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wedding dress - I regret not having one!

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Sparklemagic · 22/04/2006 19:49

Just had to rant. Went to a friend's wedding last month and have been regretting my own wedding dress ever since.

My friend looked gorgeous, the dress was amazing, make-up and hair immaculate.....I was so pleased for her, but ever since have been FED UP with myself! At our wedding, I wanted no fuss at all, am very uncomfortable being the centre of attention so we kept to a very small, intimate do (which I don't regret at all, it was lovely). But I suppose I got into a mindset of playing it all down to avoid it becoming a 'weddingy' wedding IYKWIM, that I just chose a really plain, coloured dress and did my hair and make-up myself.

Now all of a sudden it has sunk in that I'll never get the chance to look as amazing as my friend did...and I'm not getting any younger Sad
Wish I'd gone for it when I had the chance.....

Does anyone else regret what they wore? Or am I alone, does everyone else know what they want at the time? I can be chronically indecisive, I know....!

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beansprout · 22/04/2006 19:52

I had a dress (Monsoon off ebay) but we cut out an awful lot of stuff and although it was v relaxed it was a bit too relaxed and everyone drifted off so it was all over by about 7pm!! If I could go back, I would do some things differently but I don't regret not being in loads of debt and I don't regret marrying dh (not today anyway!) so that's the main thing I suppose. It is only one day after all. That's what I tell myself!!!

SenoraPostrophe · 22/04/2006 19:53

you had a good wedding day though didn't you? If you are not the centre of attention type, you may have felt self-conscious all day in a posh frock. you'd have the pics, but what's to stop you getting a professional makeover and photo done on a non-wedding day?

sparkler1 · 22/04/2006 19:56

We got married nearly 8 years ago now. My wedding day was lovely and I had everything the way I wanted it at the time.

I have been to lots of weddings since where I have found myself looking around thinking how lovely (and awful) things were that they had chosen and how I would love to have had them myself. I think this will always be the case as things change constantly over the years.

I often think that when dh and I reach a special anniversary we may renew our wedding vows and kind of do it all again. Maybe then I can have the things that I have thought of.

Luggs · 22/04/2006 19:56

I know exactly how you feel as I went and married abroad simply because I also hate being the centre of attention and the thought of everyone looking at me was too much ! Now I am older I do sometimes wish I'd braved a traditional wedding with the lovely dress but I know it wasn't me and I probably wouldn't have gone through with it. Perhaps you could renew your vows and finally get to wear the dress and drink lots of champagne!

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Sparklemagic · 22/04/2006 19:58

senora, you're right, I did have a good day and looking back perhaps I did think I'd feel silly in all the bridal gear. I suppose it's only looking back that I appreciate you generally only get one chance to look like that! So setting divorce aside (for now Grin) I think maybe I will think about a makeover or something, just to experience looking 'done' for once!

beansprout, I'm like you, I don't regret our sort of wedding for a second, spending thousands just wasn't an option!

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jenkel · 22/04/2006 19:58

We married young, so not much money so it was done on a budget but was a proper church wedding. It was a lovely day but I would have loved to have stayed in a lovely hotel and go somewhere exotic for our honeymoon, we had a long weekend in Paris in a budget hotel. The day was lovely, but a tiny bit of me wishes we had not got married so young and had saved a little so I could have a wedding of my dreams, or my dreams now anyway.

But we have always said to make up for that we at some stage we will renew our vows and spoil ourselves rotten at the same time.

moondog · 22/04/2006 19:59

SM,could you not do a renewal of vows and make it a bit of a do if that is your thing??

We had a registry office ceremony with just the two of us present as frothy wddings not my thing.
Have never regretted it though.

moondog · 22/04/2006 20:01

SM,personally feel there is too much emphasisand money spent on flash weddings,often by those who can least afford them.

Ultimately they are all pretty formulaic,however much people (ie women) kid themselves that theirs stood out.)

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Sparklemagic · 22/04/2006 20:01

Thanks luggs and sparkler Smile

I hadn't thought of the renewing vows thing....maybe it's a thought for our tenth anniversary???!! We didn't get married in church though, can you do civil ceremonies for this soirt of thing?

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Sparklemagic · 22/04/2006 20:02

The thing with me is I was perfectly happy with the wedding, just not the dress!

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sparkler1 · 22/04/2006 20:02

I see this like many things in life. We always wish we did things differently. Guess it just shows that we just have to make the most of every moment of everyday. Smile

Luggs · 22/04/2006 20:03

Yes - most hotels in the Uk offer and also lots of people were renewing their vows when we were on holiday in Mauritius - plently wearing the full wedding dress etc.

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Sparklemagic · 22/04/2006 20:04

ooooh, interesting, thanks luggs.......

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Luggs · 22/04/2006 20:07

If it is any consolation mine was awful - a white linen sundress (think about the creases!)and my husband wore shorts. Like you I enjoyed the actual wedding and I know plently of people with a wonderful dress whos wedding was ruined by awful family etc. so I figure we'd all change something if we could (some their husband with the benefit of hindsight)Grin.

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Sparklemagic · 22/04/2006 20:14

lol luggs, you're very wise!

So far the husband hasn't worked out too badly!

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