This is too blingy, isn't it (US/UK).

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DH and I have lived in the US, DH is from there and we've been there loads over the years (got married there etc).

He got me a four-stone ring for valentine's day. I already wear a five-stone band, which is my wedding ring. I hardly ever wear my engagement ring but the four-stone band is curved so it only works against my engagement ring.

So for this to make sense I would need to wear the new four-stone ring and the e-ring at the very least, and I'd want to wear my wedding ring too, and it... it is too much.

It wouldn't be too much in the USA I think(!?).

Should I send back the new ring? DH will be REALLY SAD but it's too much money for something I wouldn't wear very much.

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Frankly if I had your long fingers and those fab rocks I'd wear them every day!

I don't think it looks too blingy but I would probably wear one of the rings on another finger. I wear my engagement ring on my right hand as I though it looked a bit daft to have all my rings on the one finger.

Nice ring. Couldn't you just wear it on the other hand and that would solve the problem?

I think each ring is really pretty individually but a bit much altogether, you can't appreciate the beauty of them all. Also it looks like you have little hands and with that comes shorter fingers, if the 3 together are almost up to your knuckle, not sure from the pic, then yes it is too much.
Having lived in the US I agree it would be the norm.

Is there any chance you could wear one on your other hand instead? or rotate them weekly?

It's fine -- you just have to get use to it. Enjoy the present.

Unfortunately my right hand's fingers are a full size bigger than my left hand's fingers or I would totally do that!

I actually have very stumpy fingers and the fact that the whole bottom joint of finger is BLING makes me feel selfconscious/a bit silly. I think I'd only wear them for 'dress' occasions and there doesn't seem much point in having the new ring for that.

DH thinks I should keep it and I'll 'wear it more' once I'm used to it/when we are in the USA. Which might be true but it's a big spend and it might not turn out that way and we only have 3 weeks to decide if we want to keep it.

He is also miffed that his big romantic idea isn't getting the reaction he hoped for

I am a right scruff though and it's a rare day when I wear any rings!

I think they look lovely together, better together than the sum of it's parts, if you see what I mean! Go for it, it'll soon feel normal.

well you've just shattered my illusion of you being some glamourous woman who flings the bling around daily!
Would dh settle for exchanging it for earings/necklace/bracelet?
oh don't tell me you're wearing all those already too?!
am going to skulk off in a fit of jealousy now
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Nice stealth boast! I think they look gorgeous together and am totally !

All rings are gorgeous. Wear with pride but . . . . .

..... tip I was given (by an American!) is to turn the rings inwards if you're wearing them out on the street - it makes you less of a target for thieves and pickpockets.

I swear I am not trying to stealth boast! I am very british about it and hardly ever wear them in case people think I am boasting! Ridiculous! I swear that sort of bling isn't unusual in the USA.

ruby don't hit me! I have earrings I wear every day (just little studs), and hardly ever wear necklaces - I do have a little pendant I wear when I do, though. But I am a complete mess - no makeup, glasses, asda jeans and mumsnet haircut!

A tennis bracelet wouldn't get much wear, DH bought me a silver/cz one to see how I got on with it and it kept getting tangled in my scruffy jumpers and just wouldn't get worn ever.

If the S+B girls think it's not too ridiculous a prospect then I am easily led!

A close relative (American) had similar problem; she had a cubic zircona copy made to keep instead, something she could dare wear daily & not feel desperately frantic about losing or damaging.

I think it looks great. My engagement ring is massive (7ct Tanzanite and 1ct diamond accent stones) and I had to have it altered so my wedding band fit underneath but if that couldn't be done, I would have just worn one on my right hand (ps - most peoples' dominant hand comes up a full ring size larger - perfectly normal).

I say force yourself to wear it everyday for the next 3weeks - if it still isn't working for you then swap one of your rings over to another hand - you could even have the new ring changed into a set of diamond drops (stud in ear with stud droplet) if you really couldn't handle a new ring. But don't get rid and don't leave it in a box.

Aw thankyou! I feel better about the prospect now (oh no, shiny things )

mrsmartin the problem with wearing one on my r hand is that the four-stone band is curved to fit the e-ring so they'd have to be worn together, so I'd need to get them both sized for my right hand and that would feel/look odd to me, and the five-stone is my wedding ring and that would feel very weird on my right hand but maybe I should just get over it already.

How lovely to have a 7ct tanzanite! Tanzanite is so beautiful, I have a teeny tanzanite ring and just love the colour and the idea of it coming just from that one place.

I am pretty set for earrings - I have a pair I wear everyday which I can very rarely be bothered to swap out, and a sapphire/diamond drop set much as you describe for 'dress'.

I will wear it every day for the next three weeks. Might keep a log of the comments I get - it shouldn't bother me but it does!

I get all sorts of comments about my e-ring but I only ever wear stud earrings and my e-ring was my first ever piece of jewellery (bar the crappy stuff for nights out). It is very special to me - I had to pick it because left to his own devices DH would have bought me a diamond solitaire and would have got it from somewhere like earnst jones and got right royally ripped off! Mine came from gems.tv and I love it (not least because of the romance of the tanzanite story). Anyway - I meant you could get the new ring remade - it wouldn't cost alot to have it turned into a right hand ring and you could buy a loose gemstone (pick your fave) and turn it into a 5 stone ring (you could get a tanzanite, morganite, another sapphire - anything).

I will admit - I have a diamonique ring from qvc for when I go on holiday/camping. Although my rings didn't cost alot, they are worth a fair bit (emotionally and financially) and I couldn't bear it if I lost them.

Ahhh - right. I think I'd be more inclined to send back the 4-stone and get a rhr seperately - I would worry that it'd just be another ring I don't wear though (I have a couple of rhrs including aforementioned tanzanite). I usually just wear them on my left ring finger if I wear them at all.

Part of me thinks I'll wake up one day and want to wear my jewellery more often though - maybe do my hair and stuff as well. I am more like that in the USA (lame I know), so maybe DH is right and I should keep it with the longterm in mind.

Oh keep it! It is beautiful, they look lovely together and you don't want to put your DH off making such lovely romantic gestures! I am sure once you get used to wearing them together you won't even notice they are there. I wish I had this problem :o

Also it makes it much easier to dole out future heirlooms...goodness knows what will happen if I have more than 1 child - 1 gets the tanzanite and then what?!!

I better hope and pray I give birth to an emelda marcos with a passion for vintage...(current shoe collection is about 550pairs - probably = 7ct tanzanite now but in the future when it is no longer mined - better start buying more shoes now!!)

keep it no matter what - diamonds aren't exactly rare but prices are still going up so it would be difficult to replace if you ever wanted to go for that look.

From what you wrote, I was expecting something ghastly. Instead I see from the photos it's very pretty and classic!

I think they go well together and it's a lovely romantic gesture. It's obviously more ring/bling than you are used to but I agree it would be completely normal in the US. I would say don't worry about the cultural differences and just enjoy the ring. But if it really makes you unhappy, try and make a nice ring for your other hand from it so that DH isn't too offended.

i'd keep it, it looks lovely, you will soon get used to it. I recently became the owner of a big diamond engagement ring, i never wear rings after a couple of months i don't even notice it now unless someone comments usually when i get my nails done.

If you send it back your husband might not bother again thinking he can't make a good choice.

Beautiful

I don't think it looks too blingy at all. I think the current trend for stacked rings make it look v classy - I think if they were more spread out then it'd look too blingy and tacky, but all together like that I think they look stunning. A similar look to having one big cocktail ring iyswim - although it's clear they are separate, it's a statement look. And not massive anyway, not compared to Eurotrash sized rocks.

Okay, I'm willing to be convinced! Will wear it every day for a couple of weeks and see how I go.

Will make me feel I need to take better care of my nails though :)