping. I assume you want to be smart so I would think back to any smart occasion you've been to in the last few months - theatre, parents evening, work? What did you wear that you felt presentable in? The chances are it won't be warm if you are in UK so you can safely wear opaques, closed in shoes etc - all those wintery things that mean actually you are well covered up and can make a little less effort.

If you have some time this afternoon I would then
Go and buy a new pair of tights if you don't have the sort you want to wear still in packet so you have tights with no pulls etc
Pluck eyebrows
Give yourself a manicure and choose a nice but probably not very bright polish
Do any facially type stuff you do when you have time
I bet you haven't had time to do those things for a while and you will feel more groomed if you do.

If you decide you have to buy something don't panic as plenty of shops are open for hours yet. You can even buy something which will look very smart from sainsburys or tesco if necessary. The quality won't be fantastic but you may very well not want to wear something you buy for tomorrow again anyway. If you need suggestions for a purchase what size, body shape, height and colouring are you?

Thank you
Main problem is that I haven't really done smart apart from weddings and a few parties for the last 7 years as I'm a sahm.
So everything smart I have isn't right or is pre dds so doesn't fit very well.
This includes shoes, but also the funeral is at a woodland burial ground so heels aren't really an option. I only have some black ballets or black leather flip flops from jones.
I have a black dress with bright flower and bird pattern on which out of everything is probably the best but is too short for my bare legs. Would leggings be really bad? Would opaques be better?
I've found an old cardie that goes with it, although isn't looking it's best.
Don't think shopping is really going to be an option, especially with dds in tow, but could make it to tesco or asda.
Really kicking myself.
I'm 5'8" size 12 and 30.
Thank you so much for your help. My forced calmness has been totally shot, just glad dh isn't here so I don't stress him out more

It is raining torrentially where I am so ballet shoes wouldn't be an option.

The dress sounds like a really good option. Is it wintery or is it a summer one? I would consider wearing boots. If its wintery you could wear something like black riding boots and that would mean you had very little leg on show.

This might sound a bit silly but 5ft 8 is quite tall and a size 12 is about a medium guy. Does your DH have a pair of smart black or grey trousers you could borrow. With the right heels, belt and top you will prob get away with it.

thank you for you help.

Went with the dress, tights and ballet flats in the end, felt ok but not great. It all went ok, just still can't believe it