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DD (14) wants belly button piercing - would you say yes?

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ThatVikRinA22 · 03/04/2012 16:42

my thinking is that its her body, and in the great scheme of things its not that bad, (i would have felt quite differently had she asked for a tongue piercing for instance....on that i would say NO) Plus i absolutely do not want her to sneak off and get this done behind my back....not that i believe she would. She is well behaved and not a difficult teen by any stretch.

i had booked her into a tattoo/piercing parlour, but when i arrived there was a sign on the door saying they were closed today

so, thought i would take the opportunity to find out what others think and ask those with pierced belly buttons if they regret it?

cheers

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AgathaFusty · 03/04/2012 18:07

Some info here about piercings migrating (growing out) here

ToxicToria · 03/04/2012 18:08

I went behind my parents back and got mine pierced at 12 and never had any problems with it, although I have taken it out in the last few years

EverythingsNotRosie · 03/04/2012 18:10

Check school policy- all piercings including a belly button one are forbidden due to health and safety where I teach. She may just be told to take it out!

McQueasy · 03/04/2012 18:24

Hiya, the growing out thing is a real possibility. I started off with a normal bar (the size 10-12mm like all the ones in the shops are) and at 18 had to order 6mm bars as the piercing had moved forward iyswim.
I wish I had waited as I couldn't get it redone due to the scar and none of the pretty ones in the shops fitted so I was stuck with the same one all the time. Hth

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ThatVikRinA22 · 03/04/2012 18:27

Thank you, I'll show her this, growing out is obviously s real risk.

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Henwelly · 03/04/2012 18:39

My body rejected my belly button piercing, same thing as growing out but has nothing to do with growing iyswim.

I had it done three times and each time it was fine for about a year and then my body pushed it out!!!

I have a nasty butterfly shape scar now, that said I loved my belly button jewellery and would have it done again if i wasnt such an old gimmer sporting a slightly flabby belly!

Toddle · 03/04/2012 18:45

Mcqueesy. I guess yours went the same way as mine and funny you should say I also went down to 4mm bars i think. As you said they don't look that great and I also only managed to find one. So I was sat with tons of pretty bars I should have been able to use.

I've sent pictures so I guess she should be able to see what it looks like and tbh if that doesn't put her of nothing will . They are honestly disgusting.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 03/04/2012 18:49

Thanks toddle, I'll check if pics came when I can prise laptop off DD, I'm on phone at min.....

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Toddle · 03/04/2012 18:59

Very welcome just don't hold me to account for any adverse reactions to the horrific sight.

I would also suggest you eating tea before viewing

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whackamole · 03/04/2012 20:50

I'm not sure. I guess it would depend on how mature my daughter was.

I had mine done at 16 and it fell out and healed over before I could get another one in. I have a scar now. However I had my tongue done at 21 and still have it :P

LtheWife · 03/04/2012 22:14

BME, a well regarded body modification site, have a section on their wiki regarding navel piercings that includes links to the risks (along with photos).

There are unfortunately often issues with navel piercings migrating due to general growth so it's perhaps not a great idea at 14. I'd suggest both having a chat with a piercer at the studio, if they're reputable they'll be more than happy to answer any questions and discuss risks etc.

GrandPoohBah · 03/04/2012 23:28

I would say yes. I got mine done at 14, with permission from my mum, and it's still absolutely fine, 13 years later. Of course there are risks. There are with everything, but at least this way you can ensure that she gets it done somewhere clean and safe rather than her finding somewhere that'll do it despite the fact that she's underage.

SchrodingersMew · 03/04/2012 23:36

I had mines at the same age and don't regret it.

I say let her as out of the fair few piercings I have had through my teenage years that one hurt so much I screamed the place down, it just might put her off.

But, as has already been said there can be lots of issues with navel piercings mainly due to where they are, rejection, infection, recurrant inflammation, hypertrophic scarring, easily caught in clothing. Also make sure if she gets it done it is done with the highest grade jewelery possible and don't have acryllic balls or other parts as acryllic breaks down and can enter the blood stream.

Tranquilidade · 03/04/2012 23:47

My DD had hers done at 16 and it has been fine.

Having said that, there is a piercing place in town where the guy is an "expert", advises police and all sorts of stuff. We went there, had advice from him, researched it more, she decided, I went with her and drove them mad checking everything was sterile and all is still good 5 years later

Birdsgottafly · 04/04/2012 00:28

I let my DD have hers done at 15, i lied about her age.

If she was going to get it done, i wanted her to get it done at a good piercing place, over the school summer holidays, to allow it to heal and i wanted to be with her so i knew the care instructions.

At just under 16, i let her get her tongue done, again i was with her and around to look after her.

Neither her or her friends who have had their parents supervision have had any problems.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 04/04/2012 03:12

Thank god she has seen sense, left to her own devices she's decided to wait. thanks everyone for your input.

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alwyn · 04/04/2012 12:00

Got mine done at 15, no problems (it was gammy for a while as it healed but settled down). I still have it now and I'm planning on keeping it throughout my pregnancy (once I get pregnant!).

I think a piercing is a fairly harmless method of self expression (at least it isn't a tattoo!).

As long as you make her look at all the facts, she can make her own decision. If she doesn't like it, she can always take it out!

The3Bears · 04/04/2012 13:06

I had mine done at 14, didnt cause a problem. I dont wear mine now and the skin has stretched there because i've had a baby other than that its fine.

When I had mine done my friend wanted hers done and her mum didnt allow her, she did it HERSELF! and caused alot of problems not saying your dd would do that I think my friend was just v imature.

YaYaOC · 04/04/2012 14:45

I had mine done at 14, behind the backs of my parents because I knew they would not agree. The place was a dodgy back street with tons of other underage kids. Despite this I looked after it properly and I still have it now and it is absolutely fine. When I had my nose pierced at 17 my dad came with me and checked the sterilisation processes as well as other facts which I tried to ignore at the time as he was embarrassing me. Looking back I definitely regret the way in which that I got my belly done, and would much prefer to have done it with the permission and support of my parents like with my nose.
It may be a peer thing. If lots of other girls her age are getting it done then she may want it to fit it. Piercings are better than tattoos in which they can be removed.
If you are comfortable with it then I see no reason not to let her. But let her know it is a big step, there can be complications and it hurts like hell!
I would also ask their policies on sterilisation etc

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