Any hair colour experts? Grey hair won't dye true

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I have been having my hair coloured at the same hairdressers for 12 years, with gradually less and less successful results as I've become greyer. I'm now pretty much white haired naturally, except for a bit at the back.

Gold colours won't take at all on my hair, and the red component of any colour seems not to work, leaving me with weird and unpredictable shades of white, pink and purple. The hairdresser is at a loss, and I'm at my wits end. My only option seems to be to embrace the grey ().

I don't know whether to try a different hairdresser, or whether that's just a passport to more purple and white stripes. Has anyone got any ideas?

If it really is white naturally, why not just let it go?
Mine's pure white. It started to go in my twenties & by my mid thirties I gave up the pfaff of colouring it & just let it be. Perhaps because I was young when it happened, or because I had the sort of face that meant I was always being asked for id in pubs, everyone assumed it was platinum blonde.
Even nowadays I regularly get asked where I get my hair coloured! My Dil is actually talking about getting hers bleached to the same & hers is a gorgeous dark brown.

I really, really can't face it. It will age me enormously - something I feel very sensitive about.

I am going through this. I would definitely embrace the grey if mine was all over. It can look so beautiful and less ageing than the obvious dyed look. The only way my grey will cover is if I bleach it first to make it more porous. Absolute faff it is too. So I would trade with you any day!

Going grey looking great may be a good site-Facebook one as the other one is down.

The most elegant woman on the morning bus is in her early fifties I'd say, with grey hair that's white in parts. She has it short and sort of brushed/spiked. Dresses well. Often sits with a friend who's an unlikely conker brown, probably similar age but looks older. I know who I want to be when I grow up

No....ooo....ooo. This is not what I want to hear. I'm 55, and not ready to look like a granny yet.

I want natural looking coloured hair. Is that too much to ask?

What about a set of lovely highlights instead of darker colours?

I am 30 and had my (30-40% grey) hair dyed for the last time on Friday. I'm fed up with the maintenance, nasty chemicals and having to sit in a salon whilst my brain rots.

Someone on here mentioned the Aveda colour deposit shampoos and conditioners and I have the black malva ones to try and slightly tint the greys as my roots grow out.

I plan to use the money I save to splurge on a few expensive haircuts a year and some botox!

Really, once you are very very grey, all dye looks odd as you are trying to populate all of the colour in a translucent hair. I'm 39 and white at the front, grey elsewhere, and I don't look like a granny.

I think unless you start spending really serious money on colouring your hair, its time to embrace your naturtal hair

I feel for you op as I have exactly the same problem. I think grey hair can look good if you have for example a sharp bob, but with my frizzy hair and glasses I will look like an eighty year old granny.
Bumping hoping someone has an answer

I have the same problem and Im only 25 :( I had to stop using box dyes as my hair got so thin it looked like I hardly had any, I tried henna for a whole which makes the greys go a kind of red colour but now I'm just embracing the au natural look

Well I'm prepared to spend serious money - just not for purple and white hair. The alternative is too awful to bear. I'm so shallow! But it doesn't help that I'm currently job hunting in an ageist sector. Grey hair really REALLY won't help.

I'm aiming for a light golden blonde/caramel base sort of colour - nothing too dark, and have been having highlights with the base filled in in the darker shade. It's just the colours are going weird.

Lala, you are young enough to look fantastic with white hair - no-one is going to think you are a granny! Unlike me.

I'd have thought another try at another hair dresser would be at least worth a try - it doesn't sound like it could go much worse.

Maybe ask around locally.

If that doesn't work then it may be time to embrace the gray.

I'm at the start of the graying process but I know a lot of older women locally who are naturally gray who seem to look great with dyed hair and various high lights - I've already made a not of where they go.

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I'm sure you look fab with grey hair but if you really are desperate and don't mind spending the money then I recommend booking appointment with Vidal Sassoon if there's one near you
A friend of mine worked and did her training there and they are pretty much best in the business high street wise
They will give you an honest opinion about whether it can be done and the best way to do it to keep your hair in a good condition

I'm 99 % grey (according to my hairdresser, I would beg to differ, I would say only 90% ) .I have very resistant hair - and they use inoa on me.
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They leave it on for about 30mins. It works, but of course I have to have it done every 3 weeks, and it's not cheap.