You have clearly caught on to your symptoms early which is great. That way you can take action and stop any redness becoming permanent.
I didn't so am suffering permanent redness on cheeks chin neck and chest.
Rosex and metro gel didn't do a lot for me. Initially 7 months of erythromycin cleared it but it came back and I was pregnant and by the time I was done with pregnancy and bfing the redness was here to stay.
The very best thing I have tried and still use is Finacea on prescription. It takes the sting and redness down a lot and any rough scaliness goes too. I really recommend it
I too avoid all products with parabens and sls as that gives me an immediate reaction. Propylene glycol which is in practically everything is a massive problem too
I have discovered some very pure products made by a company called Akamuti - thanks to S&B on MN- that their products are completely free of anything chemical and their soap is Castile ie saponified oils (olive Shea butter etc) and their stuff makes my face happy
Aspirin face mask but don't use dissolvable aspirin, crush the ordinary kind as dispirin contains a couple of extra additives which can sting. That takes down inflammation and really helps redness. I do that a couple of times a week.
I find the Green people baby sunscreen the best. Only one which doesn't irritate.
I cannot use liquid foundation sadly and most mineral make ups are out too. I can use lily lolo ok. But if I am having a very bad flare up, I don't use brush or flocked sponge to apply as its sore. I then pour out some of the mineral powder and add a tiny few drops of water and apply that like a liquid to my face. It gives a nice finish too.
I have never drunk alcohol so can't comment on whether it helps to give that up. I have been making an effort to lose post baby weight (2nd dc) and been on a low carb diet and cut out sugar and white carb and that has been surprisingly helpful and kept flare ups away and redness the lowest it's been for several years
Btw I don't get spots or pustules I just get redness which has spread beyond my face to my upper body.
I won't lie and say it doesn't get to me because it can do. I am learning to deal with it and every time I find something which helps, its a small victory which helps my confidence.
If it helps, I think mine is very bad and noticeable but the reality is most people don't notice. I recently confided in a very good friend who was amazed and said I always looked so flawless. Perhaps she was being kind but she looked genuinely surprised.
Rather than get down about it, look for new things to help keep it at bay. That's the key to avoid the sort of depression you see mentioned on the various rosacea forums.
Fwiw. The thickend skin and large noses mostly happens to men and I have been assured by two different dermatologists that neither had seen a woman with thickened skin or bulbous nose.