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DP has thrown away my handbag

37 replies

underthevalley · 11/05/2012 01:22

DP has just informed me he has thrown away my handbag. :( he has always hated said handbag. According to him it had got old and worse for wear (which is probably right) - still think he has always had it in for the bag.

So I think this gives me the go ahead to buy a new bag (I'll be in Hong Kong so he can have no say in it at all)

I already have a 'work' one so I would need one for normal things. Preferably on the larger end of the handbag scale and pockets on the inside. Something that would make a bit of a statement would be good.

Could you lovely ladies inspire me?

OP posts:
startail · 11/05/2012 01:49

Leave the bastard

A man who notices a woman's hand bag is clearly gay.

thriftychic · 11/05/2012 07:40

my dh wouldnt notice what bag i used if i bashed him round the head with it ! which incidentally is what i reckon your dh deserves ! He has no right chucking your stuff away no matter how much he hates it!
let loose on a few of his things and then buy yourself the most expensive bag you can find Wink
sorry , dont have any suggestions for the bag though other than the one i am planning to buy which is this www.oushka.com/shop/details/225/22/spring-collection/felix---ginger.html

mumto2andnomore · 11/05/2012 07:46

He threw away your hand bag ! I would be fuming ! Does he make a habit of throwing away things which belong to you ?

AmberNectarine · 11/05/2012 08:18

I'd get a Balenciaga giant city or a Proenza Schouler PS1. Might see if I can get DH to throw out one of my handbags as justification. Appreciate they may be a bit over budget though Wink

whitelillies · 11/05/2012 08:27

Maybe have a look at the handbag porn tread for some inspiration. Smile
Happy shopping!

startail · 11/05/2012 08:33

Honestly my total hopeless DH hasn't the faintest idea what clothes he owns. Drives me mental.

I know he can't remember which bag is mine and which is DDs.

I only have one it's a nice black leather JL one. She has various cheap Primark things. She has a nice brown leather one, but she can't get a huge paperback* in it so gave it me.

  • DD1s criterion for hand bags, normal teens want mobile phone pockets, she wants books and knittingHmm

Non of which helps the OP with finding a very nice £££ bag for her errant DH to purchase.
I don't know anything about bags except my DSIs had a lovely large Fossil one for her 40th that she really likes.

Eliza22 · 11/05/2012 09:47

Does he realise what he's done??!

Yes, you must buy a new one but, I've got handbags from Florence and Venice. Beautiful soft leather and timeless design. If my dh EVER binned one of them, there'd be hell to pay.

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underthevalley · 11/05/2012 10:01

He has always hated the bag. Thought it was disgusting, over the years he has also hidden it from me many times. (thankfully it didn't cost a lot - bought it when I was 17- my first proper handbag :( )

I guess he noticed it because he hated it so much (And no not gay startail :) )

I am angry but I'm now thinking a couple of grand on a new one (can come out of his motorbike fund, hee)

And mumto2 umm usually only my underwear - he culls it regulary

OP posts:
peasandlove · 11/05/2012 10:46

he's a control freak. I hate a few things of my DP's but I would never throw them away

HecateTrivia · 11/05/2012 10:50

Handbag? usually your underwear (use of usually suggests there have been times when it is other things) That is unacceptably controlling.

I suggest you go through his belongings and throw away lots of random stuff on the grounds that you hate it.

I bet he hits the roof.

This is not about a handbag. You do realise this, don't you?

He has no right to throw away your belongings because he doesn't like them. It doesn't affect him if you have a bag he doesn't like, or a pair of knickers that he doesn't like, or a top he doesn't like.

StrawberrytallCAKE · 11/05/2012 11:04

Mulberry Del Ray out in a week or so and much bigger than it looks in these pictures.

Original poster
underthevalley · 11/05/2012 11:31

Ohh that is lovely strawberry

He throws the underwear away because they are 'tired' (I won't throw them away ever if he didn't. (is only if they are too strained or elastic has gone- not if he doesn't like them)
And he has never thrown away anything else.

OP posts:
KatieScarlett2833 · 11/05/2012 11:36

I perform much the same task for DH underthevalley

At my last desperate burning session cleaout, I counted DH T Shirts.

He had 97.

peasandlove · 11/05/2012 11:59

I once threw out some underpants but they were so worn out they had holes in them that looked like shrapnel. That was the only time.

dexter73 · 11/05/2012 12:09

What was the bag like? Was it really hideous or just a bit sad and old? I cull my dh's underwear and socks when I do the laundry. Anything with holes or saggy elastic goes. I don't think he is very attached to his pants or socks though!

GobblersKnob · 11/05/2012 12:14

I can't even imagine what I would do if dp was to throw out my handbag, let alone 'cull' my pants, no matter how much they needed sorting.

Is quite odd behaviour imo, very controlling.

KatieScarlett2833 · 11/05/2012 12:19

Well, I showed him the t-shirts that didn't make the cut to enquire if there were any he wished to save.

He peered into the sack, said "no" and continued watching sky sports.

AgeingFop · 11/05/2012 12:33

Oi, startail, I notice a woman's bag and am not gay! Less streotyping, please!

Trying to remember if I've ever thrown out any of DW's clothes. Don't think so, although I have suggested she chucks out things that are totally knackered.

mollymole · 11/05/2012 12:37

What a strange man. I think this is grounds for divorce, what will he do with the new one if he doesn't 'approve' of it.

HecateTrivia · 11/05/2012 13:16

So he now doesn't throw away things that belong to you because he doesn't like them, but because he's decided they're too old and worn out for you to be allowed to keep them any more?

And he gets to decide what's too old because?

Clearly you don't feel it's a problem, fair enough.

Just out of interest, what would he do if you went to his wardrobe right now and cleared out everything you felt was too 'old', too 'worn out' or you didn't like?

dexter73 · 11/05/2012 13:21

I don't think it is controlling to throw out old pants/socks with holes in.They have come to the end of their life. I throw out old tea towels with stains/holes in and don't feel the need to ask anyone's permission before I do it.

latrucha · 11/05/2012 13:40

I think that's an open invitation to buy two or three.

My DH is pretty straight up if he thinks something doesn't suit me or is too old. I like it.

drywhiteplease · 11/05/2012 13:54

Considerations op.
If my dh commented on a bag of mine I would be flabbergasted !if he trew one away I would KILL him, I seriously would and he knows that so would NEVER even think about that!

It all depends on budget though , replacement wise. I have to say I really rate TK Maxx for good leather bags at reasonable prices.
Otherwise I'd go for the Mulberry Evelina hobo personally.

HecateTrivia · 11/05/2012 15:51

old teatowels are a bit different from someone else's property though, don't you think? I'd chuck out old teatowels but I wouldn't throw out my husband's favourite pair of shoes that I'd been saying I hated for years and been trying to get him to get rid of and then claim I'd done it cos the soles were worn out.

It's not a 'leave the bastard' moment Grin but it is controlling.

dexter73 · 11/05/2012 16:01

Well someone up the thread said it was odd behaviour and controlling to throw out holey socks/pants so I was responding to that. I think a tatty tea towel is fairly equal in status to a holey pair of socks.