....what on earth do I wear to my mothers funeral?

10 replies

StarryEyedMama · 07/05/2011 22:01

I'm hoping you style queens can help me find something appropriate to wear to my Mum's funeral next Thursday. I'm 5ft and size 18 but normally buy size 20 as I like things loose! My sister thinks we should wear something colourful but I don't want to wear something inappropriate. I was thinking perhaps a black trousers, black top and then maybe a colourful scarf?

Would really appreciate any advice!

TIA

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bustersmummy · 07/05/2011 22:02

No style advice, but sorry for your loss

fearnelinen · 07/05/2011 22:05

So sorry for you loss.

How about this it's a bit dull but looks comfy and you can wear a colourful shrug with it?

fearnelinen · 07/05/2011 22:06

Sorry, I didn't mean dull, just, you know, sober.

unwillingpuppysitter · 07/05/2011 22:06

My sympathies too.

Wear what you are most comfortable in - not just literally, obviously, but something you are comfortable is appropriate. I am sure you have more to think about than what to wear. Black trousers, black top and a colourful scarf sounds perfect. I hope the day goes as you would wish it to.

fedupandfifty · 08/05/2011 20:47

I wore a black trouser suit to my mother's funeral, with a scarf over it (pashmina sort of thing) in a muted lilac. Underneath I wore a long-sleeved t-shirt in a bright colour, with a big necklace. I took the jacket off for the "do" and looked okay - still respectable but not too black. Hope everything goes well.

madammecholet · 08/05/2011 21:24

Wear something your mum liked seeing you in.....

Moodykat · 08/05/2011 21:38

I wore a black suit with a BRIGHT pink tee-shirt under it and some beautiful purple kick ass heels that you could only really see flashes of but I knew they were there! My mum loved shoes and bright colours! I would wear whatever you feel comfortable in and if there is anything personal you can add in for you and her then do so.

Sorry also for your loss. Its shit isn't it? (understatement)

ggirl · 08/05/2011 21:43

how about this navy dress with brighter accessories

KristinaM · 08/05/2011 22:00

I think your suggestion of black with bright scarf etc is perfect

the problem with a whole bright outfit is that some of the older generation might think its in approrpriate and be a bit shocked. also you might feel uncomfortable as most people will wear smart dark clothes

i attended a funeral of a woman in her 50s. She was an artist and loved bright colours, especially red shoes. her Dh wore a red button hole and tie with dark suit and lots of younger women wore red shoes with a dark outfit.

i didnt know her at all ( colleague of my DH) but thought it was a lovely touch. and those who didnt know to wear red didn't feel uncomfortable in ordinary funeral outfits

hope that makes sense

TimeForCake · 09/05/2011 08:34

Definitely something you are comfy in, it's a difficult day for you so you don't want to wish you'd worn something else. My sister and I decided we didn't want to wear black - personal choice- and instead she wore an outfit Mum loved on her and I wore her favourite colour. Your idea of the colourful scarf is lovely, maybe you could pick out the colour somewhere else too - a bracelet/necklace as well??
I hope you get to share lots of lovely memories, even though it will be a sad day. This really helped me.

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