Funeral outfit. Not dark or black.

[Judyandherdreamofhorses]

I have nothing vaguely smart or appropriate. I think it needs to be longish length?

I really don't want to buy new shoes. I've got nude wedges.

I know this all sounds very trivial and stupid, but ideas welcome. I'm medium height, slimmish, 37.

It's my dad. We weren't that close. Divorced from my mum and remarried many years ago. Not that that's relevant here.

Navy and Yellow
Navy and Apple Green
Navy and Peach
Navy and Red

But I love navy and pink and I think it is a classic combination.

I don't think I can really 'do' accessories. And new bag, shoes and all that are out of budget really.

Hmm. I think the thought of the nice dress being just right was holding me together.

The funeral isn't for another 2 weeks, I've just heard today. That'll be three weeks since he died. A long time!

I suppose I can just go and look in some shops now I know there's plenty of time. Originally it was suggested that the funeral might be this Friday or just after the weekend.

I don't really feel like dress shopping though!

I think the dove dress could still be "just right". I love the idea of doves on a dress at a funeral - so uplifting.

Could you wear the dress with you nude wedges and a bright scarf? I'm so sorry for your loss, and also that you have to wait so long for the funeral. That must be difficult. Hang in there!!

The dress is hardly dull.

What about bright red lipstick?

Thanks everyone.

So, how do I wear a scarf? I am not a scarf wearer, though always think they look great on other people. Where do I get a nice one? It's all a bit hippy round here, which is all very well but doesn't go with that lovely dress.

TBH I don't think you NEED to add anything to the dress for it to be perfect. If you'd like to then teathers is right about a scarf, but if you'd feel awkward then don't do it!

It's quite normal to transfer a lot of worry and stuff after a death onto what one will wear to the funeral especially with having to wait so awfully long and having no input into the arrangements. But, I assure you that realistically seen the dress with nowt added is good. Very good.

If you'd like some links for scarves and how to wear them I'll pop some up later if teathers hasn't already.

Agree with MrsL, if you're not comfortable with a scarf, don't wear one...

If you do want one, I'd get something like this and tie it with a knot at the side like this

Ah, yes, exactly that with the scarf indeed. I find one of those tiny safety pins in the back of the knot a godsend with slippery fabrics.

I'd missed the bit about your DH being stuck for something. What's his usual sort of style? I think I saw some jumpers in Zara but maybe he's more of a shirt person.

Thanks. I do quite like that look with the scarf. Perhaps I'll experiment. Alternatively, I'll keep a look out for some nice jewellery. But I've decided to stick with the dress and interpret it as 'not top to toe black'.

DH can either wear a dark suit or work trousers and a jumps if he prefers. He's got some smart ones.