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OK, people, listen to me, You Can Wear What You Like To A Wedding.

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AkhalTeke · 10/05/2012 10:19

Really. as long as you aren't in jeans, or your jammies, it will be fine.

There will people in black

There will be people in white

There will be people in trousers

There will be people in stuff so odd that you wonder if they've ever been to a wedding before, or even seen a picture of one.

And no-one will really notice or care what anyone else is weasring once theu've had a few drinks.

Really, wear what you like it will be fine

OP posts:

MissFoodie · 10/05/2012 10:38

cocolepew · 10/05/2012 10:38

I still think it would be bad manners to wear a bridal dress.

nomoreminibreaks · 10/05/2012 10:41

Are you sure? I went to one where, for the evening do, a lady changed into pale yellow cropped skinny jeans, flip flops and one of those vests with rips all down the back...

dexter73 · 10/05/2012 11:59

You want to go to a French wedding as there will be people there who look like they have just finished the gardening and didn't have time to get changed!

GrimmaTheNome · 10/05/2012 12:05

I'd agree except for one thing. The photos. A badly-judged wedding outfit leaves evidence that could haunt you for years. OK if you're a friend or cousin who can hide at the back of the Big Group, but not if you're close family.

So, you need an outfit you're happy with now but one which isn't likely to look totally ridiculous in 10, 20,.... 50 years time. Unless you're game to give future generations a good laugh.

Karbea · 10/05/2012 12:21

True, you can wear what you want, however the title of this topic is "style and beauty" and you won't be stylish at a wedding wearing White unless you are the bride.

MrsLettuce · 10/05/2012 12:23

Yes absolutely, almost anything is absolutely fine as long as you've got the confidence to carry it off. Supreme confidence shows through, even in photos, I think.

Posting to ask if something is 'alright' for a wedding would tend to indicate a potential lack of confidence and sensitivity about what's 'allowed'...

pocketandsweet · 10/05/2012 12:24

my favourite post of the day....and I wouldn't dare give anyone advice what to wear. Last one I went to I ended up wearing an unremarkable blue wrap dress and a pair of ill advised jewelled flats from Boden that made me look like a Greek evzone ( google their footwear if not familiar).

MrsLettuce · 10/05/2012 12:24

Most outfits, misjudged or otherwise, will have people giggling in 10, 20.... 50 years time. Such is life.

StrawberrytallCAKE · 10/05/2012 12:27

A friend of mine wore a sarong to my wedding.

WIBU to put dd in a Disney princess dress for an upcoming wedding (complete with crown and gloves)?

MrsLettuce · 10/05/2012 12:29

YWNBU, IMHO But, a proper princess dress with gloves and crown would be fabulous. She'd remember it her whole life!

There's a thread about a nephew in a batman suit at a wedding somewhere. Was a great hit IIRC.

hazchem · 10/05/2012 12:34

strawberry when I get married a hope the young guest come in their favorite outfits Princess, PJ what ever they like!

notyummy · 10/05/2012 12:37

I know entirely where you are coming from OP, however I think some weddings come with a set of expectations (some real, some in a nervous guest's head) about what is suitable to wear. And it is harder for women than for men. A lot of weddings I have been to have stated on the invite 'uniforms, lounge suit or national dress as wished' or 'morning suits'. That's the men covered then..... (BTW, I realise women wear uniforms too. But they are statistically less likely to - and may not wish to wear them to a wedding. I know I didn't when I was in the RAF. Any excuse for a nice frock )

If you are naturally vibrant and confident then you can pull off the realisation that you are mammothly over dressed or underdressed with an insoucient shrug and an extra glass of wine. But some people would dread being in that position.

StrawberrytallCAKE · 10/05/2012 12:38

Ooh, where do I get a proper princess dress?

I felt the same haz not sure the wags at this one will.

MrsLettuce · 10/05/2012 12:40

Yes noyummy, my point excactly. But better made. tbh i don't think anyone like that would ever ask anything much on S&B.

GobblersKnob · 10/05/2012 12:42

Of all the weedding I have ever been to I have never been to one where anyone really cared what you were wearing, though naked would probably be pushing it. People have only ever cared that you were there and that everyone was having a good time.

MrsLettuce · 10/05/2012 12:50

Strawberry - there are loads about, just did a very quick google. here - here - here - ebay as well, surely?

I do like the idea of reversible for when they smear filth all over it, like a real princess.

gregssausageroll · 10/05/2012 13:18

People wore jeans to my wedding but then it was on the invite that it was fine. I did get married at one with a bouncy castle and BBQ though.

I totally agree. Wear what you like and what you are comfy in. People who dictate don't get my company on the day.

gregssausageroll · 10/05/2012 13:19

Got married at home that should say.

GobblersKnob · 10/05/2012 13:30

My Mum got married in white denim bell bottoms, but that was the sixties and she was super cool.

Pinkglow · 10/05/2012 13:38

Someone came to my wedding in a pair of jogging bottoms and a mickey mouse jumper no idea why she did it as she ran away everytime there was a group photo so alas I have no evidence.

She was a work collegue of DH so I didnt know her really but she really stuck out.

lancelottie · 10/05/2012 13:40

DB and partner once went to a wedding in wetsuits.

notyummy · 10/05/2012 13:46

My mum got married in a pink VERY mini skirted suit. With pill box hat and net. It was quite, quite amazing, and her legs looked awesome. Not sure what my strict catholic nana thought . Interestingly all the guests in the photos I have seen were in dresses and suits, so not that relaxed really.

Thing is, if it says 'jeans' on the invite then that is obviously the atmosphere that the bride and groom want to have for their day and I would obviously go along with it. If it doesn't then there is no way I would show up at a reception in jeans, so I don't really go along with 'wear whatever you are comfortable with, it will be fine' thing. Generally I think people want to signify it is a special day by dressing up. For some people this means trousers and a nice top - for others it is posh frock and hat - both either way they have made an effort and not stuck on the jeans they wear to go to Tesco's in. When I got married for the first time (many moons ago) my friends who came were really, really skint. On the dole etc. I never asked them wear anything in particular, but they went to charity shops and bought themselves suits/dresses (students so didn't own any formal stuff) so they felt like they were making an effort to make the day special.

Helltotheno · 10/05/2012 14:17

Hear hear op....

I've been to weddings in hideous outfits or, on one occasion, an outfit that could've passed for a work outfit because I only knew about the wedding at v short notice. I don't give a rats really especially since a lot of the couples have split up now so I doubt there'll be too much future photo-watching!

I tend to keep it generic now with a knee-length (or sometimes maxi) dress but I will wear pretty much any colour except all-white cos white doesn't suit me.

Helltotheno · 10/05/2012 14:18

lol at the wetsuits . Was it in a waterpark?!

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