4 letter words tattooed across your fingers

[Divster]

Yes or no?

My 20 year old daughter has just had it done, I am very very very :( about it.

I am not anti tattoos, she has a few others but across your fingers, a letter on each?

Surely there are times when you just need to cover up your tattoos, so is collar and cuff a golden tattoo rule? Or should it be?

I have several tattoos myself and plan more in the future but I have lived with them for quite some time now. I have no problem with tattoos on the knuckles on a male or female, however this is someone that is already heavily tattooed and has lived with them for several years. One of my best girlfriends is a tattoo artist and she has this done, but it's fitting for her line of work. Hands, feet and heads are only things that she will do on other people that are already tattooed and have lived with them for quite some time.

I am shocked that you say that this is a first tattoo. She has made a choice that she has to live with. Laser removal is not an 'easy' option either, I have a girlfriend lasering off a very large arm tattoo and she says it is the most painful thing she has ever had done, not to mention the horrid smell of burning flesh whilst getting it done.

I have a small but vivid scar on my upper arm which I can hide with Dermablend. Your DD might like to try it on her fingers for certain social or work events. I loathe tattoos but each to their own.

What a silly silly girl :(

I would second what 4going has said. Lasering hurts like the blazes and is not to be done lightly. I've never known agony like it and I've birthed two children with only G&A.

she will regret that. How will it lookwhen she wants to wear a lovely ring?

But at least it was not LOVE and HATE in homemade blue ink from prison.

I am not a fan of tattoos at all, generally speaking, but I occasionally see a woman with something stunning/classy that I think she will be able to carry off for life without looking like a ropey old fishwife. I quite like the tiny ones between thumb and upper wrist, or the dinky ones on the back of the wrist, or on the ankle. They are like the modern day beauty spot. but beyond that I think the collar and cuffs rule is most advisable.

I saw a young girl with tattoos all down her thighs and her calves the other day, and I was for her. She didn't have the greatest/slimmest legs which means once she's put on baby weight she will be a bit dumpy and her legs will need all the help they can get in later life. Having her calves heavily tattooed will not help, and will make it impossible for her to ever be taken seriously in a business suit or a smart dress when she is older.

I have 2 tattoos which I have had done in my 30s. Took me years to work up to getting them done as I wanted to be sure I wanted could live with them forever. Your daughter is young so I would be worried she might regret it in years to come.
I agree that tattoos should be meaningful to the individual - be them art or script. I have 3 small teal stars on inside of my wrist which represent my DH and 3 children. They are easily covered by a watch or cuff should I not want them on show. The other is a decorative letter on my hip bone that's personal to husband and I.
I knew when I got them done that not everyone would like. It's very much a personal thing. I work in the criminal Justice System (yes those with tattoos can have successful careers) and I see criminals with badly done highly visible tattoos and of course others do judge.

The other day I saw a young girl with what looked like a seamed stocking tattoo down each leg. At the bottom of each leg was the word "undead". At 20ish it probably looks "cool". At 45 she will look ridiculous.

A full sleeve takes weeks and weeks to do - you can't (and shouldn't) have it done all at once.

Does she listen to you at all? Because her friends sound shit :(

Oh lord, sorry that is horrible, my friends daughter has had bad bitch tattooed on in the inside of her lip, my friend is so upset but I suppose its not too obvious.

I second what 'DowagersHump' said. Does your daughter listen to you at all?
Her friends seem a bad influence.

I saw a picture of a couple whose hands were tattoo'd so that when they interlocked their fingers, it spelled SOULMATE.

WHich meant that the girl had SUMT on her hand, and the lad had OLAE

Class.

I must admit that when I first read the title, I thought you meant she had F-U-C-K tatooed on her fingers

I second what Dowagers said. My brother recently had his sleeve finished off - it's taken at least 3 sessions.

She has acted ridiculously.

Gosh that's awful. I would be devastated.

What does she want to do for a career? If it isn't public facing she might get away with it, but job interviews are still going to be tough.

You really really need to stop her getting the sleeve done until she has grown up a bit. Why has she suddenly gone tattoo crazy?

I Personally don't like it out of taste, but irrelavant to that I think tattoos on hands are silly as you can't hide them ever. And although I think it shouldn't matter for jobs, it does and can hold you back.

My sister has 'can't stop' tattooed on her knuckles- red hot chilli pepper fan. I was very shocked when I saw it as she did it in secret do nobody could talk her out of it. My sister has never fitted in with the norm and she is more an edgy style dresser e.g rhianna . I'm use to them now though and don't notice them the same but I am noticing a lot more girls with them now. My sister is a manager quite high up but I'm retail where her edge is seen as fashionably and suits her profession. I think she is cool

She is a hairdresser, think it would have to be a pretty trendy salon that would take her on now.

She knew I was against it, but I seem to have been the first person she sent photos of it to.

I haven't replied, this was Monday. I think her life is going to be pulled by lots of very bad choices :(

The next will be a sperm donor offer over BBM, which she has already had 3 of

It could still be worse - I used to work in an off licence and one of the regulars had 'SPAM' tattoos on each hand

I think a trendy hair salon would be fine about it, my local Toni and Guy (as trendy as you get round here) seems like all the staff are tattoo'd, pierced and have hair like Rhianna!!

Colourists seem to be into tattos, my DH has tats but hates them now.

People think he's been to prison. We play chess and listen to radio 4, no one would imagine that when they see the tats on his arms.

It's not really the image he wants to project, his bosses have them but wear long sleeve shirt all year at work so no one sees them.

She's going to have a full sleeve

I don't have any advice as I don't have teenage or adult daughters but I think that's not a very smart choice for a 19year old. I think my parents would of DIED if I did that. Very career limiting.

I used to go to TUSK salon in London Camden to get my hair coloured. They certainly had hairdressers who were heavily tattooed and punkish looking! I don't live in London anymore and in the current town where I live, there is one salon with fairly unconventional looking hairdressers but that's the only one I know of in the city centre. There aren't that many here. The Toni & Guy near me doesn't have hairdressers looking like that at all. In some of the cities I've lived in, I have never met hairdressers like that - and I do tend to shop around and try different places and stylists. In Leeds for instance I can imagine some salon would have hairdressers like that. I think it all depends on where you live. Or maybe your daughter would be willing to relocate to a city where there is a salon where she'd fit into image-wise.

Maybe you could get FACE PALM tattooed across yours?

Im all for tattoos in general, childrens names, artwork........but letters on fingers imo just look horrible, im not surprised you were upset op-lets hope she doesn't regret them being so young

I think this thread is going to be very negative for you OP

It's done now and there is bugger all you can do. She will survive.