My dad just commented on my weight......! :o(

[MoonGirl1981]

I'm a size 12/14, 5'4" and actually happy with my size and shape.

Lost a lot of weight a few years back and it REALLY didn't suit me (drawn face, deflated tits, dry skin and hair) so I put achunk of it back on.

My weight can fluctuate over a month but never more than a few pounds. Have been comfortably wearing the same jeans for years and never change clothes size. Just that sometimes something will be loser or tighter than the previous time I wore it.

My mum has been making me a dress for a wedding I'm going to soon and I rang today to ask how it was going and was asked by my dad if it would still fit as I'd put on a lot of weight.

:(

Er, no I haven't. New dress is being cut from exactly the same pattern as a dress I was wearing last week!

My parents love making comments about my weight (was reduced to tears frequently when I was pregnant by my mum's comments and she hated that I didn't lose my baby weight immediately after I gave birth) and she spent my childhood telling me I was fat - I wasn't, I developed boobs and hips early but my weight was fine. They both have issues. My mum has serious issues with her weight and my dad picks on her constantly about it and puts her on 'diets'. It's absured.

Anyway, despite looking in the mirror and being happy (I design and make a lot of my own clothes and love getting dressed in the mornings) it's put I real downer on my day. I had plans to go out and see a friend but now I just want to sit here and cry.

:(

Sounds like they are projecting their own weight issues onto you. I know it's hard to do, but you must ignore them.
My mum doesn't make comments, but she always buys me clothes in XL size (I am 14/16). They tend to go straight to the charity shop!

Oh dear!

My best friends' parents are like this. Her mum in particular has massive issues about her daughter's figure and my friend believed all the nonsense that her mum spouted and regularly starved herself (she has a fantastic figure and had no need to lose any weight).

The moment of epiphany came when the proud Grandma started commenting on her 3 month old grand daughter's fat tummy!
Suddenly my friend realised what her mother had been doing to her all her life and determined not to let her do it to her dd.

For what it is worth, your parents have issues and they are projecting their own insecurities onto you. Ignore them.

Put on something fabulous and figure hugging, go and meet your friend and have a fantastic time.

Ha ha X post Minnie but we have proved the point I think.

Don't let them ruin your day - go and see your friend and have a lovely time. I can totally understand that it has put a downer on you but it is their issues with weight that is the problem and not you.

Thanks guys! I needed that!

Stupid bloody parents!

xxxx

I feel your pain.I was also an early developer and was told from that the age of about 14 that I "would be lovely if I only lost 1 stone"-by my mum.I had an amazing figure then(slim,long legs,big boobs) but was constantly trying to lose weight.
My mum has major issues with weight.She was always slim herself(we actually have exactly the same build though I am taller) but had a tummy tuck(due to stretch marks) and nearly died.She thinks anyone over a size 8 is fat. One of my sisters is this size and my mum always goes on about how amazing she looks.My sister is genetically lucky-she takes after my dads side who are all tall and very naturally slim. My other sister is slightly larger(18/20) and my mum has basically made her feel shit about herself all her life to the point where I now think she is actually staying bigger just to spite our mum.
Please do not allow your parents to make you feel bad about yourself-they are the ones with the problem,not you.