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Am I being cruel?

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AbsofCroissant · 20/12/2011 17:19

Probably, but anyways.

I am getting married next year, in June, in the South of France (so not a cold place) and it's a religious wedding, so was thinking of getting feather capes to go over the bridesmaid's dresses (so they're covered up for the ceremony, and can then do whatever they want for the reception).

Was thinking of something like this, but for adults, obviously. Would maybe also do the same to my flower girl (who's ten).

If this is unreasonably cruel, what would be a less mean coverup?

TIA.

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Hopefully · 20/12/2011 17:21

Not necessarily cruel (although I wouldn't exactly be impressed with it if I were your BM), but hot, surely? Can you not do the safe-bet pashmina, tied so it stays in place?

Hopefully · 20/12/2011 17:22

Or, indeed, cardigans?

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AbsofCroissant · 20/12/2011 17:25

Yeah, could do pashminas, they're just so ... every day ish. and I don't think cardigans are formal enough unless you start getting into sparkly cardigans which could go horribly wrong

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FritziGreenEyes · 20/12/2011 17:27

What do the bridesmaids' dresses look like?

MerylStrop · 20/12/2011 17:28

I think it would only be fair to give them options

You could get a nice sheeny pashmina or a cape

Bridesmaids, especially grown up ones look weird all totally identical.

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AbsofCroissant · 20/12/2011 17:30

well, that's a whole other world of pain (my bridesmaid's are on a different continent, so will have to coordinate somehow. ARGH) but I'm thinking something like that in midnight, so a bit of a 1920s ish vibe. Possibly.

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MrsCampbellBlack · 20/12/2011 17:30

Its a bit bhs meets narnia.

Yes what are the bridesmaids dresses like . . .

FritziGreenEyes · 20/12/2011 17:32

abs That is a lovely dress! Can I be a bridesmaid, please?
Stupid question, but: Wouldn't your bridesmaids be covered up enough in that type of dress? Shoulders and knees are covered.

MerylStrop · 20/12/2011 17:32

lovely dress

i think the cape will look too wintry, especially with dark blue frocks, in france in june

some sort of little lacy cape or bolero?

pashminas/light and gauzy wrap things in different colours maybe?

MrsCampbellBlack · 20/12/2011 17:34

Lovely dress and agree with Fritzi that I'd have thought that was covered up enough.

If you do really need something - how about a sort of embroidered shawl

snowmummy · 20/12/2011 17:54

I think they'd look all wrong in summer.

smartyparts · 20/12/2011 17:58

I'd be mortified if you asked me to wear that! Strictly for girls under 8, imo.

Hopefully · 20/12/2011 19:01

Beautiful dresses! but the cape things are totally wrong for them.

BloooCowWonders · 20/12/2011 19:02

Def no good for June!

mrsalwaysawake · 20/12/2011 20:16

Another vote for 'you don't really need one, do you?'.

snailsontour · 20/12/2011 21:24

HellsBells - awful! Why pick bridesmaids at all if you hate them so much!!! This for the South of France in June? Hmmm, change venue to the North Pole.

JingleBelleDameSansMerci · 20/12/2011 21:27

Lovely dress. Ghastly cape thing...

lenga01 · 20/12/2011 21:47

The dress is lovely. What about something like this www.comparestoreprices.co.uk/ladies-fashion-tops/dorothy-perkins-grey-beaded-cape.asp

I'm thinking that it would be lighter and not as hot as the feather one.

nicknamenotinuse · 21/12/2011 07:32

what a beautiful beautiful dress by the way, no advice about what to wear with it but what a beautiful dress you've chosen for the bm's. I'd like to be one of your bm's please.

Hassledge · 21/12/2011 07:39

So the covering up need is more to do with respect etc in the Church than keeping warm?

I agree that the fluffy thing looks a bit Narnia and way too wintery for the South of France in June. Could you find nice floaty scarf/drape things?

Zondra · 21/12/2011 08:22

The dress is beautiful.
The marabou cape I actually do like the idea but, not in South of France in June! Sorry!

I really love lenga01's suggestion. Just gorgeous.

EnjoyResponsiblyIfSleighFlying · 21/12/2011 08:27

With those dresses ( v lovely) wouldn't bother with cover ups, you will still have part of that v back on show with a cape.

Special plea if you insist on them please refrain from tied pashminas that is a truly hideous look.

ditavonteesed · 21/12/2011 08:30

dresses are gorgeous, cape are awful.

HazleNutt · 21/12/2011 08:33

Those capes would be nice for January wedding. South of France in June is roasting and your bridesmaids will look like wearing woolen hats to beach. the dorothy perkins one linked would be suitable.

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AbsofCroissant · 21/12/2011 09:10

Yeah, I was thinking it's too much - beaded cape.

It's not for a church wedding, synagogue.

that's only an initial thought on dresses - I have no idea. I was thinking of saying to the BMs that they can choose whatever they want, in the same colour, rather than try to order dresses in the UK, get the right size etc.

Er, and snailsontour - really? "why pick bridesmaid's at all if you hate them so much"? Really? I think you should get out more and look into your anger issues.

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