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Wedding 8 weeks after giving birth....should I get organised now??

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LisMcA · 14/02/2011 16:01

We have been invited to a wedding 8 weeks after I am due to have our PFB in April :o (wedding is Mid June)

I'm usually really organised and have an idea of what I want to buy before going shopping, but not sure about this one. Should I start looking for something now?? And should I be looking at maternity stuff or "normal clothes". I have not idea how quickly I'll not look pregnant!

I'm a 16-18 pregnancy and so far have only put on 10lbs (31 weeks)[pride emoticon] so I should be too much bigger than before hopefully.

Any advice or suggestions welcome!

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UC · 14/02/2011 16:12

If I were you, I'd look for something like a wrap around maternity dress - after 8 weeks, I wasn't back in my normal clothes, but wasn't totally in maternity either.

Legacy · 14/02/2011 16:17

Things to consider:

  • Will you be taking the baby with you (I expect so, at just 8 weeks?)
  • Are you planning to breastfeed? If so, this will affect what you plan to wear.

Also consider that the baby may be up to two weeks late, so may be only 6 weeks!
You will be tired, hormonal and probably not feel your best/ like socialising much!

Agree that a comfortable, stretchy sort of dress might be best?

Also, hate to suggest worst-case scenarios, but I had an emergency Casearean, and after 6 weeks wasn't wearing heels, couldn't drive, and found anything other than the loosest clothes really uncomfortable!

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LisMcA · 14/02/2011 16:23

We are taking the baby with us, but he is not invited (thats a whole other thread, but my sister is coming to stay in the same hotel to look after him when we are at the ceremony etc)

I am planning to BF, so will need "easy access". Cripes, I'm not looking forward this now! Maybe I'll just send Dh on his own!

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whoneedssleepanyway · 14/02/2011 16:34

Lisa, I went to my brother's wedding when DD2 was 3 weeks old. I was in a serious panic about this beforehand and kept telling my mum and dad "you do realise there is a serious chance that I won't come".

I ordered a Phase 8 wrap dress in the end on line (shopping with a toddler and new born was not an option) in a 12 (am normally a 10) and it was fine, probably wouldn't have chosen it to wear to a wedding normally but it was great and provided discrete but easy access to feed DD2.

I actually really enjoyed the wedding as I was so dreading it being a nightmare that when DD2 pretty much slept through the whole thing enabling me to talk to people and eat the meal, I was very pleasantly surprised.

I have never worn the dress again as it is too big now but got it in the sale for a relative bargain so wasn't too bothered, so I wouldn't spend too much if I were you.

Hope you have a lovely time.

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LisMcA · 14/02/2011 17:09

whoneedssleepanyway - Thansk for the Phase 8 tip! What do youthink of this

I don't normally look at Phase 8 but they've got some nice dresses!

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TobyLerone · 14/02/2011 17:12

To be honest, I'd be tempted to leave it til a couple of weeks before. The shops will be full of wedding-y dresses by then, and you'll have a better idea of how you'll look.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 14/02/2011 17:17

Lis it is very do-able. We went to a wedding when DS was 6 weeks old, looking back I think Shock!

I wore an empire line maxi dress with big knickers underneath which was very forgiving on the post-baby figure.
The dress had a cross-over neckline which I could easily pull to one side to feed - and I wore a 'normal' bra rather than a nursing bra and just hoicked a boob out because I couldn't find a nursing bra that was low enough in the cleavage, they seem to assume that you don't want to dress up ever if you are BFing Grin
I addressed any modesty issues by having a pashmina which I just draped over us both.

I wouldn't actually recommend a wrap dress, for the simple reason that it will cling to all the bumps that you will inevitably have 6-8 weeks post-birth! (non-pregnant I am a similar size to you).

salander · 14/02/2011 17:18

I went to my sisters wedding when ds was only 2 weeks old. I wore a wrap around dress from Isabella Oliver which was perfect as i was feeding. Think wraparound definitely the way to go but like others have said would wait a couple months to order. Good luck!

SingingSands · 14/02/2011 17:20

I took DD to a wedding at 6 weeks, can barely remember it! I remember breastfeeding in the car, was wearing a skirt and top rather than a dress which made bf easier. She was fine, lots of lovely ladies willing to hold her and I got to eat from the buffet in peace (first time in 6 weeks!).

I think we all had a lovely time, hope you do too x

salander · 14/02/2011 17:20

X post - my wraparound was baggy enough to miss all the bumps!

whoneedssleepanyway · 14/02/2011 17:22

I agree with what Alibaba says about wrap dresses but unusually the one I got from Phase 8 wasn't jersey but was stiffer material, i think it was cotton but kind of like what a shirt might be made out of so wasn't too clingy.

That dress you link to is nice but not sure how easy it would be to BF in, I literally waited till I had had DD2 and then trawled the internet until I found a few possibilities.

DownyEmerald · 14/02/2011 17:25

I went to a wedding when dd was 5 months and that was bad enough. There was a room for bf but it was also the room for the band backstage! On the way back I discovered I could breastfeed while dd was in her car seat and I was belted in - but leaning at an uncomforatble angle.

I wore something awful because really didn't have the time or inclination to take dd shopping.

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