I am a natural size 8-10 and have been all my life until I moved to Asia. The lifestyle and no home cooked food sent my weight up, then daily sickness in first pregnancy made me eat loads of stodgy and sweeter things (plus we lived above Singapore's best pizza restaurant) and I ballooned. My mother came out for the birth (she was early and 5 lbs, I put on 40 pounds
) and was genuinely shocked--and she didn't hide her relish in telling me....
I lost a lot quickly, but fed for ages and I felt that I couldn't lose the last bit as I was too hungry.
A few years later, breastfeeding, another (sick) pregnancy and tandeming a bit and still feeding I am a 6-8. I can't find clothes to fit in M&S.
I eat, but not to excess. I never, ever snack unless it's fruit or sticks of veg (or an oatcake. I drink minimally (with the odd night off) and then only red wine/champagne.
I eat a smaller amount of carbs than I used to. Scrambled eggs and one slice of toast, half the amount of rice I used to have.
Half the plate of any food I have is vegetables. I eat my own body weight in broccoli ("sadly" my husband says)
I drink a tall glass of water before eating any meal
Lots of soups.
All the food I cook is home cooked (breakfast, lunch and dinner) so I can see what goes into it. I don't use any low fat anything. I bake cakes once a week but give them away to neighbours (now am DO sound like someone with a disorder!)
I do no exercise at all, but my NEAT is high because I've never had a pram and use just a sling ad feed and nap the baby in it. I walk locally and rarely use the car and am moving throughout the day all the time.
Small changes, nothing drastic. There is no food I won't eat, but I do keep an eye on what goes in.
Learn to live with being peckish. You're probably more thirsty than hungry and it's worth having a drink first. And no one died from not having a large lunch, or a few veg crudités and some hummous (mine today)