What do people wear to funerals?

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Gong to the funeral of elderly relative of DH and I have no idea what to wear. I'm a SAHM so do not have any black suits. Went shopping briefly and bought a close fitting, knee length, sleeveless black & grey dress which I could wear with a black blazer but am worried that it may be too much. Don't want to look like I'm going to a party but can't afford to buy something I won't wear again.

Any ideas?

Can you link to it? So long as it's not too tight then I think it should be OK.

I really struggled with this a couple of years ago...it was meant to be black with a 'splash' of colour but tbh everything felt inappropriate, anything bright seemed wrong, as did anything gloomy.

I ended up wearing a dark grey, knee length skirt with black patterns on, and a black skinny long sleeved top, and some rather unfitting knee length boots I'd hastily dyed dark blacky blue but looked a bit greeny . It was all wrong - and it was a huge journey and I actually got twenty minutes along on the train and came home as I felt so wrong.

I didn't go in the end
Nothing was the right thing iyswim.
Your dress sounds lovely - but I think anything 'normal' but dark coloured, as long as it's tidy and smart, will be fine. Though if it is an emotional time for you, you may not want to wear those clothes again as they will remind you.

Sounds fine. Not everybody is totally in black - family would rather people came, than stayed away for not having the "right" clothes.
Sorry for your loss.

Long sleeved black dress, black trouser suit or black dress and black jacket. Matching coat and shoes.
Minimal or no jewellery.

You might also want to consult someone a bit older. They go to funerals all the time and know about the more subtle codes of conduct (flowers etc).

Oh and remember thrift shops.
I went to a friend's funeral last year :( and the younger participants wore everything from black denim to full-on goth gear - it was fine. I think the key is to show respect and to be there, but it's easier for yourself if you fit in.

You are also very lucky if this is the only funeral you'll ever go to.

Just something darkish coloured and unfussy I'd say. Don't think it has to be all black. We had a funeral the other week and I wore black trousers and a black chiffon top with a fairly muted floral pattern.
Sorry for your loss.

Unless otherwise instructed, wear dark and smart. Doesn't need to be black

So navy skirt, grey sweater and dark brown coat much better than black jeans and black biker jacket. Doesn't need to have long sleeves, just not sleeveless ( without cardi or jacket) , mini, too tight or showing cleavage .

Can't you borrow something from a friend? Most women have a pair of dark trousers or a skirt in their wardrobe. And wear with your black blazer and a plain top. Then you coudl return the dress if you don't think you will wear it again

As others have said, the family will just be pleased that you have come to pay your respects

I have been to lots of funerals and honestly, you need to get it REALLY wrong for anyone to notice your clothes.the only ones I can remember are a young woman who turned up in a white cotton strappy sundress with a very plunging neckline. and the woman who wore black jeans, biker boots and a t shirt with a logo loudly proclaiming her sexual preferences .

Wear whatever you like, nothing skimpy (obviously), or too garish.
Nothing that says "look at me", like all black.