DP gone out, I have my credit card... time for online shopping

[OnlyWantsOne]

where would you recomend shopping onlin?

I had my very long hair cut 2 weeks ago in an attempt to cheer myself up. I walked out and burst into tears. I have a very short square bob and square fringe. I loon like mystic fucking meg. Hate it.

Oh fuck

I was going to say the same, try and treat yourself to a hair cut/bit of beauty pampering to help you along with feeling a bit better. I understand- I am same height as you and was similar size before and after having my baby. Try to be kind to yourself though- your little daughter is still so young and you are still you and ARE lovely looking.

how about this dress i have www.monsoon.co.uk/all-dresses/winnie-frill-dress/invt/85319325/

i'm a size 16 apple, the ruffles didn't make me feel bigger and hid my wobbly tummy, i wore it with tan heels and a tan bag, didn't have the heels on for long had to change into sparkly flats. It was a good length on me, i put a safety pin in the front because i was worried about bending down to my toddler but have worn it without the pin when without children.

not good. Can you pin up the sides to make it more interesting? Sort of twist them round to the back.

I know exactly what you mean, I had a dreadful bob a few years ago and it made me look awful.

i just bought the bobbi brown gel eyeliner too - don't wear eye makeup usually had lots of comments, just wore that and curled my lashes, the eye brightner concealer is very good too.

Augh I third the bob experience last February and I was just . Mine was uneven to boot and I had to get a bit extra trimmed off a month later to even it up . . . ! Wear extra eyeliner -- try the one Laurie suggested or maybe MAC "Industry" would be good with your eyes. Fluff up your hair and remember that in four months it will be as though the cut never was. Dangly earrings help!

I may go back and see another hair dresser

Now trying to think of reasonable excuses I can give to get out of going.

I came on here to cheer me up I'm now on the sofa crying my eyes out feeling terrible.

ah, fuck

That's really shit when you're so attractive. No chance you're a bit depressed?

probably

god i need wine

wish DP was home so I coudl!!

Get thee to the docs for some anti-d's/counselling then as honestly you're still young, extremely attractive and an average size for your height - you're really, really not as fat as you think you are.

On a frivolous note I'm having swarovski crystals applied to my toenails next week as a local salon is doing a sale - I've never had one but they're going to apply 500 crystals to my toes - think it will look fab! Would that sort of low-key fun be your sort of thing?

i saw my gp this week, she made me feel about an inch high - i wanted to talk to her but couldnt. DP doesnt understand. He thinks he does but he doesnt - just says "i know, im sorry what can i do" but doesnt actually do or say any thing. i am so utterly fucking lonely and tired

i dont know whats wrong i dont feel like me i dontwant to see any one or talk to any one i just want to sleep

You are most definitely depressed given your symptoms and your gp will be able to help you - but you have to tell her what you're feeling - what about your health visitor?

Anti depressants will lift your mood enough so you can talk to someone - at the moment you're trapped.

sorry

For heavens sake - you only had a baby less than a year ago, give yourself a break!

You will, eventually, be a size 8/10 but don't put your life on hold until that magical day happens when you can get your old jeans on.

See a different GP or your HV. If you are too embarrassed to tell her how you feel write a letter explaining your feelings. You may well have PND (I am no expert) and you can and will feel better but it will take time.

I had PND with DS1 and if I could build a time machine I would go back in time and give myself a hug. I was so critical of myself when I should have tried to be kind to myself.

It does sound as though it could be PND. ADs are good short-term. Exercise is good -- at least for me, and especially when it's hormones doing it (supposedly helps with estrogen balance I think?) A few years back, going through a tough time, I remember just plodding along on the cross-trainer at the gym mentally chanting a version of a Buddhist prayer over and over: "May I be well. May I be safe. May I be peaceful and at ease. May I be happy." It did help.

Depression can be very hard for people like your DP to understand if they have not experienced it themselves.

You are young and gorgeous and you have two lovely DCs. You will feel good again.

Gah-X posted and can see things have moved on since. You are describing pretty classic symptoms of depression- trying to explain things to a doctor can feel very difficult, especially if they are not supportive. I once wrote down how I was feeling and took it in for a doctor to read (when I had depression) because I was so nervous about discussing it. Please book to go and see another one at yr practice if there is one. I'm sorry you're feeling so low.

how do i explain things to dp?

im quite happy on the outside but some times feel so low and anxious it hurts.

i just want to buy some thing magic to make myself feel better. think if i bought some thing lovely id solve the problem of this stupid wedding and everything will be better again

Just wanted to post that I think you are totally gorgeous! Be kind to yourself, your little one is only 7 months. I was like what you are now but have been on anti-d's and the difference they have made has been amazing. Plus I was size 16 until my youngest was 13 months, and it was only then I felt I had the emery and motivation to do something about it!

Maybe talk to your GP before you try to explain to your DP?

Regards DP I think he genuinely doesn't know what to do or say. I don't even know if there is any thing he could say. But he feels pretty helpless. And then turns it to me and says " do I fail you / am I a failure" so I end up going " no of course not etc etc" and comforting him.

Ok, I am roughly your height and size, and have just bought a dress that makes me feel really good, tho technically shouldn't! It is by Mint Velvet, "paw print dress"; sounds vile, but seems to disguise my bad bits and feel glam. Can't link on phone, but google- I got mine on sale at very. Flats or maybe wedges, if heels no good. Hope helps.