Arrrgghhh! What the actual feck do I wear?!

[sillymillyb]

Please PLEASE can some one get me out of my tizzy?!

My ds is 10 weeks old and his father (my ex) is meeting him for the first time on Thursday. What on earth does one wear for this occasion??

I am about 2... ok, 3... stone heavier since he last saw me. I want to appear competent and able to get on floor to play etc, but at the same time still vaguely attractive. Oh, and I need to be able to breast feed discretely, when Im still rubbish at it, and have up till now just lobbed my boob out regardless of who can see what.

Oh and Im broke - just to help matters :(

Any advice? I am 5ft 1, about a size 14 ish, HUGE boobs (H cup) and pale with blonde hair that has roots a badger would be proud of.

I'd really appreciate any suggestions if any of you have time to have a think. Thank you - offers and liberally!

By the way, my ds's outfit is sorted... but he looks good in anything so it was a hell of a lot easier!!

Mmm, hows about a cross fronted jersey dress with a boobtube or stretchy vest under?

Fantastic for feeding (and flattering on the tummy too), cross front off to the side, boobtube/vest up over the cleavage bit of the beast IYSWIM. TOtal discretion. and no flappy bits of muslin / shawl / whatever is a real bonus - I was always a whapper-outer BFer too and my DC were used to it so hated being covered up when feeding...

Anyway I'd be tempted to go with this and take it up - would be great with ballet flats or flat sandals. Or, maybe this with this under and some wedges if you fancy dressier.

Honestly? Something you are comfy in, and a shawl for the feeding time, why should ex get an eyeful of your size Hs..? After only 10 weeks from giving birth, no-one expects you to be back to your pre pregnancy figure - so just wow him with your calm mothering techniques!
Good luck!

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They have these in lots of colours and patterns, it can't fail but be flattering.
with a little vest under or a cardi over, and wedges or sandals or ballet pumps. Simple and put together and cheap as chips. I reckon there would be a lot of mileage in a dress like that. And you don;t want to look overdressed.

Definitely a big old pashmina scarf thing, they are a godsend for boob coverage.

Do your eyebrows and toenails if showing.

Fab jeans and shoes and a great top (I find the lift the top method much easier, descreet than messing with a dress and a cover up).

Do hair and make-up and nails!

I love that DP dress (and have a few myself, but don't find it easy to feed in (definitely possible, but ou asked for easy). My opinion, though - everybdy else will probably disagree!!

Oh thank you for replying procastination I've been going round in circles!

Its actually rather spooky, as I bought the first linked to dress in black yesterday as a possibility -which reassures me Im on the right tracks at least

So, if I went with that with say a denim jacket and ballet shoes then Im giving the right impression? I never wear jewellry but have a bronze cuff style bangle I was thinking of wearing too.... but then I worry I'll be self conscious as Im not used to wearing the stuff.

Glad Im not the only one who's child is now used to showing the world his mothers boobs - I usually have no shame but in this scenario I think I'd rather stay covered up as much as poss!

Thank you very muchly for replying - I really appreciate it

Get your hairdone at the hairdresser first?

Sorry - to be clear the vest/boobtube under dress/top trick is totally discrete - the most on view a possible glimpse of nipple just before or after latching. Surely more-or-less standard practice?

I used to do dress to the side and the vest up or the top up and vest down under the breast. In either case everything (including all belly flesh) is covered with minimal faff. My DC used to totally freak out if I tried to cover them with a shawl or muslin. We'd usually end up both tugging at it and there was generally a lot of norkage being exposed.

Oooh cross posted with loads more replies - will go have a look now at other suggestions. Many MANY thanks!

Definitely get your hair done first!

Just a colour on it by a friend would make you look good.

A little makeup.

No one will expect you to get on the floor so just be breezy and sophisticated!

Thank you all for your help - I was planning on home colouring my roots and hopng they didn't turn orange tomorrow, and have applied that gradual fake tan stuff so I have a little colour. Will do eyebrows and nails tomorrow night after ds goes sleep. Had thought a pale french manicure? Vampy red seems the wrong vibe for this occasion!

Although no one with an ounce of sense expects me to be pre-pregnancy size, I suspect my ex hasn't thought this through, and I just don't want his first reaction to be shock at fact Im size of a house. So, I figured floor length dress would lengthen me out? He is coming for the day as flying over from Ireland and so will have to get on floor to play at some point.... it also means sustained breezy and sophistication over a period of time

I know I am panicking over the little details, and over thinking this, but I just cant help it. I want the meeting to go so well and for him to love my ds so much, and this is my way of controlling my nerves I think.

meryl I think I'll try that dress on tomorrow - would you go bare legs or tights?

destrier None of my jeans pre pregnancy fit, and I was thinking that replacing them would be a bit more expensive than a dress as I'd need a top too.... I used to live in boyfriend jeans before, but Im also concerned they would make me look bigger as I've put on weight since then. Thank you though :)

depends on the length on you, the weather and availability of fake tan!

good luck