I am going to a ball - I got the dress (I hope) but am stuck on accessories - please help me I don't do formal

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This is my first ball and I am going stag as dh is staying at home with the kids. Though if he came I would only have to listen to him complain about the music, refuse to dance and generally be a pain - so better off without him. Nonetheless I really need to feel confident in how I look if I am a lone cinderella iyswim. So...

The dress = this

But as I am an 18 I probably going to need some kind of shrug?? and a bag and shoes - I don't actually own any heels and I am assuming a pair of maroon doc shoes are not going to suffice or even my best party silver birkenstocks!?? See I don't do formal I have boots with a heel and that is it. I am 5'8" and dh is shorter so I tend to stick to flats. My feet are large (probably an 8 in heels and wide as well) so it is hard to find girly shoes to fit.

So please guide me I am without a clue....

my head is mashed - I am watching a zillion dresses on ebay - but with no real enthusiasm as I am no longer confident that they will fit/ look nice/ not be stained or otherwise damaged and therefore need returning (have had to return two so far both were not as described).

I want to give up

Ok, can't get on pc to have proper look, but I did get a nice midnight blue Grecian type dress from the Very website once. Jersey type flowing fabric, so encompassed giant bosom. Have also had lots of dresses from tk maxx- try their website?

Is rubbish when dress no good and plan goes out window, but don't despair.

Love the colour of this one, would be great with your norks if you have the right bra? Teal dress

That is a lovely colour - thank you salad

www.fullcircleuk.com/Rebecca-Waterfall-Strapless-Dress-PRODPKAW31/

I have fallen for this dress but it probably wouldn't fit and is too casual and I am too old and norky but I really like it .... Probably as I could see myself wearing it more than once.

I have just come from your aibu thread and yanbu but I feel your pain as I too have big clompers and big norms.

What about these?

www.longtallsally.com/tall/shoes/heels/bow-front-kitten-heel/cuppaccino?category=s-095_shoes

With this? Stretchy so will fit and some pull in tights will be flattering.

www.longtallsally.com/tall/dresses/maxi-dresses/stud-shoulder-jersey-dress/black?category=s-013_dresses

Other than that what is your budget and are you looking for long/ arms etc?

Or something like this? Depends on how formal but coast and monsoon are generally ok for sizes.

www.coast-stores.com/NOLITA-DRESS//-/fcp-product/2334349970

Ohh and I like this - with the black dress though..

www.coast-stores.com/ELLIE-BRACELET/All-Accessories/coast/fcp-product/2819138998

And this is pretty if you still want blue

www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10001_10001_54510+201503355_-1?breadcrumb=Home%7EWomen%7EOccasion+%26amp%3B+evening+wear

Only looked at stretchy so you know it will definately fit and v neck flattering for larger chests

Oh now my DD has woken up so no more window shopping for me!

Thank you bubandbump I just ordered the phase eight dress will see how it looks (crosses fingers)

Just saw this www.peacocks.co.uk/product/index.jsp?productId=5387141&cid=EMAIL:NEWSLETTER:WEEK31:03_11_2011 - a bargain

I think black or gold accessories would look fab and compliment the royal blue colour perfectly. With such a plush colour I don't think you should be looking to introduce any new colours except perhaps, if they were introduced via a pop of colour in an evening or clutch bag. Maybe some earrings like these? Very statement in the right way and they are a great investment as they will go with loads of things.