Help me PLEASE, wedding today.

[WhereTheWildThingsWere]

Well tonight, evening do.

May I first point out that I am a twat and do not need anyone to point out my twattery.

I hate any kind of socalizing, am crap at 'having a good time' in any kind of party way, I don't do it and avoid it like the plague. For some unknown reason, months ago I accepted a wedding invitation from someone I don't know that well, but do really like.

Right so it's an evening do, tonight, I think in my head I was planning to cry off, but I just can't bring myself to do it, she has been so lovely, invited the kids, sent them their own little invites, it's a seated buffet, so there would be four empty places, can't not go.

I have nothing to wear, the invites says 'cocktail' when I accepted I did point out to her that I don't really have anything along those lines and she said 'not to worry, it won't be posh, wear whatever you want, we would just love you to come'.

Right so I have

A pink and orange flower print maxi dress, which does really flatter me, but nothing to wear over it, except a long waterfall cardi in a very light linen cotton mix, the same pink as the dress.

or

Super long super wide black trousers with an embriodered cream pattern, that I made myself for a previous friends wedding.

I could wear these with a twist front black top, which is a smidge too small or a glam jersey short sleeved top from boden which is bitter chocolate in colour.

I have nothing to wear on my feet, bar flip flops or furry merrell boots.

I can spend maybe £15 to make something from above work.

Please don't suggest I just stick something new on a credit card it is not an option.

If it matters I am 5.10 12-14 (neared the 14 atm) blonde.

Thank you for reading and please help.

Wear your maxi dress and waterfall cardi and spend the £15 on some ballet flats - any supermarket or TX Maxx if there's one nears you will have them. You're lucky it's a sunny day (well, it is here anwyay) so you can still get away with the summery dress.

Enjoy it, you might like it.

Do you have no shoes with a slight heel? The black trousers and top with your hair up and a heel would be glam enough.

New Look or Peacocks or maybe tesco will kit you out with a pair of heeled sandals which would be fine with either outfit you've mentioned. Don't wear the top that is too small - you'll be self concious.

I think you do need some shoes. Is there a primark near or a supermarket?

something like this?

MrsMilton ballet flats good idea, what colour? Do they need to match the dress?

And no nothing, with a heel, feel too tall, I am not joking when I say I only have Havananias and Merrells.

several in sale here

Christ no sassy, I would walk like a man in drag, I have literally never put a heel on my foot, I fear feeling ultra self conscious at a wedding is not the time to start

I do have Primark and all major supermarkets within very easy reach.

Ballet flats then - go nude. Got some leather ones in Accessorise couple of weeks ago for £20 or New Look have loads of pairs around the £15 mark.

Hadn't thought of nude, will that definately work with such a bright dress?

also pop into the local charity shops - it may be your lucky day!

Primark have millions of ballet flats. I would go there first.

I would maybe buy something quite neutral rather than matching to the dress as you would never wear them again probably. It's hard to say what colour without seeing the dress

Oh they still have it in clearance, it's this dress in the pink.

Ooh, that'll definitely look glam enough. I wouldn't get shoes to match, but something nude or brown.

Ok being size 12-14, 5.10, with that dress, I don't think you have nothing to worry about...

think you can easily put sandals and pretend you were not expecting a cold day today (at the end of the day, it was summer a couple of weeks ago) I suppose the reception is indoors so once your are there, it doesn't matter.

The dress is lovely. You will look lovely, hope you have a great time.

Ballet flats will go really nicely. I think a neutral colour would work really well.

Really?

Yes, reception is all indoors at a hotel so should be warm.

Should I wear the cardi or just shiver on the way in?

www.newlook.com/shop/womens/shoes/leather-tassel-ballet-pump_227371618
I think they would work. You'll be fine. Go and have a ball!

Wear the cardi, it sounds fine. Take it off when you get in.

That's a gorgeous dress - take the cardi - you'll look fantastic

Thank you so much everyone, have gone from wardrobe panic to feeling much calmer.

Off to shop for ballet flats.

Just seen this - I see you are off to search but I would agree that ballet flats would be perfect, maybe gold or silver?? Your dress is lovely and it's so nice to wear colour to a wedding. Def take the cardie - I like them and think that I'm fairly stylish!!

So lovely that it means so much to your friend to have you there - I hope you have a brilliant time, let us all know tomorrow!

Wear the cardigan, being cold is very miserable.

Hope you got some shoes

This is way too late to be useful, but just wanted to say that I think that dress will look just right. Hotels are generally very warm, and a pair of ballet flats will finish it off, and come in handy more generally .

Thank you some more to the latecomers Managed to get some £4 brown ballet flats from Primark. Nearly managed to get £2 sale ones in the exact colour of my dress, but i couldn't squeeze into a 6 Stupidly nervous, I am so crap at this kind of thing. Off to prepare.......